Today US News and World Report Issued an article titled Good Parents, Bad Results. It tried to identify the current generation of parents as well intentioned and not the slackers that they are often portrayed as. However the article clearly illustrated how we’re missing the mark…by a long shot.
You’ll notice I said WE.
I read the article and cringed. Out of 8 mistakes made by parents listed I realized that I made most of them. Perhaps you’ll argue that I’m too critical of myself, and maybe so, but there are some that cannot be denied. An example? How about #6 on the list, “They tell their children how to feel.” Examples used include telling your child when they’re upset that they’re “fine”, “don’t cry” rather than simply telling them that “you’re sorry and you understand how they feel.”
Number two on the list is abused by me probably more than any other. “They nag, lecture, repeat, then yell” states number two. A further description explains how we repeat requests 20 times as though after ignoring it the first time, they won’t ignore it after our subsequent requests. The description also includes how the current generation of parent coats everything in sarcasm.
I do? Really? You can’t be serious?
While two parent households where both parents were working was mentioned, which made me slither even further into the little hole I had dug myself in the hope that no one would recognize me as one of ‘those’ parents, I did notice that the ages of parents was not mentioned. While it spoke of the current ‘generation’ of parent, it didn’t mention if that generation was 50 or 20, which I would think would make a big difference in parenting decisions and discipline decisions.
But what do I know? I’m just a dumb parent who seems to have it all wrong. This month in particular I haven’t been able to stay float. I’ve struggled to stay caught up on laundry AND make it to work and on a good day I remember to drop the kids off at daycare on my way to work. I definitely haven’t had time to blog, as has been evidenced by my lack of posts which has been met with great dismay by me who has always managed to put out SOME kind of blog post.
Those of you who are currently parenting young children where do you fit on these 8 commandments? Are you pleased with yourself?
Please tell me you’re like me and feel a bit wounded by it all….