My Class Clown…gotta love him!

crazybaileyLast night I had Baileys school conferences. They are all pretty much the same, they last about 15 minutes. I always look forward to them. Last night I didn’t only because I had a severe neck ache but I slapped a smile on my face and went. Now I’m not sure about you but I normally don’t like taking Bailey to conferences. If there happens to be anything “negative” we have to address I don’t want him to hear us talking about it. Mainly because Bailey is very sensitive and he takes things very personal. So I generally don’t take him with.

I always get a bit nervous because you always want to hear your child is doing great, and there’s always that possibility of not so great news. Bailey has never had a behavioral problem, he’s a gentle soul. He’s already surpassed his year end goal for math and reading. He has an A in Physical Ed, no surprise there. I was so incredibly proud of him.

So his teacher sets all that great paperwork and tests aside and says this to me.” So here’s the problem with Bailey.” My immediate reaction was, OH NO!

I thought we were in the clear. Now I know my son likes to talk about random things, as do I, but it is becoming a problem. Like every other conference, every other year….this was their complaint. He talks too much! He’s Mr. Popular, the class clown always wanting to make people laugh. I don’t doubt that one bit. I mean his favorite show is America’s funniest home videos! His favorite actor is Adam Sandler. He loves a good laugh and loves it even more when he’s causing the big laugh. But this is a side of Bailey only people close to him see. Here at home or with his friends at school. He’s gone to school with the same kids since preschool. If he’s comfortable with you, you are in for some good belly laughs.

So I’m sitting there, for one thing I’m sitting in a chair fit for a small child so I’m already giggling inside. Why I find that funny is beyond me! Anyways…I’m trying not to let that giggle out, this is serious! He’s distracting the class, something has to be done! I told her I’d have a chat with him about it. He needs to learn when and where to be the funny comedian. I left that classroom got in my truck and literally laughed out loud. I couldn’t hold it in any longer! Besides I had to get it out because I had to go home and have a “serious” talk with Bailey.

I gather myself, put my serious mom face on and walk in the door. He looks at my face and asks, “what did I do???” I sat him down on the couch and preceded to tell him that he needed to only joke around during recess and free time when he’s at school. He said he’d try to stop, and then he said, “but that’s just who I am!”

At that moment I thought to myself…I’m telling my son not to make people laugh because it’s the one thing his teacher is having a problem with. If that’s the worse I have to face I THANK MY LUCKY STARS!!!!!!!! Considering what I did and what his dad did at that age…could I get lucky????? Jason says all the time, our time is coming. He will be 3 times worse than us. Maybe I’m just bias but I really don’t see that in Bailey. Honestly I don’t see him doing bad things as I know I did. You’re probably thinking I’m delusional and I have major blinders on. I guess time will tell! Oh I also found out that Bailey’s long time love, Emily is his girlfriend again!!!! I wrote this post about that situation called Young Love if you’d like to read it if you haven’t already.

What do you think, if you have kids do you think they will be worse than you? Were you an angel and how different were you growing up from your parents? Am I completely delusional and should I prepare myself for teen years????

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22 Responses to My Class Clown…gotta love him!

  1. SKL says:

    Based on my mom’s reports, I was pretty well-behaved. Of all the siblings, I was the last one likely to need a “talking-to” about anything. Yes, I did things that my parents didn’t know about, and yes, sometimes I did get caught, but compared to what my parents and other siblings did, it was nothing.

    Well, my daughters don’t appear likely to follow in my footsteps. Especially the younger. She is very stubborn and doesn’t take disappointment too well! The elder tends to be a clown when she’s not being too shy to talk or let go of my pant leg. I have to keep reminding myself that the standards I held myself to aren’t realistic for everyone. As a mom, of course I think my kids are wonderful, but at the same time, I can see them being a challenge at times when they are “school-age.”

    As far as the teen years, I have to say yes, prepare yourself for them. I don’t think I’ve ever known a kid who didn’t go a little nutso (myself included) during the teen years. I recall being so proud of my kid sister at age 10, she acted so much more mature than older kids; but a couple years later, I felt she was becoming more immature by the day. Those hormones really do make teens stupid. I must try to remember this as my kids get closer to “that age.” (Frankly the thought of two 13-year-old girls under the same roof scares me, and I often “joke” that I’ll be moving out about that time . . . .)

