I’ve been thinking of this post for most of the week and trying to think of wording it the right way. I guess to me, it comes down to either being nice to someone or telling a little white lie that won’t hurt a soul. So what is it that you do?
Let me try to explain “kind of” what I’m getting at. If someone say LOVED a movie and you weren’t really wild about it, would you say you didn’t like it or would you just say you thought it was good too? Me, if I knew someone who was all excited over a good book or a movie that they loved, I wouldn’t rain on their parade. I’d say I thought the book or the movie was okay too. What does that hurt?
MIND YOU, I’m not saying if they asked me first if I liked a book or movie before they spent money on it. I’m talking about after that fact. After the fact that by saying I hated the book or thought the movie was dumb would maybe just hurt them or take away the joy of it for them and I see no purpose in that.
Now, lets talk other things. I have a couple of TV shows that I really enjoy. I have someone in my life who will ask how I liked it the day after it’s on and will then go on to tell me how dumb she thinks that show is. Why ask me then? Why tell me she hates it if she’s going to ask me about it? Just let me like the stupid show and if you don’t care, don’t ask me.
I have found with people who don’t know me in real life that this really bothers me all the more. I think if someone is “joking around” and they really know me, it’s easier to take than strangers just trying to tick me off or are just being nasty.
Last Monday our Vikings played Green Bay on Monday night football. It should have been the most fun game of the year for us. Especially having Brett Farve this year. I mean this state was electric for this game. We were all psyched out and could hardly stand the wait. We had our Viking clothes on and had snacks and pop ready. I go on Facebook to talk to everyone. To my dismay I see how many of my “friends” were telling me they hoped the Vikings would lose and how they hate Brett Farve and how they are Packer fans when I know they aren’t! I read that Brett Farve is OLD and shouldn’t be playing. I wonder if they even saw the game cause if he’s old, I’ll take being old any day. Then I had a few “friends” telling me the Vikings suck FOR NO REASON and you know what, all these people really hurt my feelings. I mean what’s the point of this kind of thing? To just try and ruin the game for us or wreck our fun? Some years we don’t even get a Monday night game but to have one with Green Bay under these circumstances was beyond anything we could ever have imagined and yet some people had to be real jerks and I wonder what the pay off is for them. To just be mean and nasty??? Is that it??
I will tell you that I don’t love all your guy’s teams but I’d never tell you they suck or I hope they lose. I would wish you well and give you a high five if your team wins or a “better luck next time” if they lost but I’d never shove your face in it or tell you I hate your team or a book you liked or a movie or anything that excited you. If you are my friend, why would I want to bring you down or hurt your feelings?
What kind of person is it who’s always putting your stuff down in the name of “honesty?” Is being honest more important that being nice? I’ll tell you another thing. I lost a lot of respect for quite a few people this week for the behavior and the childish things that have been said. I just find that there are times when it’s just best to keep your big fat trap shut and if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all because it sucks to have your feelings hurt over something that’s important to you and the meanness is just so unnecessary.