Blog question for all my buds

wordpressI’m not sure how to say this and I don’t want anyone to feel offended or anything so please, don’t be.  But I want to ask some of you a question.  Mind you, I’m ONLY wondering this and am not making any “assumptions” or in any way telling anyone what to do but I’d just like an answer for this one simple question.

When I first started to blog I didn’t know what it was about in ANY way and in March, we’ve been at this a year.  I knew nothing and I may still know nothing but…why are some of you, a lot more lately, making your comments in the same box as the person who made it on your blog?  The reason I ask this is I thought man, everyone’s blogs are slow lately.  Nobody is talking back and forth. There is no conversation.  What the heck is going on with everyone?

Just A Mom over at Life Is Funny Wearing Purple Colored Glasses and Joan Harvest at Whatever I Think, have always done this so I don’t mean them.  I got used to that “for them” but none of you have ever done it and a lot are now.

I will tell you briefly why this throws me.  I check all you guys more times a day that I am going to admit to.  I really can’t, it would embarrass me but lets say MANY times a day.  All your blogs.  I’m sure you can see if you look that this is true.  So when I “check” these after I’ve made a comment, I never saw any new comments in the “commenter” widget on the side so I was thinking nobody had said anything since I did.  I lost so many “conversations” because I didn’t see that “you” had made a comment after mine but “in” mine so it didn’t show on the side.  Know what I mean?

I also find “comment moderating” also really slows down conversation.  You can make a comment and sometimes it takes days and when you check back there are comments but by then, there are new posts to comment on.  I guess if you have to moderate you have a good reason but I would hate to have to do that.  I’ve had to block two individuals who kept making off the wall comments that were more like rants than conversation but I would hate to moderate and slow down other people.  A lot of my “talking” between people happens before I’m even up in the morning so if I had to wait on those “conversations,” they might not go back and forth the way they do.

So, if there’s a reason why this is the “new trend,” please tell me why this is.  I’ve found it to really slow things down.  I go to far to many blogs each day and if I have to click them all each time to see if someone has answered someone else or me, it just would take to long.  When you see the little commenter’s on the side, you see someone has said something.

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24 Responses to Blog question for all my buds

  1. SKL says:

    I can’t answer your question, but I know what you mean about checking other peoples’ blogs way too many times to admit!!

  2. Yeah, you know, I was wondering this too. I always reply to the comments in my blog, not IN them, and I’ve noticed that some people do this. It confuses me as well, because the only way I’ll see their answer is if someone posts another comment on that page and then it’ll appear in my “Comments” part of the site.

  3. K. Trainor says:

    No idea. I think it’s just a matter of preference for the blog author. Perhaps the blog author is afraid comments made directly to that person won’t be seen if they’re further down…? I’m not sure.

    And off topic, but I have to ask–I see something that looks like falling snow run through the words on this blog. How/why is that there? At first I thought my eyeballs were playing tricks on me. lol!

  4. DM says:

    good morning Joy,
    I’ll tell you what’s happening on my blog…why I do what I do…the comment moderation feature…the first time someone makes a comment its moderated, after that, it will automatically be “OK”…its a word press option because I noticed it did slow discussion down when every comment was moderated. I have a pretty good feel for those who have commented in the past and (knock on wood) don’t have anyone blocked yet.
    As far as me putting my response into other peoples comments…I’ve done both. In fact, I’ve done 3 different things, depending on how I feel…sometimes I will just write the person a thank you note directly via e mail, other times (if I have been busy and haven’t been able to stay on top of things) I will respond to several people at the same time, and finally, I have on occassion, done that thing you are asking about…replied in the box where there comment is showing.. Why..well, I have the same feature you do…where you see the last 15 comments..and I don’t like to see my icon up there too often…I prefer seeing the diversity of all your smiling faces…it’s as simple as that. That’s just me. I have some blogs that I visit that rarely acknowledge my comments- period and one or two put their reply into my comment as well…yea, took me awhile to get the hang of that…but have gotten used to it..so having been on both sides of this dynamic, I totally understand what you’re saying, I do love the energy of watching a conversation unfold on my blog…wish he happened more often.

    BTW, I enjoy the different pictures you put on your blog header..and the budweister clips..DM

  5. kwoneshe2 says:

    I’m guilty of the moderate. And it’s simply because some unsavory characters have found my blog.

  6. Elena says:

    I have considered making comments back within the other person’s comments because of what DM said, not wanting my icon to clutter up the place, and also because I feel like I’m padding my comment numbers, but so far I haven’t tried it simply because of what you said, it seems no longer to be a back and forth conversation but instead it is me sort of being a higher power fiddling with someone’s comment. I guess this is the essence of it for me: I would have no problem deleting a comment or blocking a person who was just being blatantly offensive and horrible and scaring off real readers, but other than that I don’t want to touch anyone’s comments. I want their comment space to be totally theirs, untouched, integrity intact. My own comments on their comments or on my post I feel should be on the same level as anyone else’s, another intact response.

    (Let me just say… I realize that people who embed their reactions aren’t editing the original person’s comment and that this is all in my own head. I just thought I’d share my own point of view, weird as it is!)

  7. thegoddessanna says:

    To be honest, I have no clue as to what you’re saying here. Maybe I’m just not awake yet!

    Although, you’ve reminded me I haven’t blogged myself in awhile!

    Joy’s reply: this is what I mean Goddess. Replying to your comment in the same box but it won’t show up on the side and you wouldn’t know I’ve commented back unless you read through all the comments again.

