The day I’ve been dreading!!

I knew someday this day would come. Did I think it would come when I was 28? NO!!! I HAVE GREY HAIR!!!!! Oh my God!!!!! Not just one or two…quite a few actually. There they are staring right at me, ” here we are” they are saying to me. And the worst part is, oh they are not fine little hairs growing in, they are white, wavy, wire like hairs poking out!!! Okay I already have a problem with turning 28 in a few weeks. I know, I know, you’re probably saying, “oh that’s not old”. Yea I know it’s not “old” per say. I don’t like saying I feel old or I’m getting old in front of older people because I’m sure that makes them feel REALLY old. I know when I’m in my 40’s or 50’s I do not want hear a 20 something year old telling me THEY feel old.

However as of August 14th, I will be closer to being 30 than I was to being 25 and that doesn’t sit well with me. Especially now that I have found the dreaded grey hair!! My Dad had a full head of white hair by the time he was 30. Is that what I have to look forward to?? Do I start coloring my hair now, do I wait? I stopped coloring my hair about a year ago and said I’d start again when I started getting grey. Well I didn’t expect it to happen in a year!

Oh and my son, bless his heart!! We’re on our way to softball and I’m whining talking to Jason about my great find and Bailey asks to see my hair. He starts off by pointing to one and saying, “oh there’s one…oh wait there’s another one, oh and another.” Twist the knife just a little more. Gotta love kids!!!

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20 Responses to The day I’ve been dreading!!

  1. shane says:

    Alleast your not going bald.”LOL”
    I’m 28 also and I have grey hair and I’m getting thinner!

  2. SKL says:

    Don’t worry! My mom got her first gray hair at 17, and she is still (at 64) more dark than gray/white. I remember when I was little and she used to pull them out and she was making a ponytail out of them. At some point, she stopped doing that because she got scared she’d go bald!

    I got my first during a particularly stressful time in grad school (MBA/JD). I was an MBA grader and that semester I was doing all law courses; all my law exams were in the same week that I had to grade about 100 MBA finance exams. It felt like a little too much, and I had the white hair to prove it. (I pulled it out, of course!)

    I don’t get gray hair either. I get thick, shiny, straight, white hair. I think it is really cool, actually. I was hoping for a white streak, like a friend of mine got during a short and bad marriage (she was 23 then). Heck, if I was a guy, I’d get paid more with every white hair, so why should I feel bad about them? Like my mom, my hair is changing slowly, and I hope it will stay “mostly dark.” I am already old enough to be my kids’ granny, and I don’t need miscellaneous people pointing that out.

  3. Jennifer says:

    I don’t have any gray hair yet. I’m not trying to rub it in or anything. My mom is in her 70’s and only has a tiny little patch of gray in the front of hair. Otherwise our hair has gone from blond to this dark, dingy color that can only be described as dull. It loses all luster. My mother has wished most of her life for gray hair. But I’m sure that’s the case for most of us…those with straight hair want curly, those with curly want straight, blond to black, black to blond etc etc…

    I’m not holding out any hopes of turning gray. I’m afraid I’ll be like my mom. It’s probably not what you want to hear, but I’d embrace the gray and get yourself a really cute cut. I watched my mother-in-law dye her gray hair back to it’s ‘natural’ reddish color for years. Except it really didn’t look as natural as she thought and made her look more middle aged than if she had just let her hair turn to white. Finally when my husband and I got married she decided she was old enough to be gray and she left her hair alone and cut it into a short style that is so much more attractive and makes her look much more stylish and young in my mind.

    I’m hoping for white hair so that I could cut it super-short, almost buzzed, and parade my maturity.

    This probably didn’t make you feel better in the least…sorry about that Nikki!

  4. Welcome to my world!

    I stared going gray at 15, dyed it for a while, but hated going to all the trouble.

    I am 37 now, almost totally gray, and actually get lots of compliments on it. Kind of weird, but I thought that might cheer you up if you decide not to dye it.

    As for turning 30, trust me, it will be a moment of pride and relief. From then on, when you give your opinion on something, no one will ever say, “What do YOU know? You’re just a BABY!”

    Also, from then on you’ll get to call under-30’s babies. 😛

  5. SKL says:

    Ha ha, Jennifer’s comment reminded me of an ex-boss I had. He was Indian, must have been around 60, and was mostly bald with white hair around the sides. I don’t know why, but for some reason he thought he needed to color the little hair he had. He used henna, which made it brown at first, but then it would turn red and eventually blue! As the blue was turning to white, he would color it again. That was just one of the reasons we used to find him quite amusing.

    Trust me, older is better!! Really! I remember reading a study that showed that women get happier as they get older, and I thought, yeah, that’s really true! Embrace it – the best is yet to come.

  6. nikki says:

    If it were normal grey hair I don’t think I would have such a problem with it. They are wavy white wirey things that are like two inches long so they stick out! I was talking to my mom the other day and I was telling her about it and she said, “Oh I’m surprised you didn’t get them sooner!!” Thanks Mom!

