I have had my own bedroom now for almost 10 years and I couldn’t be happier. Had I known how much I loved it, I wouldn’t have waited so long. I guess one fact was that we didn’t have a room for me to have my own room until the boys grew up and moved out.
I am a very light sleeper. I wake up at every sound and then can’t fall back to sleep. I’ve always been this way. Even as a young child, I can remember spending the nights counting the hours down until it was time for me to get up. I could hear the furnace, my parents breathing, the dog…..I had a terrible time. I’m easy to fall asleep but then I always wake up and once awake, I just toss and turn and then worry that I’ll be tired the next day.
My husband snores but worse than that, he’s up I can’t even tell you how many times during the night. That alone woke me up. Then there are his “morning” habits that woke me up when he had to get up and I didn’t. I won’t go into all of them but let me tell you, they woke me up. If he’d been able to just wake up and let me stay asleep, it might have been different but he just always did things in the same routine and couldn’t seem to change the way he did them.
The other thing is he used to always be hot, I used to always be cold. Now we are opposites. He’s cold, I’m hot!!! Men and woman’s bodies just aren’t in sync. I also need constant but consistent sounds while sleeping. I’m not even sure how many wind up clocks I have in my room. One clock, I can’t stand but the sound of many ticking away at different ticks, I just love. I have fans too and in the winter, a humidifier. I love these constant noises. Now the dog only has to bark once and I’m always woken up by but the constant sounds that are “mine,” I love. We also live in an old farmhouse and I’m upstairs alone and let me tell you, it’s freezing up there. In the winter, I can see my breath. I’m not joking. I also don’t hear the phone, the dogs or anything when I’m sleeping up there.
But we are older and is that to be expected? My grandparents slept in the same room but not the same bed. I’m not really sure why but a lot of the older people that we knew, had their own bedrooms when the kids left the house.
Many young people are now needing a better nights rest and are choosing to have separate bedrooms. I know a lot of young people who can’t imagine sleeping apart won’t get this but it’s got nothing to do with love. For me and many others I’ve talked to about this, it’s only about a good nights sleep and some won’t even admit to people that they don’t sleep in the same room. Had I known how much I’d love to have my own room as an adult, I would have done it was sooner and I might have had better sleep back in the day when I really needed it.
Do you have your own room or do you know people that do? Would it embarrass you to tell anyone (if) you had your own room?