Question of the day

Do you believe people can change?

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10 Responses to Question of the day

  1. Joy says:

    I feel basic personality traits don’t change but I think you can change habits. If someone is sullen or boisterous or an early or late riser, basic things I feel your born with but if you let the door slam every time you come into the house, that can change (with enough nagging), if you care to change these things.

  2. nikki says:

    Yes I agree with Joy, basic personality traits probably don’t change much. I think changing comes with growing up. And if you have bad habits especially if they affect others or your relationship, you have to want to change…it doesn’t just happen. From my own life experiences I most definitely know it is possible.

  3. SKL says:

    I think we make assumptions throughout our lives that affect our behaviors and attitudes in many ways. Once in a while, when a realization or experience disproves an assumption, the connected behaviors switch from being a reaction to being done merely out of habit, and habits can be changed with enough effort over time.

    I agree with Joy about basic personality traits. But, each of those basic traits has a positive and negative side – like, you may be fiercely loyal AND you may be unable to let things/people go. When we are emotionally secure and relaxed, we tend to exhibit the positive side of those personality traits. We can try to structure our lives so that we don’t have unnecessary stressors that bring out our “bad side.” It requires a willingness to admit to our “bad side” and to take the time to identify our individual triggers.

    For me, something clicked one day and I realized that I am supposed to pursue happiness. Somehow, previously, I’d subconciously assumed that the pursuit of happiness was selfish / immoral. Possibly this was because I was a middle child with five siblings, and most everything I ever wanted I either couldn’t have, or I had to share, or someone messed it up for me. Rather than stew over my situation seeming unfair – a thing I could do nothing about – I adopted the belief that it was wrong for me to want what I didn’t or couldn’t have. Then, even when I had means and power, I felt my own desires should come last, after I did everything I could to help people less fortunate (and you know there’s no end to that). So you see, this became the basis for many aspects of who I was, and there were good aspects to it, but it was based on a wrong assumption. Once I realized this, I became a much happier person with a healthier balance of doing for myself and doing for others. So yes, people can change, but it can’t be imposed from the outside.

  4. jason says:

    anyone can change, anything. How bad do they want it?

  5. kweenmama says:

    I’m with Jason, I think if someone really wants to change, really, really wants to change, and they put forth the effort, they can succeed.

  6. woowooteacup says:

    I believe people can change, but, like SKL, I think it has to come from the inside, rather than be forced from the outside. Outside events can have an effect, but the mental shift required for change has to come from the individual.

  7. K. Trainor says:

    I believe anyone can change…but few actually do.

  8. Tosha says:

    I think people can change but they have to want to. Some people change for the better some for the worse..

  9. amberfireinus says:

    I believe that they can change if they want to. But the change can only happen if it is in their hearts and souls. They have to change for themselves or for God. Otherwise the change will never stick.

    Interesting question Joy…. one to definately ponder on.

  10. Jane says:

    I think basic personality traits don’t change. People may want them to change but I’m not sure you can. Some things your just born like/with. Habits and behaviors I think you can change but not the real way you are.

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