I had never given this a second thought until I had kids and my mother brought it up to me. If I had somewhere to go and didn’t want to bring the kids, I would just phone Grandma. If my daycare lady phoned in sick during the work week, I would phone Grandma.
WELL, did my eyes ever get opened up. I was told by my mother that she was NOT a built in babysitter just because she was Grandma. I did not at any time ever intend for her to feel this way but she did. So I stopped everything totally. Now we only go there as a family to visit. The only time the kids will go over to Grandma and Grandpa’s house is IF they phone and invite them over. I did not realize I was doing this or making my parents feel this way. So now I’m very cautious as to how much I ask my in laws to babysit. I don’t want to make them feel this way.
Has anyone else experienced this?? Have you ever been told from your parents or in laws that they are GRANDPARENTS ONLY????