  2. K. Trainor says:

    I think you’re right, Nikki–thank your lucky stars! Bailey sounds like a well rounded, happy little boy. Enjoy him!

    As for our kids, I’m praying they’ll be just like me until they get out of the house…and then I’m praying they’ll turn into my sister. lol! Their dad was a hellion from day 1, although he is a fine, upstanding citizen now. I was good all through school (mostly), but once I moved out–OY.

    All we can do is teach them the best we know how, pay attention and PRAY, right? lol!

  3. javajunkee says:

    ahhh and another reason we chose homeschooling. I could tell right away that my now 17 year old son would be in trouble all the time. Is your son artistic (yes I spelled that right….you know artsy fartsy?)…has an imagination? ( I can almost say yes to that with his costume)…that’s what I have on my hands. I have a 17 year old that could at this moment somewhere…maybe not in podunk Iowa…but somewhere in this word probably make a pretty good living with his artwork. He reminds me of an Andy Warhol. I’m sorry but public school would have squashed that right out of him.

    Your story reminded me of that episode of Rosanne where she had to go in and talk to Darlenes teacher who told her that Darlene barked in class. Rosanne wanted to know what the problem was ..the whole family barked. ROFLMAO! My nephew is a lot like my son and finally they took him out of school (ok now we are talking like another 17 year old)…and let him get his GED. He would run around the teachers at school hissing at them. These kids will be your future leaders…or rock musicians or artists.

    I could go on and on…..but dude puhhhhlease do not let the public school turn him into one of those sausage links like in the Pink Floyd movie The Wall. Maybe he’s bored. And hell if he’s that funny just wait you might be raising the next greatest stand up comedian.

  4. javajunkee says:

    oh I forgot to answer the question. …. detention was actually on my schedule. I’m not even shitting you.

  5. Gary says:

    I don’t think that your kids will be necessarily worse than what you were at all. I was a hell raiser when I was a kid and on into my early 20’s and eventually grew up. My 17 year old son is nothing like his mother and I were. He never is in trouble at school or at home for that matter. He has a good group of friends he hangs with and really no problems with him. My ex-wife and I are wondering where these traits came from because we were both very different from him.

    Should you prepare for the teen years? I would say yes, because it’s always best to be prepared. I have always told my son he would never get away with anything because I have used all the excuses with my parents and did it all. He must have taken me seriously. 🙂

  6. Tessa says:

    Nikki, you made my morning 🙂 That was seriously cute! I absolutley love that you laughed out loud in the truck by yourself! And had to hold it in! Priceless. That is happiness right here and it is great to hear! Love it. Bailey is so sweet! I think it is a FANTASTIC trait to make others laugh. Those are the students and classmates and people you remember forever.

    Personally, I think if you instill the right values and love, definitely he will be not so bad as a teen. I think if your child respects you fully, respects the father too, then he will try to make you happy. Yes, experiment here and there, but his focus will be on your focus! They mock what they see.

    I was an A student, did great, was a good girl except a party here and there until my senior year. Eric likes to believe it was him that got me crazy, but the truth is I had some deep issues to deal with from my dad not being around and my mom not explaining to me enough or knowing I was hurting growing up. I hurt so bad as a child and unleashed it as a teen as soo many do. I smoked pot, I got arrested once, I drank straight vodka at times, and had my fun at many parties before settling down with Eric at 20. I worried my mom to death senior yr and after hs.

    My mom was raised in a traditional, 6 kid, family-but her mom was critical-judgmental and it hurt her. She moved out right away as I did and fell in love. My dad raised, 6 kid family, had a crazy mom (love my grandma but she was crazy-mental illness maybe) and put him in a orphanage for a few months and who knows what else, his dad committed suicide, his brother too, and another died on a motorcycle….so yea….he had deep, deep issues and still does.

    Sorry for the book!! Great post!! Thank you.

