Finding enough time in a day

HELP!!!  I feel like I’m running out of time.  Things just aren’t getting done.  I don’t know what to do.  I usually get up at 6 am, get ready for work, get the 3 year old ready, say good bye and have a good day to my other 3 kids and RUN!  IF I have time in the morning, I might run the dishwasher or do a load of laundry.

Now I spend the majority of the day at work.  I get home at 6 pm.  Make supper and try to clean the house.  I have 4 kids and want to spend time with them and get homework done.  I also want to go outside with the animals, horses, dogs, etc.  I come in around 8 pm to get Emily, 3 years old ready for bed.  Back outside or clean the house.  By the time I sit down it’s 10 pm.  I’m so tired and burnt out that I don’t even feel like talking to my husband.

I don’t know what to do and I feel like I’m running on empty.

I just don’t know what’s up because I didn’t feel like this a month or even 3 weeks ago.  It just started lately.  What do I do?  What do I give up?   How do I get more time in a day?  How does everyone else juggle working full time and a family??

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10 Responses to Finding enough time in a day

  1. Sue says:

    Maybe you could start giving your kids chores to do when they get home from school. Maybe they have them already, but that’s not the impression I got from the post. Someone can pick up, someone can vacuum, someone can do laundry or dishes. My mom had a calendar on the fridge and we all rotated jobs daily. Working is hard enough and then we have to come home and do the rest of the work. It stinks, but it’s life.

  2. Joy says:

    I agree with Sue. Your girls are plenty old enough to help you out with some of these things you mentioned. The calendar is a good idea too as it switches the jobs up. My kids had chores too but I didn’t have the full day you did. I also cooked all day Sat and froze my meals and all I had to do was take them out in the morning. I couldn’t come home from work and plan a meal. I can’t do that kind of thing by the seat of my pants.

    Good luck

  3. SKL says:

    I agree with the others. If I were you, I’d tell the kids that I expected the house to be neat when I came home, and if the kids are old enough, I’d ask them to prepare dinner too, and clean up after it. As they say, many hands make for light work. They may not like it at first, but I think if you explain how you feel coming home after such a long day of work, they should at least see the justice in it.

    The other thing is that you may need to lower your standards for neatness. You can spend three times the energy keeping a house 99% neat instead of only 80% or 90%. But in reality, 80% is more than enough, and the other 20% is for people who aren’t so busy.

  4. Jennifer says:

    Oh thank goodness! I’m not the only one in this boat!

    My husband and I spent the first time in what seems like weeks…actually it doesn’t SEEM like weeks…it HAS been weeks… LOTS of them….cleaning the house today.

    Perhaps it’s a combination of the warm weather and the need to do outdoor chores combined with indoor chores as well, I’m not sure. I’ve also been faced with increased demands at work and more time from my family and lately I’ve been questioning more and more if it’s worth it because it seems like the juggling act that I have been doing for years has failed and I’ve dropped all the balls. Lately my job has even followed into my weekends making even the simple Saturday cleanup that we usually do, impossible.

    The ‘cleaner’ (we never did make it all the way through…but it’s MUCH better) house today made such a difference on everyone’s mood.

    I had someone suggest to me that I hire a maid. Someone to come in once every two weeks and do the bathrooms and mop the floors etc. I don’t know. I’d always viewed that as something for the elite….is that really me?

  5. SKL says:

    I was gonna add a couple things. One, yeah, think about a maid service for the yucky stuff. I hated the idea until I tried it. Just a few hours a month can make a huge difference in your stress and energy level. And believe me, I am an extremely simple person and I hate spending money – it’s not just for hoity-toities. You’ll also be helping someone who probably needs the money more than you do.

    Also, I noticed you said you didn’t feel like talking to your husband at the end of the day. Well, what is he doing while you are running around nonstop from 6am to 10pm? Does he need to pick up some of the slack?

  6. Finding enough time in the day is not the problem, failing to set priorities it. There will always be more to do than time to do it. In my work as a psychologist, I help clients ask themselves tough questions and the answers help them set more realistic and useful priorities.

  7. Jason says:

    KIDS. I had chores and I know I’m not the only one. Thats what they’re for.

  8. Jane says:

    We all had to help out too. My parents all tried giving us the chores we didn’t mind doing so it wasn’t that big of a deal. I like the calendar idea too. That way, it stays fair because you always have the one who say’s “it’s not fair!” My little brother was like that but he just tried getting out of doing anything. With 4 kids though, you should not be doing all this yourself.

    The only other thing you may want to consider, at least for right now would be to not work outside the home. I certainly don’t know your money situation but man, 4 kids, working full time and then coming home to all that. I wouldn’t be able to do it either.

  9. Liza says:

    I had many chores as a child and I didn’t mind them that much. It was more or less the way it was and there was no arguing about it. If we didn’t do our chores, we didn’t get an allowance for the week. I don’t think parents follow through anymore. They threaten but that’s about it.

    I also do a lot of my cooking on the weekends. I can’t come home and just whip something good up either. If I tried to do that we’d be eating to much fast good and there’s no way I’d do that. I’ve thought of getting help a few times a month but so far with only one 4 year old, I’m not in that deep yet.

    You will just have to have a sit down with your kids and explain that you need their help. They have to realize that your only human.

  10. Ali says:

    I was always feeling this way so I gave in and hired a cleaning service. They come every two weeks and do the heavy stuff. We are gone sometimes 10 hours a day and I was stressing over all the work so hubby just went ahead and did it as a surprise and I feel so much better now. It’s so worth the money. Now all I really have to do is the cooking and keeping the house tidy in between big cleaning days.

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