This is what the dictionary says: gos·sip 1: a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others 2: a rumor or report of an intimate nature b: a chatty talk c: the subject matter of gossip
I have known gossip to make a grown person cry and feel so bad they are ashamed and embarrassed. They got so humiliated they didn’t want to go to work. Gossip to me is a lot like bullying. Every time the story is told, it changes in some way. Whether a word was added or a word deleted. A sentence changed or elaborated. Haven’t we all played the “telephone” game where we sat in a circle and repeated what we heard and by the time the end person repeated it, it wasn’t the same as what the first person who started the game said? We all know people this has happened to and really, it’s very sad. So why is it done? Why do smart, seemingly educated people resort to this kind of thing?
I have done it. I’m not proud of it but I’m not going to lie. I can say though that I never meant to hurt anyone. I’m just not a mean person but I have repeated something that I had no idea of knowing if it was the truth or not. You know “water cooler talk.”
But is it the same way for example if one of my daughter in laws has a problem and I talk it over with the other one? If I’m concerned over what to do, if I’m worried. If my brother is having a problem and I talk to my dad about it. Ask him for advice? My mom will tell me something and say “don’t tell anyone, I don’t want them to think I was talking about them?” I once talked to someone out of concern and it got back to the person and they got mad at me for “talking about them” and I wasn’t talking bad, I was concerned over what to do. If anything.
So is CONCERNED talking about someone to someone you know and trust, the same as gossiping?