Question of the day

perfectionHow do you avoid conflict?

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10 Responses to Question of the day

  1. Doraz says:

    Well Joy, I “pick” which situations I feel I “should” have a conflict over and I just smile and avoid the ones I think are “petty!” I have no problem, what so ever, with confrontation~~~~if I need it!

  2. SKL says:

    See, now this is where I always get in trouble. I feel like if something isn’t right, someone ought to speak against it. Unfortunately not everyone feels that way. And then you have people who are never wrong. So I have to go against my grain if I want peace in my life.

    One of my favorite tricks is to “lose first.” You can predict how it’s going to end – if you fight to the finish, the other person (who is wrong) is going to rip you a new one and then demand an apology, and because the only other option is moving to Timbuktu and starting a new life, you are going to give in at that point. Don’t do it! Give up now. “You’re right.” After you try it a few times, it starts to get easier.

  3. Morocco says:

    I try to treat others as I want to be treated, as well as picking and choosing my battles.

  4. nikki says:

    Ya know that changes for me. Sometimes I’m stubborn as all get up and will get right up in a confrontation. It also depends on who it is with. With my brother, I walk away. Not sure why I still do that but I do! My mood has been off the last week or so. If a confrontation was brought to me right now I may blow up, that’s not normal for me though so hopefully it will pass!!

  5. pammy says:

    It depends on my mood.I have learnt that those who or never wrong,never give in.I walk away from those kinds.Its too draining on my mind and body.It can upset me so bad that I get ill.So walking away sometimes is best.I am not a fighter,only when it involves others close to my heart,I can be a momma bear.And I defend to the end if I am right.I do admit also when I am in the wrong.In all my years i am tired of those people who thrive on confrontations.I avoid them as much as possible.I will defend myself in an attack of verbal abuse,but if I see that they are not listening to a word i say and just rant on and on,I walk away.i walk away knowing I tried my best and leave it at that.I also believe as stated above,I treat others as I want to be treated.If someone is treating me bad,thats not in my grain as a person,I walk away.I dont hate anyone.But I dont have too like the way they treat me,or the way they act.I can chose to not be around those kinds of people.

  6. Gary says:

    It really depends on who the other person is. I try to avoid confrontation with my wife like the plague! I usually just agree with her to avoid her wrath. I often find myself saying things like, “yes dear, I am a complete moron” or “You are totally right and I couldn’t be MORE wrong.” If it saves a confrontation with my wife then ROCK ON!! She can sometimes go on for HOURS and I just don’t have ANY interest in that. LOL

    If it is someone on the street or something like that, I don’t really try to avoid confrontation. I treat others like I would like to be treated and that seems to work well for me. If somone is just an ass about something, then WATCH OUT!

  7. Joy says:

    I usually try and walk away. There isn’t much more in the world I hate more than fighting with someone. That and someone else trying to keep stoking the fires and not wanting to just let it drop!!! I hate that. It’s not important to me to tell someone they are a moron. It’s okay if I just think it to myself and know “in my head” that I’m right!!!

  8. tessa says:

    I confront conflict upfront and honest. If I see there is no winning with the person, I step away.

  9. mssc54 says:

    The only to avoid conflict is to lock yourself in the bathroom and never come out.

    Otherwise try to be prepared with an answer for things before they come up.

    Wow, look at the temp over there. 38 – break out the shorts! lol

  10. nikki says:

    LOL…that is so funny mssc, I actually have every window in my house open!!! It is glorious outside…birds are singing like there’s no tomorrow. 🙂

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