My promise to you

I’m really trying to be better with this whole blog world!! I see how much time and effort myglobe dear mom in law puts into this. I could never do all the things she does and really this is ALL possible because of her. I give her a helping hand when I can, which lately hasn’t been much I’ll admit! What do you do when you just can’t find the words? When your brain is so overwhelmed with kids, bills, laundry, dishes and well…life! I rack my brain trying to come up with new topics to discuss or even just your every day events.

2008 was full of changes for me…all good ones!! Personal changes I’ve made within myself. Some are known to my close family and friends and some I have kept to myself. All to better my relationship with my son, my husband and most importantly myself. I’ve battled my inside demons my entire life. Almost in a way letting them define me. I’m learning that it’s okay to be me and it’s okay to think and feel the way I do.  I’m not going to get into all the details but I have come to a place in my life where I can forgive myself  and the ones who have hurt me and have begun to heal. My new motto in life is…I am who I am and your approval is not needed!!

I took today and went through most of our blogroll, visiting most and in a sense getting to know each one of you in a different way. I figured I owed that to you all, you are so loyal!! I can honestly say now that I understand the friendships that Joy has built with some of you. I hope you all know how much you mean to her. So this is just a little post asking you all to bear with me in this and I’m making it my New Years resolution to build better relationships and make new friends…real friends.

“Real” friends doesn’t necessarily mean you get to physically hold them or see them. It’s someone who is always there for you no matter what. Someone who lends an ear or advice when needed. Won’t judge or insult you (on purpose) and accepts you for YOU.  So this is my New Years resolution to you…my blog friends. I vow to be a better friend, a better person, take the time to get to know you and all your little quirks (we all have them!) So unless your computer crashes, you’re all stuck with me now!! Haha 😉             


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30 Responses to My promise to you

  1. Joy says:

    Thank you so much Nikki. This is a great compliment. I got goose bumps reading this. I love all our peeps like I do know them. Heck I talk about them by name sometimes!!! Thank you.

  2. I think your resolutions are wonderful, Nikki. I also think that it’s wonderful what you’ve managed to do over the past year – working on oneself in this manner isn’t easy, and accepting oneself is even more difficult. I’m glad you’re finding accepting yourself as you are easier to do.
    Remember the Dr. Seuss books about this? I think the lines went something like “I am what I am, and I’m proud to be me!”

  3. javajunkee says:

    that was a sweet tribute. So do you guys share a blog? I’m kind of lost…(I’m also kind of blonde) 😉

  4. Morocco says:

    I like your new motto!

  5. nikki says:

    Javajunkee, I’m Joy’s daughter in law and we do share this blog although Joy does %99 of!! I’m usually really good at getting posts to her but the last month I haven’t been very helpful and I am changing that!! I love to write but I’m also extremely sensitive so I’m trying to lean against the personal posts which kind of makes it hard to come up with something to write…I’m trying! Thanks 😉
    SI~ Thank you and I love Dr.Seuss~I love that quote! That’s I feel right now in my life.

  6. SanityFound says:

    You’d be amazed at the amount of genuine real people here in this little world of ours, each day my heart is filled with warmth and a grin comes to my face when another knocks on our doors… welcome to the world of blogging Nikki, sometimes it takes a little while to fluff out our wings but you’re ready to fly now *hugs*

  7. nikki says:

    Awww thank you Sanity!!! That means a lot to me!! I am a bird..ready to fly! 😉

  8. javajunkee says:

    well it’s glad to meet you and now I know what’s going on. 🙂 2 friends for 1..that’s pretty cool!

  9. nikki says:

    Yea but I’m not nearly as strange as Joy! 😉 jk I am!

  10. Nikki: I love that you paid me a visit yesterday, and think that your resolve for the new year is great. What i love so much about the blogging world, is that even though we create pressure on ourselves, there really is no pressure. WHen you feel compelled to write about something, you write. When you don’t, you don’t. And, you write about what you want as well. I enjoy getting to the meat and potatoes, the really emotional and deep stuff. But, that is me, not you. You write what feels natural.

    One of my favorite things that Joy does here is the question of the day; it is a change of pace, and the variety of answers is always interesting!!!

    BTW, we think she is the BOMB!!!!!!!!!!!

  11. Just a Mom says:

    Nikki, I always enjoy when you post something. Keep it up!
    It has been great getting to know Joy and her clan this past year.
    I love your new found attitude! I found the same one 2 years ago. I am still trying to perfect it though! 🙂

  12. nikki says:

    I think as long as we age it will be something we will always be perfecting!! All work in progress huh?