  7. Doraz says:

    Nikki, if you trust in the child rearing techniques you are using with your son, you will have no worries down the road! Just enjoy, children grow up too quickly! I grew up in a “tradition” Italian family…lots of love…lots of craziness…lots of smacking! Ha Ha Ha *)*…It worked! ROFL

  8. Tessa says:

    I should have explained too, I think if your parents have issues unresolved and you feel this or see this as a child/teen- it affects you deeply because no one likes to see their parent hurt, it hurts them. So if you and Jason are happy, all issues resolved from childhood, and give Bailey rules, and follow through on your word, he will be happy too!

  9. Tessa says:

    Doraz, I LOVE how Italian and other cultures kiss and hug a lot and are so close!! I want my family to be like that.

  10. Just a Mom says:

    Great post! My last conference for my 9 year old daughter ended with her teacher showing me a drawing that was done on my daughter’s eraser board. It was a very good drawing of a sea urchin. The teacher said she would buy my daughter a new board because she was keeping that one. She ended the conversation with, “You are a very talented little girl, but please don’t draw when you are supposed to be taking notes!” I laughed in front of the teacher, I couldn’t help it! I told my daughter to hide it better next time! I know I am a bad influence! 🙂

    I think all kids test the boundaries. I think it’s how we, the parents, react that will decide if they will be little hellions!

  11. Joy says:

    I was never a fan of taking kids to conferences either Nik. If there is something going on, I think it makes the kids feel like everyone is ganging up on them and I don’t feel that’s fair. That way I could go home and beat them with a baseball bat in private.

    I also felt so stupid sitting in those little chairs. What in the world is up with that anyway??? I never could figure it out. I worked in most of those buildings and I know FULL WELL that they have “big” chairs for “big” people. The worst part was the teachers sat on a “big people” chair and always looked down on you!!! HUH??? When we go to music programs and such, we get “big people” chairs!!! Your getting in the truck and collapsing in laughter almost made me wet my pants!! That is so ME!

    I never got into to much trouble. I was pretty much a “if I do this, this will” happen kind of kid. I knew where that fine line was but man, talking…that was another story. I just couldn’t keep my mouth shut! Paul takes great relish in the fact that so far, all the kids are like me that way. They have grandma’s big mouth!! Or so HE says cuz I don’t see it!! LOL. If this is it, you don’t have much to worry about. There are much worse things. Just learning when it’s the right time is the key and he’ll learn. I think he has a lot of Uncle Toby in him.

    You know, kids go through stuff. We all did and so will he. You just have to make sure he knows you love him no matter what. You may not always like his behavior all the time but you still love him. Just be there for him and he’ll do just fine.

  12. starlaschat says:

    I think you should enjoy every minute with your wonderful child and not to worry about teen years. They will be here soon enough, and I’m sure you will do your best when you cross that bridge. Talking to much was always the compliant about me at teachers conferences. Including one angry note from a teacher who said ” I was talking non stop so she separated me from the class into an isolated room. Than she said I just talked and laughed to myself. Not much has changed I’m still easily amused. Maybe he will be a blogger when he grows up. Am I talking too much?

  13. Doraz says:

    Tessa, nothing to hold you back! Got for it!

  14. mssc54 says:

    Well first of all (speaking as the former Class Clown) of my class, I now wish I would have toned it down just a bit during the instruction portion of class.

    You know those elections each class has every year? Mr. this, Ms. that? Well in the seventh grade I was voted “Wittiest”. Which, as we all know, is another way of saying “Biggest Smartass!”

    Just make sure his grades are good and that he is not affecting (negatively) other’s ability to perform their work. Each class/teacher will be different.

    I think it’s impossible to say that our children will be worse or better than we were. First of all each child will be different and may or may not go through cycles of this or that.

    One thing for sure though, I am a big believer in the biblical precept of speaking things into existance. If it were me I would definately NOT say that my child is going to be hell on wheels or terrible or anything like that!

    When our middle daughter was 13-15 years old. OMG!!! She was just terrible! I would say things like “she just has not realized who she really is yet”, or “one day soon she will…”. Around 16ish it was like a switch flipped.

