Do you “let” your kids win when playing games with them? I usually didn’t. I did like to keep it fair and we all know that you win and you lose. Sometimes you win more than others. If I was playing cards or a game with Jason or Toby, it depended on if it was just luck, or if it was a game that involved a skill to play it. Something like a game of cards, is to me, a matter of luck. If I’d won the last 4 games and saw a chance to “let” them win, I did but not always.
I felt that kids needed to know how to lose as well as win. If you let them win always, how do they know how to handle losing? Card playing was a big part of our life with our grandparents. I know that they let us win the same way I let mine win, only if they’d won a lot of games in a row. Sometimes you can’t let someone win. It’s all just luck.
I remember when Jason was 8, their baseball team never won a single game and it was hard for those boys but they learned “how” to lose. One year Toby was on a team and they never lost a game and won state. I felt I’d almost rathered have had the losing year. Those kids got so cocky that some of them were hard to be around. Sure, as parents, it was exciting but I feel kids need to know how to win, and how to lose.
Now when playing games with the grandchildren, I hate to beat them but feel like I used to. Just for the record, it’s different with the grandchildren. I don’t know why, but it is. I just feel you need to win and lose in order to do each well. Life is about losing as well and if they never lose, how do they ever learn to do it graciously?