Talking people into things. Does this happen to you? Or are you one of those people that are always trying to talk other people into doing what you want them to do?
This has happened to me my whole life. When the boys were in school, I was a walking “ask Joy, she’ll do it” type person. I remember the year I was the volunteer coordinator for the PTA and it was the last year I had a major title. I was always involved but not in that capacity. Why you ask? I was always the one putting every school function together and didn’t get to enjoy anything with my own two boys. I had to be at the school the first day to greet the Kindergartners and my own son Toby missed the bus and was late for school and I was out greeting other kids. Talk about feeling guilty. Every “Pastries for Parents” to the book fairs to the carnivals, I never got to do it with my own kids.
As I grew up I seemed to be a magnet for people always trying to talk me into doing things I don’t want to do. There is one lady from bowling who never failed to try and talk me into going to the bar after bowling even though I told her I won’t drink and drive and I want to get home to play darts with my husband. She looked at me like I was nuts. But sure enough, week after week it was always the same. Every week my answer was the same. My mom is always trying to tell me I should love golf. I don’t love golf. I’m 50 years old and I think by now I’d know if I loved something. I like driving the golf cart and being outside but the golf itself, I am not fond of it. Nor am I going to force myself to do it for someone else.
So I wonder why people do this. Do you know people like this? Or are you the the kind of person who thinks you can change someones mind?
I sometimes feel it’s a tug of war with certain people.