  15. SKL says:

    This reminds me of my kids sister. When she was in 1st grade, the teacher’s comment on the report card was “she is a loving child who talks to everyone all the time.” Wasn’t sure if that was a complaint or a compliment. Over the years, it got more clear. “Talks too much. Talks too much. Talks too much.” She would do it at home, too. By the time she was a tween, she would interrupt herself to say “I know I’m talking too much, but . . .” and continue her story. I always found her prattle entertaining, so I suppose I was part of the problem.

    Myself, I couldn’t imaging talking out of turn at school all the time. I was afraid of being punished. I guess times have changed.

    One smart thing some of my sister’s teachers did was make her a peer tutor. She would finish her work before time was up, so the teacher would have her go around and help those who were struggling. This gave her a chance to interact while furthering the teacher’s goals.

    As a teen, she was very active in everything that involves running the mouth – drama, chorus, model UN, church musicals, jobs that required blabbing, etc. – so hopefully she didn’t feel a need to run her mouth at times when she shouldn’t. Though, by that age, I guess the teachers would have taken it up directly with her.

    I agree with those who say that the gift of gab will really help your son if it’s channeled well. My sister had a lot stronger resume in her younger years than I did, because I was too scared to participate in anything that required opening my mouth. Seems it’s easier to learn to shut up at the right times than to learn how to talk at the right times.

  16. SKL says:

    I meant kid sister, not kids sister . . . .

  17. nikki says:

    I love everyones comments so far!!

    Javajunkee, I promise you I won’t let them squash a single thing outa him! He is artsy, he always has been. He’s a lot like his dad that way. He loves writing cursive and his teacher said he has the most beautiful cursive she’s seen from a 3rd grader. He loves to draw and to make believe and by judging his projects compared to the other kids…his imagination is always running wild. LOL I encourage that always!

    He really is a great kid and has such a love for life. And yes he’s SO like his Uncle Toby!!! The only 2 I know that can be entertained by making funny pictures out of ketchup! lmao!!!

  18. Sue says:

    I didn’t say boo in school. At all. Ever. I saved it for home:) It’s not that I saved it really; it’s more like I was just more comfortable at home so I let me feelings be known.

    My daughter is a talker. We also had conferences recently and the teacher said she gets her work done and then she talks. That’s ok, but she’s talking to the kids that don’t have their work done! So, I had to talk to her about talking. Funny, huh?

    My husband was the class clown from the stories I’ve heard. And like others from above, each child is different so their behaviors and attitudes will be different. At least it was him being a class clown instead of being the class bully! It could always be worse!

  19. mssc54 says:

    You know, it just occurred to me that we fuss at our children when they’re in school to keep their mouths shut. No talking.

    Then when they get married we are amazed that they can not communicate!!!

    As I said before, I was the Class Clown. I rarely kept my mouth shut. May 4th will be our 35 wedding anniversayr.

    Prolly just a coincidence.

  20. javajunkee says:

    that’s a good point mssc54…we start teaching them to talk earlier and earlier only to keep them shut up for so many years in school. That was an excellent point!

  21. Amy Hunter says:

    Sounds like you’ve got your head screwed on straight in terms of putting this in context. And those tiny chairs make me laugh too. I don’t have kids, but I vote in an elementary school, and I always feel like a giant when I’m in there.

  22. Sharon says:

    I suppose that’s one way of looking at. There is a time & a place for certain behavior & kids need to learn when that time & place are. A teacher works many hard hours preparing for her class & the last thing she needs is a student who chooses to be a disruption.
    It’s not only disrespectful for the teacher but for the students who are actually trying to listen & learn something. I think we’re just setting them up for an even more difficult time down the road if we choose to ignore their disrespectful behavior & not do something about it. It’s one thing to nurture the artistic side of our kids but a totally different thing to allow them to just do what they do because that’s just who they are. They’re kids & they need guidelines. I think we have too much of “that’s just the way I am” mentality going on today. People are using that to dismiss their actions & not take responsibility for them. I know my children are capable of more then that.

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