I absolutely HATE bullying of any kind. Bullying is so mean. Teasing is also mean but I feel that for the most part, teasing is meant as “someone likes you” because if someone doesn’t like you, they won’t waste their time teasing you.
I was bullied as a child and I was really scared of this boy. He used to come when my girlfriend and I would swing. Oh this girl had the most wonderful swing. I think of it often. All it was, was a piece of wood tied onto a nylon cord type thing but it was hung SO HIGH and we could go up so high. I can still feel it when I close my eyes and concentrate on it. Well, this boy used to come and make us get off the swing. We would hate to see him coming. He was two years older than we were and I’m guessing I was 8 or 9.
One day we saw him coming and he started his rumblings, saying mean things, trying to make us give up the swing. I’m not sure why we never told anyone because after all, it was in my girlfriends backyard, but we never did tell on him. I didn’t want to give up the swing that day. I WANTED to swing. He wouldn’t stop so I got off the swing, took it in my hands, wound up with all my might, and threw the swing at him. Oh my, it hit him right in the head. I swear that I never meant to hit him with it. But, he fell to the ground for a second, got up and ran away. He never came there again nor did he ever bully us again.
But I was so afraid of him that for the rest of my childhood, I searched constantly for him no matter where I went. What I didn’t know or find out until years later was that he was afraid of me!! Oh my…the wasted scaredness!!
But we hear horrible stories now about bullying and it’s gotten so far out of the realm of how it happened to me and even my own boys. The Internet saw to that. Read this article and let me know what you think. http://www.connectwithkids.com/tipsheet/2006/312_dec20/thisweek/061220_cyber.shtml
Young parents, what are your plans? Do you think about this? Has it happened to your children and if so, what did you do? I would be terrified if my boys were young now and I had to deal with something this big.