Question of the day

Do you usually say what you really think or what you think other people want to hear?

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12 Responses to Question of the day

  1. Joy says:

    Unfortunately, I usually say what I think other people want me to say. I’ve tried to change many times but I just can’t.

  2. kweenmama says:

    For me it depends on the person and the situation. I’ve noticed that with my kids I usually say what I am thinking.

  3. A blend… I think I try to temper what I really want to say with what I think they want to hear… kind of lead them up to my point of view by a comforting path. I find that if you concede their points early, they are more willing to hear you, and less likely to be constructing their argument while you talk, since you already presented it.

    Wow, does this sound manipulative? Gross. I guess we all use whatever methods we need to get our points across…

  4. SanityFound says:

    It all depends on the person I am speaking to, with some it is pointless because there isn’t much in between the ears to catch the words *shrug*

  5. mssc54 says:

    Haha that is sooooo easy to answer.

    I think out loud so it’s not much of a transition to say what I think.

    I’m getting better at catching my self though. But it’s really hard. Even when I catch my self I usually try to say it in a nicer way. lol

  6. nikki says:

    I’m trying to say how I really feel but I find people get so defensive then it causes friction which is no fun but neither is letting people hurt your feelings. It’s something I’m constantly working on.

  7. SKL says:

    Good question! I have a strong principle against lying / dishonesty, so I can’t just say what people want to hear if it’s not my true belief. But at the same time, I like to avoid conflict and hurt feelings (depending on the topic and who my listener is). Mostly I say nothing at all if I’m in a sticky situation. If I must, I’ll figure out something neutral to say. So in short, there are many times when I don’t say what I’m thinking, but I may not say what the other wants to hear either.

  8. Just a Mom says:

    I used to say what I thought other people wanted to hear. In the past 2 years I have changed so many things about myself and this was a big one for me. I can now proudly say that I say what I think. If you don’t like it it’s your problem and not mine anymore! 🙂

  9. thegoddessanna says:

    More often than not, I’m too honest and too blunt. It’s not because I’m rude, but because I have horrible people skills. It’s best just not to ask me anything!

  10. Jane says:

    I’m usually pretty upfront but I have an easy going attitude and don’t get shook up to much so I can say things in nice ways. I know a few people who just say things to argue, with them, I just nod my head and agree with whatever they say and then make some fast tracks in the opposite direction.

  11. Candi says:

    I am VERY upfront, i tell you like it is. Why waste your time, and say what the people want u to hear. I have a strong outgoing, dont pretend attitude. I am very blunt.

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