Here’s the deal with this post. I was recently drawn into a online WAR discussion on another blog that sadly, I can’t quit going to. I try really hard but something keeps drawing me back. I won’t give it’s name but those of you that can’t help yourselves either know where I’m talking about.
The subject was “Grandmother to young for Toys R Us Coupon.” Apparently Toys R Us offered grandparents 20% off toys for their grandchildren so Linda Peters wanted to get something for her grandchildren. She was told upon trying to purchase that she wasn’t old enough to use the coupon. In letters you need a magnifying glass to read, the coupon states it’s for grandparents who are over 50. Linda Peters was 49.
Okay, that’s all very fine and well and if Toys R Us wants to operate that way, it’s their store. Right?? Well, I just couldn’t help by commenting that had it been me, I’d have walked out of the store. I was a grandmother at 42 and was very proud to be one. I had Jason when I was 19 and Toby when I was 22. I was married and I thought “respectable.” They were both in their early 20’s when they had children. All very fine and good???
This is were the whole post got out of control. One woman went on and called all people who were grandparents before 50 “ghetto trailer trash!” I kid you not. I made one more response and never made another comment. There were hundreds by the time it was over. Name calling and saying we “condoned” kids having kids and we “let” our 15 year olds have kids. Yes, I kid you not.
First of all, back in my day if you didn’t have children before you were 30 you were considered an old maid. Doctors warned women to not wait past their 30’s to have children. That “older” women had more trouble in pregnancy and there was more of a chance to have something wrong with the child. My grandparents got married in their early 20 and had five kids. My own parents were in the early 20’s when they had my brother and I. Think back even further that our great grandparents were in the teens. People got married as young as 15 way back then and it was no disgrace.
I got so hurt by that woman’s comments basically telling me that me, my parents and earlier generations were “ghetto trailer trash” and even wondering exactly what that even means.
I know that the age has changed and women are waiting now longer to have babies but how can you name call people for the way it was generations ago and how can you be that bold to name call like that in the first place?
How old were you when you had children and how old were your parents when they had you? What do you think of the Toys R Us conglomerate for making such a bonehead choice as to put an age on a coupon for grandparents to use? I mean me personally, I don’t need a coupon if I want to buy something for one of my grandchildren but to me, it’s the point of it. I may have had one of them and had seen the coupon and might have thought it would be something fun to do with them and let them go pick out something but that would have made me furious had I done that and then not be able to use it. It’s just the point that I was a grandma and not 50 yet. I would have left the toy and gone to Target or Walmart and never stepped foot in Toys R Us again. I still may never shop there again.