I think this is such an interesting topic. Do you think opposites really attract or do you believe “birds of a feather flock together?” You can read a little more about it here if you want to.
My personal opinion is that I can’t see how it can work in the long run. It may be fun to date someone who is the opposite of you but how can last over time? If you are as opposite as black to white, how can that really survive the test of time? If you are constantly locking horns over every issue, how can that not lead to a lot of fighting and arguing? IF in truth we are talking “total opposites” that is.
How would you ever decide anything? What to eat, where to go, what to do? There would be arguments over a lot of things I would imagine. It would be one thing to have different interests but interests are different than not agreeing on the basics of life. Things like politics and religion, that would be so hard. Wouldn’t fighting be normal if you lived like that? I’ll tell you one thing, I couldn’t live with fighting all the time. That isn’t normal in my book. I hate fighting.
Maybe this just means that some things are opposite but not totally. Some women hate sports and most men love them. A lot of men and women don’t like the same movies or music but those things in a relationship are more of a give and take kind of deal. Nobody likes all the same things as someone else. When I first met Paul he was a dire hard sports fan. Vikings more than anything and I didn’t even know what a first down was and I thought, I can either learn the game or be alone every Sunday and Monday night. So I learned the game and LOVE it now. I like music, him, not so much but what I’m getting at is you have to compromise but if your totally opposite, would you even try to do that?
Basically, Paul and I like a lot of the same things. Day to day things. We agree politically, morally and the actives such as fishing, bowling, swimming and boating, we both really like. We tend to like most of the same television shows and movies. So, he slept through Sweet Home Alabama but who’s counting! We agreed how we wanted to raise our kids and how we wanted to live our lives. If you don’t enjoy the same things, do you just do all those things alone? I’m kind of wondering how anyone could want that kind of marriage or relationship.
Have you been in, or are in, an “opposites attract” relationship? Or do you need a lot in common in a relationship? What do you think?
SIDE-NOTE: If your in a relationship and are HOPING to change someone, they DON’T.