I’ve heard a lot of people say “when is the time to talk to our kids” about sex or drugs? Things that are important. Things that really matter and kids have to know. People act scared to have “those” talks. Some parents never do it and really hope they will “just know”.
I can honestly say that I was never afraid to talk to my boys. NEVER. When they were little I mean. When they were growing up. I think there were times I might have been to honest. I always felt that if I didn’t tell my boys the truth when they asked, they wouldn’t come to me later in life when it was important.
I spoke of sex, drugs, the way to treat people or anything they asked. I also talked to them before they asked so I could try and keep the communication lines open. You can’t ask a child “how was your day” and then hear “fine” and then let it go. You have to dive in, ask specific questions and before you know it, you hear about the whole day. We usually did this at supper. What did you have for lunch, what did you play in gym or sing in music, what did you play on the playground, what did you make in art? You have to be persistent. My boys might not have always like my nosing around but I did it anyway.
Some people told me I told them to much but I disagreed. I always told them age appropriate answers to their questions. Do you? OR, are you waiting for the “right time?” The right time may never come along so isn’t it a better thing to keep caught up ALL the time? I’ve also heard people say they are “embarrassed” to talk to their kids but I felt there was no embarrassment if you talked all along because then it just seemed normal to you and your kids.
I’m not saying I’m perfect by any means because if I could go back and change things, I sure would change a few things but hey, I’m a blabbermouth. Really, I am but I also knew who my kids friends were and what they were doing in school and I knew most things they did. Even if it meant following them once in a while when they started to drive to make sure they were going where they said they were going. I never did hide in the bushes though (as much as I would have liked to on a few occasions!!) to spy on anything personal.
How about you? How did you, or how do you plan to talk to your kids and more importantly, how do you plan to get your kids to talk to you if you never made it feel normal???