I really need some good advice here friends. I have an “acquaintance” who I’ve known for a few years that in the last few months, thinks we’re best friends. I don’t know how it happened but it did. I have no idea what to do because there are things we do together as a group and I’d like to keep it that way but I have no interest to be this close on a one to one basis.
I can ask because as of now, she has no idea I have this blog and I’d really like to keep it that way. We don’t have any of the same interests and she knows this. She wants to always be running around and shopping or going somewhere and just like that, stopping at a bar for no reason and I just don’t do things like this. It’s just not who I am. I like being alone. I spend hours a day feeding my birds and watering and taking care of my flowers. I’m a putz and I don’t care who knows it. She thinks what I like to do is dumb and will then try and talk me into something that I’ve already told her I don’t want to do. The last time she pulled that bar/drinking thing on me I told her in no uncertain terms that IT’S NOT MY THING. I could really care less what she does but why does she try and change my mind or act like I didn’t tell her it’s not something I care to do? I’m 50 years old dammit and I know by now what I enjoy and what I don’t. I’m also getting sick of all this hiding out. I really get afraid when the phone rings or my dogs bark because it might be her just stopping by which with any other person would be fine but she then tries to talk me into doing something I don’t want to do. I’m already doing what I want to do.
I have to now block her from my messengers completely because if she gets me on there, I can’t get off. One day I forgot to do it on one and she acted like a jilted lover. She wants me to go shopping, I hate shopping AND I’ve told her that. She’ll call and I’m not home and she’ll keep calling over and over just minutes apart acting hysterical because I’m not answering the phone. One day she came over AFTER I told her I was having company and really embarrassed me with this behavior that’s NOT like any of my “friends” would behave. She’s crass, she uses bad language and she drinks to much. For me anyway. I could give a monkey’s behind what she does but why does she think we are new best friends? I was reading this on my blogroll the other morning and it struck me to ask you guys.
I don’t want to hurt this person by any means. There are times we are together and it’s in a group and kind of okay but I have no time for this needy person who thinks we are friends. I’ve tried “hiding” and I’ve tried not answering my phone but what I wonder is, should I need to do this?? I’ve told her what I like to do and what I don’t like to do and in the next breath she’ll ask me what I just told her NO to.
Can anyone please advise me what I can nicely tell her??? I am losing what little mind I have left. Also, I do have my grandchildren here sometimes and there is no way I want her around them with her loose mouth and all the drinking, oh by the way, she hides that in some stupid kind of colored bottle. Oh yes, dear people, she’s a real doozie. She sits and sips out of her bottle and gets drunk and thinks the sober people around her don’t notice this difference! But she thinks she’s the pillar of the community.
Losing my mind! HELP!!!