I feel most of us know people who are like this. Bossy and always telling other people what to do. I always wonder why people think they have a right to tell anyone else what or how to do something. Unless asked of course.
In some normal conversations when you are talking to someone, venting maybe, you aren’t always asking for advice, you are just talking. What makes that other person feel they have to “fix” it for you? Offering suggestions when you didn’t ask. Or if you are doing something, why would someone point out to you that you are doing it wrong? What makes certain people feel like they can tell you “how much soap to put in your dishwasher?” My mother told me one day “I wouldn’t use that much soap” and it made me feel like I was 10 years old and I just dumped a bunch more in! I’ll show you I thought. I’m 50 years old and I’ll put as much soap in MY dishwasher as I want. Thank you very much!!!
Or if someone is having a problem and I’m talking to someone about it and they say “it’s all thier own fault”, they should do X, Y and Z. No talking things over, just being judgmental and overbearing and yes, bossy!
I have told my kids what to do in their lives but only when they lived with me. Since they have both been living on their own, unless they ask me for advice or my opinion, I keep my smart alack comments to myself. It’s none of my business what they chose to do. Jason called me one day a few years ago and said to me “guess what I got” and I had no idea, he said “it’s something I could never had gotten if I lived in your house” and I thought “oh dear lord no, a motorcycle!!!” But I never said that. I said “oh, I’m so happy for you.” I didn’t want to rain on his parade. Why would anyone? Just because I HATE motorcycles, that is not my choice.
So, are you a teller of everyone what to do????