When is it time to say, grow up? My brother who is 4 years older than me has lived with my husband and I for Bailey’s whole life and he’s almost 8! In the beginning I loved it because he helped out and we were not close growing up at all so we were able to become close. He has had an lasting impact on Bailey, they are VERY close. They are fishing buddies and will be forever. I’m very grateful for that.
But now he is almost 32 and with a child of his own. He is obviously not with her mother anymore and that is a whole different post in itself!! I love all my nieces and nephews but I’m extremely close to this one because I have had a large hand in raising her. He lives in my basement and owns nothing. Everything he has was given to him. We even gave him the money for the truck he’s driving! I want more for him but it doesn’t seem like he wants it. Like he’s content with his life this way. He should want more for his daughter…right? I think it’s partly my fault. I do everything for everyone. I’m the one who gives Emily her bath, I feed her, I wash and make sure her clothes and bedding are clean.
So why would he want to move out? My brother stacks dirty dishes down in his room and it pisses me off and it’s usually Jason who gets the brunt of it because he happens to be there. I also have a hard time telling my brother to do anything because I’m HIS little sister and I feel weird. It’s caused Jason and I to fight and it FOR SURE has put a financial strain on us. When we moved I swore he wasn’t coming with but here he is. And now with Emily, if he didn’t live here I wouldn’t see her as much as I do now. I’m at a loss of what to do about this. I don’t want to ruin the relationship I have built with my brother and I want to continue being very close to Emily but it’s time for him to have his own life and it’s definitely time to have our life back! It’s never been just me Jason and Bailey.
So what can I do? How can we talk without hard feelings and him saying “fine, I’ll leave and never come back?” I love him but it’s gotten to be to much. So is there an easy way to talk?? We need time to ourselves and he needs his own time with Emily.