I am getting so sick and tired of hearing people say what’s wrong with Jason. Nothing dammit! Just like my last post says leave me alone. I’m also getting sick of people in glass house’s throwing stones. I’ve come to my mid life crisis early in life. I don’t know if it’s so much of a crisis as it’s a lifestyle change. I’m at a point in my life where I’m not 21 anymore let alone 18. I don’t act, talk or party like that anymore, I’m done. And if you don’t like it piss off. I don’t have to, want to, or will I defend my reason for doing something, to you or anyone else. My life no longer revolves around up coming parties and beer bust’s. I have two goals in life, better my career and be the best family man I can be. So many years walking through life just getting by just doing enough to get the job done. I used to be able to, stay up and drink, knowing the next day I could punch in, leave the parking lot and go sleep for breaks and lunch. Now I’m in a warehouse in charge of babysitting so many people just like I used to be. I control the inventory for every appliance smart in the country. One in Compton, Two in Texas, Five in Atlanta and Four in Ohio. Oh we also have five stores here in MN and three more opening. Oh, and we are loading the MN state fairgrounds for a sale. Oh, I almost forgot we have our two million dollar tent sale coming up on the fourth of July. I’m so sorry I can’t devote all my attention to putting a smile on my face and saying what a beautiful day. What’s wrong with me? What’s wrong with you? So many people say “my husband doesn’t do anything with the family, he’s always at the bar, he’s always fishing, hunting whatever”… next time you look down to the end of the bar and see the empty stool or the empty spot on the couch at someones house party you know where I am, at home. Trying to spend every second I can around the four people I kiss goodbye every morning before I go to work (two of them are four legged).
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You shouldn’t have to explain yourself or come up with an excuse to not want to party or hang out with anyone. If they are your true friends than they would not hassle you, put you under a microscope. Oh no Jason isn’t smiling as much as he did last time, oh no Jason isn’t as talkative as he was last time! Give me a break. Actually give Jason a break my god!!! So he doesn’t plaster a smile across his face for you, get over it. Has he always been like this? NO! So why make a big deal about it. He is going through a MAJOR life style change. On Tuesday Jason had a softball game and you could cut the tension with a knife when you walked into the bar. It felt like they had just been talking about him. Maybe they weren’t I don’t know. But it sure felt like it. Now do you expect Jason to be in great mood after he walks into that? No! We just looked at each other and said WHATEVER!! I love our friends don’t get me wrong but they all need to stop because if anything they are making it harder for Jason to be in a good mood. Give him time he will be back to normal just get off his back!! Friends are supposed to support you not push you when you’re down…right?
I was explaining to my grandmother the other day why I couldnt give out her avon books to my “friends”. Because I no longer have many friends. She said,”Thats ridiculous! What about all your friends you had in highschool” Highschool was 10 years ago. I grew up most of them didnt. I’m in a different place in my life than they are now. I am often the one people ask “whats wrong with so and so”. Nothing is wrong with me. My priorities have changed. Thats it.. I think its for the better…
Friends??? They don’t sound like what I consider a friend to be. What does it mean “Oh no Jason isn’t smiling as much as he did last time, oh no Jason isn’t as talkative as he was last time?” Who in the world says things like that?? Man, if your in a quiet or bad mood, so what?? Boy, I’d hate to be so judged by whether I laughed or talked or smiled. A lot of times I walk around with my head in the clouds and I’d hate it if someone thought I was crabby. Knowing me, I might not have even seen them. Sometimes I’m in my own little world.
I have a very easy suggestion for you? Skip the bars and skip “house parties” where you feel like this. Your not up for “display.” Who made any of these “so called friends,” your judge and jury????? I’ll tell you one other thing, if I walked into a bar, room, whatever, and I knew everyone had been talking about me, I’d have left and most likely would never go back. Do you think I’d let some “small little bar fly” discuss me?? A bunch of drunks?? Think again. I’m much better than that. Let them have their own little narrow, judgmental minds. I had my feelings hurt one night at bowling and “Lucky” for me, my back went out and I never went back and I won’t bowl again. It lost the fun for me. Cat fights,???? Leave em to the cats.
You know what this sounds like to me Jason?? Your growing up and your friends aren’t. I’m proud of you and yes, your life has changed the last few weeks/month FOR THE BETTER and if you have these kind of people on your back, get rid of them. These kind of people are NOT your friends and they aren’t good for your marriage or your life. Let them sit and get drunk, let them wallow in the small town gossipy bars. You have Nikki and you have Bailey and now you will have SELF RESPECT.
Was this answer long enough for you???? 🙂 🙂
You’re right we do grow up, and Jason and I aren’t saying we don’t value our friends and love them, because we do very much. We have a good group of friends. They just need to respect the fact that his life is changing.
The fact that you are going through this means you are moving forward and perhaps leaving less-motivated folks behind. You will always find plenty of friends as long as you have integrity and basically like people. Sometimes it’s better to not be bogged down by “fair weather friends” when you are busy trying to make a huge transition. You are doing the right thing by focusing on the things that will be important for your whole life. People who truly value your friendship will give you some time and space, then make an effort to find common ground again. The rest? They will stew in their juices until some new distraction comes along. Don’t worry about it.
HEAR HEAR TIREDMOM!!! Good for you. This is what’s happening I think with Jason, he’s growing up and he’s outgrowing what used to be his “friends.”
I feel like mama LION right now that Jason has changed so much for the better and he’s getting treated like S**T from “so called friends?” I want to punch them in the nose!!!!
His REAL friends will still be there in a month and all these so called others, won’t be. Good riddance to bad rubbish!!
Maybe you’re right Joy. We both have a lot to think about.
All of these comments are really going to help us. THANK YOU!!!!
If this was Bailey, how would you feel?? That’s how I feel. ME-POWERFUL-MOMMA-LION!!!
I have to agree with everyone above. If these are your true friends they wouldn’t be talking behind your back or giving you shit. They would sincerely ask you if everything was ok and lend a hand if need be. It’s hard to change and leave people behind that you thought would be there forever, but sometimes it’s for the best. You have come so far now why let your “friends” bog you down? We are all proud of what you’ve accomplished and maybe it’s time to re-evaluate all aspects of your life at this moment.
I would be pissed if it were happening to bailey.
And I’m pissed it’s happening to Jason. I stick up for Jason 100%. Him and bailey are the most important people in my life and hate that he is being hurt like this. It is up to him to decide if he wants to continue to play sb with these people. I will stand behind my man all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jason, that was really good. I think that is great how you say you’ve changed things around for your family and yourself.
Yes I agree with you all, being a true friend means accepting the person completely, understanding them, and only talking about you in total concern or in good words.
Luckily, most of Eric’s friends understand his wife is first, family second, and then friends. I’ve had friends not understand that also, but that shows me they are not true friends.