Do you share an email address with your significant other? When I first got the Internet my girlfriend asked me for my address. When I told her Paul and I were just using the same one, she seemed disappointed. I told her he wouldn’t ever use it anyway so what difference would it make? I had no secrets to keep so I didn’t feel like I needed my own.
What I failed to realize was when she wanted to write to me, she didn’t necessarily want my husband reading what she wrote. She told me she wanted to write to “me.” She asked me if he would open mail delivered to my house that was addressed to me and I said of course not. She then said, “right, so why don’t you just get your own email?” It would be the same thing.
Once she put it like that, I did agree that mail written to me, was personal. It wasn’t that I had anything to keep from my husband but I was not giving my friends or family a way to write to me that was private just for me. If my friend is ticked at her husband and needs to vent to me, she doesn’t need or want my husband reading it. If she’s having a problem, she doesn’t need the whole world or all her friends husbands knowing and reading about it. I guess the same goes to anyone that just needs to vent, they want to do it to the person they are writing to and not that persons spouse also.
I do know a few people who are always “watched” by their spouse and have had to “sneak” a separate email that their spouse doesn’t even know about just because it caused problems. Personally, I find that’s a problem in itself. But, that’s just my opinion. So, I do have my own email address but it’s not private by any means. My husband I guess just doesn’t care about my little personal drama’s and if someone writes to us both, I print it out for him. We use my email address for everything, he just doesn’t write to anyone so it’s easier for me to keep track of things. I’ll go one step further and bet he doesn’t even know what his email address is or how to get to or check mine.
So I’m wondering if everyone has their own email address and why.