I’m pretty young, 24…oh okay I’m almost 28 and only have one child. Is this an open invitation to ask me, “so when are you having another?” I get it, they see or hear I have only one and then they find out how young I am and instantly, the same old question. Which I guess it would be okay if the answer was simply, I didn’t want anymore.
But the truth is I did want more, my husband, not so much. I am now unable to have anymore. I had to have a hysterectomy when I was 25 because I have something called endometriosis. Even though we probably wouldn’t have had anymore I still had all the right parts, now I don’t. Tough pill to swallow but I’ve come to terms with it. And when people asked, I used to tell them the truth, never going into great detail. But they would end up apologizing and feeling bad, so now I just say,” Oh, we didn’t want anymore” and leave it at that. I don’t want anyone to feel bad for me because I’m okay with it. I feel like I’ve been blessed to have one healthy beautiful little boy. I kinda think it’s funny now, I get asked that question often. I don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable.
Have you ever asked or been asked a seemingly simple question and feel horrible or maybe even embarrassed in the end?