  13. mssc54 says:

    Nikki are you saying “Out With The Old and in With The Young?” 😉

    You’ll do just fine. Just remember, when it’s all said and done, you really only have to do what you want to do.

  14. Joy says:

    Aaww…thanks Vanessa and Just A Mom. My heads getting very enlarged!!!!

  15. Sue says:

    Hey Nikki! Sorry I didn’t get to this yesterday, but I was all tied up! I think it’s wonderful that you help mum out. I wish I had more time to write, but I barely respond on time so I kinda gave up. Joy does do A LOT for this little space and I enjoy reading everyone’s comments. I also started visiting other’s sites, but have yet to comment. We always think it’s great when someone new comes to read us, but I’ve been a little shy to jump into a new blog. Keep up the good work and maybe I’ll get motivated again!

  16. Elena says:

    Nikki – I always enjoy your posts and, while I’d love to see more, don’t be too hard on yourself! It sounds like you’ve got lots on your plate already. I know we’ll all look forward to reading your thoughts and ideas whenever you are able to get to it!

    I also really appreciate all the times you comment on my comments on this blog. You are always so friendly and welcoming and I hope you know how much it means to readers.

  17. candi says:

    Thats ok Nicole, I want to be stuck with you, and remember I am waiting. lol….. I accept u for u, and love you to death. I canm wait til summer, (softball) I cant belive I said that.

  18. SanityFound says:

    … and we’re all here to help you fly, we believe in you and love you just don’t steal my cookies ok? Coz that is just asking for trouble

    So tell me do all the women in the famdamily paint their toenails pretty purples??? LOL

    Soz couldn’t resist…

  19. nikki says:

    Me?? I’m no cookie thief…point the finger at Mr.Felix(who took a little tumble in the dryer today…opps!
    And it just so happens my toenails are painted purple!! We crazy up here in Minnesota don’t cha know! I’m thinking about putting purple streaks in my hair or maybe hot pink!!! I’m totally serious!

  20. Amy Hunter says:

    Nikki, glad to hear that 2008 was full of good changes for you. Here’s to a wonderful 2009! As for blogging, go with what you’re comfortable with. It’s just for fun–or at least that’s why I blog. I like reading about different people and hearing their perspectives. It’s a little bit of company when I get home in the evenings.

  21. DM says:

    love your new motto…I’m also working on similiar issues…I call it being comfortable in my own skin…haven’t arrived but have made good strides this year….blogging this past year feels like I”ve met family I never knew…only drawback is, some of them will take your cookies when you’re not looking.

  22. pammy says:

    I love your quote.I am also a soul searching,sensitive old gal.Again,Love Your quote.and I also Love and admire your mom-in-law,Shes a great lady.Right Joy,I have stories of her in her younger years(teen years) and younger.but all good.Joy has a good heart and shes a gem.

  23. Joy says:

    I know what you mean DM about the cookies…glancing way to the east and across the Atlantic!!!!!!

    Thanks Pammy and I do hope your going to keep some of those stories to yourself!!!!!

  24. K. Trainor says:

    Sounds like a healthy way to begin a brand new year. Congrats to you, Nikki!
    P.S. You have a great MIL. No wonder ya like her! ;0)

  25. seriouswhimsey says:

    Hi Nikki,
    This is my first time visiting your blog. Found it after spotting your comment on DM’s Heart to Heart blog. I LOVE your blog header design. Just LOVE it…the colors…the nature…everything. And I’m enjoying what I’ve read about you! You sound like such a special person. God bless you, Jason and your son!

  26. Joy says:

    Thank you so much for stopping by seriouswhimsey. We really appreciate it and hope you’ll come back.

  27. SanityFound says:

    Yeah sure blame innocent little me… hmmph *big sigh* now Joy the question is are you and Sue going to do the same to your hairballs???

  28. bojinx says:

    Hello hello… and welcome… Nikki, I have my own blog, and am also sometimes at a loss of “what should I write about next”. Each day I sit in front of the computer with a blank screen in front of me… but most days, most days I manage to write a little something… And I’m sure that you will to!!! 🙂

  29. nikki says:

    Seriouswhimsey~ I’m just seeing your comment now, thank you for visiting. The beautiful header is all thanks to Joy!!! Hope to see you back!

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