  8. Just a Mom says:

    I reply to comments on my blog within the person’s comment for a couple of reasons. One like DM said I don’t want to clog up the comment section. To me I feel like I am actually making a personal response by doing it the way I do.

    For K. to make it snow on your blog click the Appearance tab and then click extras. You can make it snow until January 4th.

  9. Morocco says:

    Oh, I didn’t even know that you could reply within a person’s comment–I guess you do learn something new everyday!

    Joy, sometimes I get confused as to whether I should reply to everyone’s comment or not. I really feel that I should to show how much I appreciate everyone taking the time to read what I have written. However, like some of the comments above, I don’t want to see my icon hogging up the side! I love the conversation, although there is not much of this that takes place at our blog.

    I am a frequent “comment checker” as well, LOL! And thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your thoughts! By the way, I love your blog picture–very pretty.

  10. Joy says:

    Thanks Morocco. I enjoy your blog and am thinking of you at what must be a hard holiday for you.

    To reply within a person’s comment, all you do it click the “edit” button and you can add what you want that way. Just write what you want and hit “update comment.”

    I don’t always reply because sometimes there is really no need. If a person just says something, there is no reply needed but if someone asks something, I try and answer that. But if I go to someone’s blog and I see my photo there, I “think” I was the last one to reply so I move on the check someone else’s. I just can’t re-read every post and all comments the few (MANY) times a day I check back. I just wouldn’t have the time. When I see “their” photo there, I know they’ve answered someone so that’s what makes me check back.

    Also, when you click the latest comment, it takes you right to where the last comment was made. If there is nothing there to tell you someone commented back, you’d have to look at them all.

  11. pammy says:

    Sorry joy I dont know what you are talking about.I get so busy with work,housework and grandkids(which I adore and love to spend as much time with as I can)to come on here.But my new years resolution,starting now,I will come on here and keep in touch with you.New years resolutions suck,I dont usually complete all of mine.But I will keep this one.Promise.

  12. Joy says:

    It would be nice to keep in touch and this is such an easy way to do so. Loved your Christmas card pics. Hard to believe our boys are grown. Time really flew by didn’t it????

  13. nikki says:

    Yea Joy…no idea what you’re talking about. I do however see you’re frustration and hope it gets worked out or fixed.

  14. nikki says:

    OH I see Joy you commented in the same box as Goddesssanna!! Why would people do that?? I don’t care if your icon is “hogging” up room!! That would be annoying!!!

  15. thegoddessanna says:

    It wasn’t until I read nikki’s comment that I figured it out… I skip over comments I’ve already read. Gotcha.

    And to me, that’s kinda annoying. I reply in another comment, but to each his own.

  16. joanharvest says:

    I have to laugh because I started commenting in the comment box because of my bad memory. If I make the comment outside of the box I can’t see what the commenter said and then I forget. If I leave it in the box I can see the comment left to me and I make a better response.

    I’m so bad at this I never even looked at the commenter widget. 😉

    I only have the comment moderating thingy on for the first time someone comes on my blog.

    I’m like you and check up on the blogs several times a day when I’m home.

  17. kweenmama says:

    I learned something new today! I had noticed that people commented inside others comments but I never knew how to do it until you commented and told how to do it. Not that I am ever going to do it, but at least now I know…just in case.

  18. woowooteacup says:

    I don’t comment inside someone else’s comment box for the reason Elena said – I don’t want to even appear to be fiddling with a person’s comments. That, and like you, Joy, I don’t think I could find my own reply if I had to return to the post.

    As for comment moderation, I used to have it set so that commenters only had to be moderated through once and then I got him with a nasty troll and had to reset my blog to full moderation in order to get rid of him. Not what I wanted to do, but it’s a good defense mechanism against bad behavior.

  19. Joy says:

    Yes Mary, I understand those kind of people. I had some kind of a nut on here a while back so I just blocked him out. I had another girl who wanted to “show her stuff” on here so I blocked her too. So far I’ve only had those two.

    I also don’t want anyone to think I have anything against the moderating. I really do understand that some people need to do that.

  20. mssc54 says:

    First of all I am so offended that my behavior may require me to be put in a time out room and forgotten about for days and days.

    I have begun the moderation thing because I think it’s more personal to respond right to the commentor. I just like the format and afterall it really is all about what I like. 🙂

    I’ve been slow the last couple of days because we have a bunch of viruses creeping around inside our pc. May have to go to the shop even. What the heck will I do then?

  21. K. Trainor says:

    Thanks Just a Mom–found it! 😀

  22. Amber says:

    you know, I have been trying that feature. I have to say, its a pain in the arse. I thought it was less cluttering of my blog because when I comment back to people, it just looks like my icon in the comments since I tend to comment back to everyone once or twice a day. But responding individually in their boxes what a pain. Tried that and its way more work for me. So nope.

    As for moderation….how I do it is… you can leave a comment once, and after that is approved then I don’t have to worry about you again.

    I agree with you Joy.

  23. SanityFound says:

    I have always hated it tbh coz you never know when someone is responding to you – don’t know why but did it for one post recently thinking it would save time but tbh I prefer to be commenting in style… am back to responding finally sooooon I will be me again dangit!

  24. javajunkee says:

    I had started doing it just because I wanted a “real” estimate on what was going on with “my” blog…but yeah now that you bring this all up I think I’m going to go back to the old way even though it makes it look like I have tons of action on my blog when 1/2 of it’s me answering 🙂 Good point! Well taken!

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