I have been a member of Classmates.com for a long time now. Maybe 5 years or so. I just pay the minimum each year. I find it fun going there every now and then to see if I can find anyone I “used” to know and hope to catch up with someone. In all that time, I’ve not talked to anyone until just a few weeks ago. A “girl”, woman is hard to think about since I really remember her more by her picture in the jr high yearbook than I do by what she looks like now. With the picture in there that she has, I would never have place her. I could have bumped into her and not known who she was but when I looked at her picture from back then, I remembered her right away.
She lived across the street from someone I was pretty good friends with and that’s why she contacted me. She remembered me. So now I chat with her there and on Facebook every few days. It’s really been kind of fun. But, it got me to thinking, what was I really like back then and how do other people remember me?
I wasn’t a mean kid. I was pretty nice. I was involved in a lot of activities so my “group” of friends really varied. I swam, danced, played softball, broom-ball and gymnastics. I was a cheerleader in jr high and was on the dance-line in 9th grade. I also played the flute and was in the choir. So my “clicks” were all over the place. I seemed to know kids from everywhere. That in itself is a good thing really. I feel I was very well rounded as a child. I don’t think I did “to much” and most everything I did was done at different times of the year. I didn’t run from one thing to the other.
I hate to use the word *popular* here but it’s the only one I can think of. I was popular in the way that I knew a lot of different kids. I was borderline “really good” at what I did but I was more of a “coat-tail” hanger on. I was always on the “it” teams and did the “it” things but wasn’t by any means the “best” at anything. Well, except for swimming. I really excelled at that but that’s not like the cheerleader type of popularity. I think those of you reading this know what I mean and what I’m getting at.
To my knowledge, I was never deliberately mean to anyone nor did I ever make fun of anyone. I’m a pretty sensitive person. But even though it was never me personally saying or doing anything mean, I was in groups when others did it. I was a bystander but still, that isn’t nice. I should have stood up to things that bothered me. But at the time, I wasn’t sure what to do. I wasn’t a ringleader of anything. Nothing was ever really bad, more like ignoring but still, I feel bad now. I have felt bad over the years about this because when you get older, you think more about it.
So, it does lead me to wonder, what people do remember. It’s hard to say what others remember because there are things I remember that others don’t and things they remember that I don’t. What were you like as a kid? What “groups” were you in and if you could do things over, would you? Not relive it because who would want to do that but just little things, do they ever bother you now?