  7. Joy says:

    I know just the kind of hairs your talking about Nikki. That’s how mine were for the first few years of “getting a few.” They were like a damn brillo pad! They had a life of their own.

    Other than dying my hair funky colors while a teen, I’ve never dyed my hair all one color. I’ve always just highlighted. If you do it all one color, in a few weeks you can see the growth whereas if you have a few colors you don’t seem to see the gray as much. I get two or three different shades put in mine now and I like it. I have nobody but my beautician do it because she knows what she’s doing. I don’t know anyone who knows how to do it and quite frankly, I don’t trust anyone. If I want to look bad, I’d leave the gray.

    I do it 3-4 times a year. Last winter I tried letting it grow and see what it looked like because I honestly couldn’t remember and I hated it. It was a dull brown with the gray only in certain spots. My mother in law had the nicest gray hair but she had it all over and mine is only in the front and “sideburn” spots and I think it looks bad. So, I’m back to highlighting. It’s not what I’d call fun, I hate it actually but I like the way I feel and there must be something in the dye that relaxes those pesky brillo pad type hairs!

  8. Joy says:

    I forgot to add that I’ve had a few women do my hair, I’d get booked to get mine done the same day as she had other “dye” jobs and she’d save the leftover dye and I’d only get charged for one color. It’s more expensive the more colors you want in it. You gotta be buds with your lady. The lady I go to now used to own her own shop and opened one at home so it’s now 1/3 of what I paid in a “shop” and it’s MUCH faster.

  9. SKL says:

    Nikki, I hear you about the different hair textures. Before I got my first whitie, I already had at least 3 things going on – wavy blond; dull, thin brown; and really thick, curly black ones. Then add the whities to that mix. Most of the time, the black ones stick out and my hair is almost always a wreck. “Chore boy” is the term I most often use to describe it. People probably think I don’t bother to take care of my hair. I’ve had every suggestion under the sun and nothing works with all four kinds of hair I have. I even had an ex who used to complain constantly about my hair and how careless I was about it – if I cared about our relationship, I would care to make my hair attractive. Oh well, who needs judgmental people anyway? At least we know God has a sense of humor. As I get older, the black curly ones seem to be less numerous. Maybe they are the ones turning into whities? It’s a welcome change.

  10. nikki says:

    I think I’m going to get it highlighted. I have a friend who works in a salon but also does hair at her house for her friends. I think I’ll be giving her a call here soon. I am NOT doing it myself nor am I having my whole head colored. Maybe like Joy said it will calm the little poops down!!

  11. Tosha says:

    I’d be upset too! Also I flipped out when I turned 28 becuase I was closer to 30 Now next year i’ll flip out about 29..LOL I remember very clearly throwing my dad an over hte hill party as a child when he turned 30!

  12. nikki says:

    So I’m not alone on this? Thank god!!! Actually thank you Tosha!!LOL

  13. SKL says:

    Yeah, to be honest, I remember thinking my mom was SOOOO old when she turned 29. Whoa! When I was a kid, I calculated that I’d be 33 at the turn of the century, and I pictured myself looking like Mrs. Claus at that age!

    Turning 30 kinda sucked for me, because that was sort of a cutoff in my mind for a lot of things I wanted to accomplish in life – of which few were even close to accomplished. But, I got over it pretty quickly. I still felt quite young and a lot wiser. Now 40, that’s another story . . . .

  14. Smilf says:

    Oh no, see, I just turned 27 and now you have me freaked out about next year. LOL My mom had to start coloring her hair in her early 30’s. Ugh. I have randomly found gray hairs in my dark brown hair for the past few years. Wirey, thick, white or gray hairs. I think the stress of seeing a gray hair causes a new gray hair. What gives?! HA!

  15. Sue says:

    At least you’re not going to be 29!

  16. nikki says:

    Haha Sue!!!!! Yea but I will be next year, but after that I REFUSE to go any further. I think I’ll start counting backwards!!

  17. Tosha says:

    I’ve got a friend who turns 29 next month and I laugh at her because she is a few months older than me.. I know come January when I turn 29 she’ll rub it in big time.. But thats okay though.. i’ll come to accept it.. All my friends but 2 are older than me by atleast 6 years most are older than me by about 10 years

  18. SKL says:

    My sister is 2 years younger than me and has been giving me crap about being over the hill since I don’t know when. She says that as she ages, she simply nudges the hill a year or two forward so she never has to be over it. But, as karma would have it, she has more gray/white hair than I do, so ha ha.

  19. Amber says:

    I get it only right in front where it shows…. what a pain in the butt! Have to color every other week!

  20. Jane says:

    So far, I’m okay. My mother didn’t turn gray until her mid 30’s so it’s approaching me in a few years. Till then, I won’t dye. I just don’t have the time to get it done and don’t trust anyone I know. I’ve seen what they’ve done to themselves! LOL!!!

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