I wasn’t sure I should write about this because it is very personal and close to my heart. I feel that this whole blogging thing is good for me to express my feeling and to “let it out.” We’ve touched on this subject many times and have even talked about it on other blogs. This has come to be a personal issue with me now.
Teenage pregnancy. I got a call from my oldest sister last week I think it was. She was upset because she had found some text messages from her 2nd oldest daughter,16, to her boyfriend. They, in a nutshell, were TRYING to get pregnant. I really couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Why would my niece do this? She is doing so good in school, on her way to graduating early. She has so much to do yet as a teenager and young adult. I was confused, she just started dating this guy. Granted they have known each other for 3-4 years but still. No logical explanation came to mind. It doesn’t help the situation that she has a 15 year old friend who just had a baby. She has seen her mother struggle being the mom of 4 girls and doing her best to keep them in line. She couldn’t possibly think we would all be happy if it were to happen. And this boyfriend of hers…nice guy huh?? “Your only 16 but lets have a baby.” Come on!! He has convinced her that he will be with her forever. Well I think we all know what that means at 16!! Unbelievable!!
My sister called again last night. By the tone in her voice when she said “Hi” I knew it had been too late. She is indeed pregnant. And happy about it. I didn’t even know what to say to her. I had to hang up, gather myself and call her back. I still didn’t know what to say. I was shocked, I thought she’d come to her senses. I don’t get it. Why do teenage girls want babies?? Is it because they think it’s a way to hold on to a guy? Is it an unconditional love they need, which they should be getting from their parents and my niece does. I haven’t talked to her yet. I really don’t know what to say to her. I don’t want her to feel like she can’t come to me but I can’t lie either and say I’m happy for her. I know we all wish we could protect our children from the world and make every decision for them so they do everything the right way. We can’t, we have to raise them with morals and make sure they are not only book smart but street smart. Drill into their head the importance of good decision making. My sister has done all this, so what happened??
You know, a lot of people say to me, ” be thankful you have a boy, only one penis to watch not hundreds.” True statement however I have 12 nieces. Some of which I know I will never have to worry about when it comes to this but the others…*huge sigh* well you can see why I’m going gray. I really need some heartfelt advice on this one. There’s nothing we can do about it now but to deal with it and move on. I need to talk to her but I’m at a loss of what to say:(