So, I really want my girls to know that I am there for them, NO MATTER WHAT. I am always asking them if there is anything they need to talk about and how their day was. I hope that when things get rough, they will come to me for advice and to just get things out.
Well I found out after saying it over and over again for 16 years, it finally paid off!!! My oldest came to me and needed to talk. I could tell this was going to be a mother and daughter time with no interruptions. She was very emotional. The conversation started with “Mom, I have a friend who is pregnant.” She is 15!! She knows I will listen and try to help as I went through this. I have first hand experience. We talked for a long time. The girl has not told her parents and has only told my daughter. She doesn’t want anyone to know. She took 3 pregnancy tests and they all came back positive. She told the boyfriend, who in turn asked her, when she was getting an abortion?!?!?!?
I want my daughter to help but I feel this girl needs to talk to her parents. I told her to tell her that we would help in whatever way we can but she needs to talk to someone in her family whether it be her parents, aunt etc.
Any advice??? She is friends with this girl but it’s only been for a few months. How involved should my daughter get?? I just don’t want her to get to involved as she will try to help at all costs. I want her to help but she needs to realize that this girl has to take and make the majority of the decisions and responsibility for her actions. I don’t mean that in a bad way, it’s just I’m scared my daughter is going to get really caught up in this. I told her to keep listening and be good friends but as far as responsibility goes, it’s up to her and the boyfriend and their families.