This post is a little “more of me” than the ones I usually write. This is one of the most humbling and thought provoking tales of my parenting experience. I have many, but this is one that for as long as I live, I’ll never forget.
I always thought I was so great when I’d shop for my boys. I always did it one season behind. I could get them the best “names” and best “brands” at 50% off and more, on sale by buying them at the end of the year, for the next year.
I’d gotten Jason the most awesome “ensemble” than I could imagine. I was just thrilled with my find. I will never forget it. I shopped at this “hoity toity” shop that all the “rich” people shopped at and couldn’t wait for winter so he could wear that outfit. It was black/navy blue and red. I still remember after all these years. He was 7 years old. He had all the matching accessories to go with it. Jacket, snow-pants, hat, mittens, boots and scarf. He was quite the cute kid.
The first cold day he got all dressed and man, did he look cute all decked out in that outfit. I was so proud of my shopping abilities. He came home from school with everything except the mittens. He walked in with bare hands and it was cold. I asked him where his mittens were. He told me he left them on the bus. I screamed calmly asked him “what do you mean you left them on the bus?” He just acted lost and nervous and told me he left them laying on the seat. I’m getting mad now, “what do you mean you left them laying on the seat” I screamed asked him?
He looked at me, and you have to know he had millions of freckles, and he very calmly said “so and so didn’t have any mittens and I knew I had another pair so I left him my mine.” He told me that he offered to give them to him but the kid wouldn’t take them so he said he was leaving them on the seat and if he didn’t take them someone else would so he may as well and he just got off the bus. Talk about feeling about two inches tall. I learned a lot from him that day.
What can you do? I loved that child more in that minute than I’ve ever loved anyone in my life and it was such a reminder to me that “only through the eyes of a child.” I don’t think I’ve ever felt that humbled in my whole life. Jason was and still is so kind. And YES, he got a big hug and I told him I was proud of him. I just said next time, wait a day and take a different pair.