Question of the day

How do you act when your angry?

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23 Responses to Question of the day

  1. Doraz says:

    It depends on what I am angry about.

  2. SKL says:

    I usually get quiet. But if it’s about an injustice that pushes just the right button at the right time, I’ll verbally strike back rather quickly and decisively.

    Once I was traveling with a friend and her family in Florida. It had been a rough morning because (a) we’d arrived late the night before, (b) we’d lost more time with my friend arguing over us not getting the ocean view rooms we’d booked, and (c) the hotel gave us a hard time in the morning by trying to charge us for some ridiculous extras. So I was in a crappy mood. OK, so we stopped at a gas station and I went to get a coffee. They had a sign saying special – cappuccino – $.99, so I thought, great, and poured myself a cup. I tried to put the lid on the styrofoam cup and it was so flimsy, it broke and the coffee went everywhere. I looked for some napkins and there weren’t any, and there was nobody around to ask, so I tried to clean it up with the kleenexes in my pocket, and then I poured myself a new cup. Well, I get to the register and I handed over my card and they charged me for 2 regular-priced cappuccinos, i.e., about 5x the amount of the cup of coffee I was supposed to be buying. So I pointed out the mistake and the woman started giving ME a hard time about taking two cups and spilling the first one. WHAT?? She was being so nasty, I just lost it (for my standard) and snapped, “I hope you have a rotten day!”

    Afterwards I felt like I’d just smacked someone around – I felt kinda bad, even though the woman deserved it. I have always taken the “turn the other cheek” stuff to heart, even since I was a kid, so it takes a lot to get me to hit back.

  3. Laura (LS) says:

    It depends on the situation.

    With my son, I’m proud to say that I have learned (and most of time I can do it) to take a breath and stay very calm. I try not to yell, I try to keep an even voice, even when I feel like screaming and throwing things. Because when I get worked up like that, it only engages HIS fiery temper, and then it’s a contest of who can act more like a toddler. And I’m ashamed to say that there have been times when I’ve won that battle…

    With Sparky (husband), I used to get all martyrish, and I HATE that. Since The Wreck, though, I’ve learned (lots of learning these days) to quell the Martyr and be a Big Girl. I still get snippy, sarcastic, and snotty, but I no longer play the victim. Because I’m not.

    With people I don’t know, I tend to be very vocal. If I’m on the phone with operators, I let my brain lead, and some of the creative phrases that have come out of my mouth have surprised me… no cursing, no insults, but creative sarcasm that I had no idea I was capable of. That’s on the phone. In person, I get tense and sometimes loud. And very, very short. “Just get the job done, and get it right. Now.” I use my Mom Voice, and things get done. Or not, but the other person knows I mean business.

    With my parents or my in laws, I just leave. Most of the time, it’s just not worth the stress.

  4. SanityFound says:

    Depending on the situation and the transgressor I can be either very vocal or just silent. I am the quiet rage.

  5. nikki says:

    I can be very mean. I’m good at name calling and yelling. I can be the world’s biggest B**ch!!! Well I used to be. I used to be a wild child due to my growing up the way I did. But now I more or less just pout and tend to ignore the person. I need a happy medium. Get it out with out yelling and not hold it in.

  6. thegoddessanna says:

    When I’m mad at my husband, I simply stop talking to him. He gets the point pretty quickly, though, and forces a confrontation. Once I’ve yelled a bit, I always end up laughing at myself, and then I’m better.

    When it’s someone I don’t know well, that’s when I get mean. It’s really bad of me, but I’ll get really condescending and smarmy. Of course, I only get angry about really bad things (an insult or injustice), and most things I blow off.

  7. mssc54 says:

    You mean like at 2:15 this morning when someone banged on our front door and ran away and my wife told me not to call the coppers?

    I apologized when I went back up to bed… at 3!

  8. mssc54 says:

    SKL; I think you did a great job by not hitting that clerk.

    If this happens again just say, “Oh, okay, well then here.” Take the lid off your “second cup” and pour it out on the counter or floor and give her the empty cup and ask her for a refund. 🙂

  9. SKL says:

    mssc54, your idea may be a good one, but if I didn’t drink my first cup of morning coffee, I’m pretty sure the rest of my day would have been even worse.

  10. I’m a yeller and a stomper and a temper-tantrum thrower. Sigh. And I hate that about myself. Big baby.

  11. Joy says:

    There are really only two people in this world that can make me so mad I pop a blood vessel and give it right back. Otherwise, when I’m really mad, I don’t say a word.

  12. nikki says:

    LOL I know who one of those people are!!!

  13. Joy says:

    Yes, he gets me every time!

  14. Joy says:

    Nikki, how’s abbi?

  15. nikki says:

    I know he does. She’s doing great. She’s very sore and very tired but doing well. She’s a great momma, very protective. The kitten is a boy and we’re very happy about that. I think I want to name him Noah but not 100% sure yet. He’s adorable. As soon as I get my camera back from Kristen I’ll take pictures.

  16. Just a Mom says:

    I tend to hold my anger in until someone hits the wrong button at the wrong time. Then BAM! I yell, tend to punch walls, and then just take off for a long walk.

  17. nikki says:

    Hey Joy, we decided on Felix, for 2 reasons, one being the obvious, and because it means lucky, successful in German and Scandinavian. Fitting huh?

  18. Joy says:

    Felix is perfect.

  19. thegoddessanna says:

    Felix is also derived from the Latin for lucky. When the Romans invaded Germania, the name of the army had the word lucky in it (Felicitis, something like that), so that’s how the word ended up in the Germanic languages. It seeped into to other languages from there. Felicity, anybody?

    Yes, I’m a nerd. : )

  20. Joy says:

    LOL, no your not goddess

  21. Jane says:

    I really don’t get angry that often. I’m pretty even tempered and don’t let a lot get under my skin but when I do, I stomp around some, slam some doors or cupboards. Nothing extreme.

  22. pammy says:

    I become quiet,then fume inside

  23. Joy says:

    Boy Pammy, you can tell that wer’re related. I am the same way.

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