American dream

I think about this quite often. I don’t know why. What is your American dream? Is it baseball and apple pie? Freedom to do what we want or the right to bitch when something doesn’t go our way? To me it is coming home from work to my white picket fenced in yard. The black lab chasing the tennis ball my son hit across the yard. And walking in to a clean house with the smell of Folgers gourmet coffee and dinner filling the air. I know it’s different to everybody but that’s my dream that has become reality. I’ve always wanted to have my own family to come home to every night and wake up to. I guess that’s my dream and I guess a really long answer to a question of the day. I’ve always wanted to be a dad and a husband. My second biggest fear was not finding somebody. I was only a kid but dumb things scared me then. The number one fear was death but that’s another post all together. So who’s living there dreams and who’s still trapped in cartoon land?

P.S. I don’t have a white picket fence. Someday…


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15 Responses to American dream

  1. Tosha says:

    I feel like i’m stuck in cartoon land and everyone’s getting the joke but me.

  2. nikki says:

    I think everyones American Dream is different. When I think of The American Dream I think of baseball, Labradors, cut green grass, fire works, red,white and blue. I think about the privileges we all have and probably take for granted. The privilege to have our own opinions. I now some of those things are slowly being taken from us but when you think of all the 3rd world countries, we have it pretty good. I’m living my American Dream, watching my son play with his black lab, playing down at the lake, watching my son and husband play baseball. Oh and sitting on my in laws deck with a drink in my hand watching the kids in the pool having the time of their lives!!! Everyone has their own interpretation of what the American Dream is, I just hope they are living it!!:)

  3. My American Dream is to live in a community where people look out for each other, care about each other, support each other’s dreams. I want a place of my own where I can collect all the books my heart desires and where I can plant a large garden with enough veggies to share.

    I want my children to have the opportunity to work towards their own American Dream!

    Good luck to us all!

  4. Joy says:

    Tosha, I’m sorry. I don’t know what else to say to you.

    I tend to agree with Nikki. I think if we are happy, we are living our dream. I know when I was raising my boys, it was the best time of my life. I was young and I was able to stay at home with them. You have to remember I was on the “cusp” of staying home versus working moms. I wanted to stay home when they were home. We had a cabin we went to every weekend. I had wonderful in laws and a very supportive set of parents. My kids had wonderful grandparents. Even great grandparents. I loved my life.

    I’m older now and I’m still as happy as one can be. I think?!?!?! LOL!! Now I’m older and the work and responsibility of raising and getting up early and getting them to all their things, has gone. When I have the little ones here now, I’m grandma and I love spoiling them. There are times I say no but that’s not often so I think when I do say no, they know I mean it. It’s so much easier to be a grandparent but I would never have given up the parenting first. I loved that time of my life and if I could go back just to do that, I would.

    But, yes, I’m living “my” American Dream.”

    Another good thought provoking post Jason. You must get it from your mothers side of the family!

  5. nikki says:

    Joy-“Trapped in cartoon land was Jack’s favorite lines in one of his songs. Didn’t know if you knew that. We’ve been listening to his tape on the way to softball. Bailey loves it!! Boy was he a dreamer, he thought cartoon land was reality!! But I’m sure you know that better than anyone!

  6. SKL says:

    My American dream is to be able to do an honest day’s work, take care of me and mine, speak out and work for what I believe in, follow my own principles and teach them to my kids, enjoy my family every day, and feel secure – all on the edge of nature.

  7. SKL says:

    Oh, and yeah, I’m living my American dream for the most part. Finding balance is my challenge right now.

  8. Joy says:

    No Nikki, I didn’t know that line. I wish I had a tape player. Dreamer is right but a dreamer that had good intentions. No follow through but he had a good heart.

  9. nikki says:

    Well when we bring out the Firebird you can listen to it. Hotrods to Hell is Baileys favorite!

  10. Ali says:

    Sometimes I feel people try to hard to find happiness and it’s right there in front of them. Instead of always “looking” to be happy, I feel you need to live your life and accept all the good things in your life and give thanks for them.

  11. Tosha says:

    Nothing to say to me really.. I don’t really have an american dream. Im certainly not living it. I live next door to my inlaws who do everything in their power to make sure everyone around them is miserable. I’ve started to ignore them and live my own life so I’m making my life better. I just don’t have “that dream” that most people do.. I strive for better every day.. I guess thats my dream..

  12. Jason says:

    tosh, life is short, it is also filled with assholes. You need to find that time and place in your life where your not going to let other peoples thoughts or opinions have any affect on yours. The in laws suck? Then tell em to piss off! what’s gonna happen? NOTHING. your husband doesn’t like it, tell him to piss off. He doesn’t care enough to consider your feelings you don’t need him. You can either be with the one you love or love the one your with. Either way quit being everybody else’s pincushion. That go’s for everyone reading this. Stand up for your self. Pain is temporary, pride is forever

  13. Sue says:

    I don’t know what my American dream is, but I’m happy with where I am now. I think part of my dream is a nice home with room for everyone and no bills! Debt free is my dream!

  14. amberfireinus says:

    I probably am unusual. I live my dreams each day. I don’t feel like I have the time to waste due to my illness.

    I live in a house that sits on a lake. I smile in the sunshine each and every day. Money is no longer an issue in our lives. I have achieved success personally and professionally. I have also achieved a happy, healthy marriage.

    Is it where I imagined myself when I was a child, no. I was a different person then. But I can’t imagine my life any other way at this point.

    I have peace – that is my dream.

  15. Jane says:

    I feel everyone’s dream is personal. We each have idea’s that we want. I am living what I wanted to be living. I love my life and what we do in it. I have a perfect (almost) little boy and a great man at my side. A good piece of land. I couldn’t ask for anything more.

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