I was scrolling through the guide on TV last night and came across a show on MTV called Sex~ with Mom & Dad. I was a little weirded out by the title but equally curious. So I turned it on, and actually ended up watching the whole episode.
It really got me thinking. When do you start talking to your kids about sex? How open should you be? This episode was about a mother and daughter. I think the daughter was 18 or so. The daughter was very uncomfortable talking “sex” with her mom. Just saying the words in front of her, you could tell she wanted to no part of it. She didn’t want her mom knowing about her sex life and she DID NOT want to know anything about her moms.
Throughout the show they did different projects together to open the doors to conversation. They ended up finding things out about the other that I’m not sure I would have liked to know. I don’t want to know what my mom likes in bed!!!! She told her daughter she likes her hair gently pulled. I would die if my mother ever told me that!!! I have never had a very close relationship with my mom, we never had “the talk” ever. I wish we would have but that is neither here nor there.
I do know I will be open with my son and he will know he can always talk to me about it and feel comfortable coming to me. How open will I be with him? I’m not sure, but I don’t see myself telling him what I prefer and what I don’t. I will ALWAYS tell him the importance of keeping that sacred until marriage. I don’t know, I guess if it were all or nothing I would pick all over nothing. I think with conversation comes knowledge, awareness, confidence, and closeness. I just think some things are better left unknown. Parents first, friends second. Right? Or is this the new thing? Are parents telling their children everything in hopes to have them tell everything? I’m not sure I would want to know everything anyway.
What do you think? How would you feel if your parents told you what they liked in the sack!? For me there is a line that I personally won’t cross but I know it’s a personal choice.