You are going out for the evening. If your partner objects to what you are wearing, would you change your clothing?
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Depends on a lot of things. Does he have a clue about style? Is he being helpful or being a jerk? Are we going to visit his parents??
I have to admit that I got a sick feeling when I saw this question, because I had an ex who would criticize my looks every chance he got. What he thought he was accomplishing, I never understood. Once he did say that when he and I walked down the street, he wanted the other men to look at me and think what a hot chick he was with. I also found out he had another girlfriend who presumably dressed better and had better hair. Oh well. His loss.
Absolutely! My husband didn’t ask too often, but when he did I was happy to oblige. He was very protective of me and did not like me wearing things he considered too “revealing” especially if he was not accompanying me.
He also had a very good sense of fashion and I therefore welcomed his opinions as he was not caustic or demanding. He would simply suggest that something else would look better.
Ya I do usually change because once he says something to that affect…I start 2nd guessing my choices. Plus we both like the other to look good. If I really feel good in what I’m wearing I might just stay that way. I do have a random style I like to call it. I play around a lot with fashion…even though I don’t really go anywhere too important. I like to pretend I’m some super model or celeb or something…I know I’m weird! Somethings I’d LOVE to wear I know are TOO mainstream for the mid-west though…that kinda sux!
Honestly, it depends what “mood” I am in!!! If I am mad at him…I do what I want!!! ROFL If I am OK with him, I consider what he is saying and his reasoning for it…if it makes sense, I will change! LOL
I can’t imagine this scenario. He would never object to what I wore.
It depends on if he objected because it was too revealing or because it looked ugly! I don’t wear “too revealing” of clothing so if he’s going to object it’ll be because he thinks it’s ugly! Then, I’d second guess myself, but if I liked it, I’d probably wear it and then ask my girfriends how I looked when we got to where we were going!
I dont even wanna go there.From my past experiences i could write a book.HORROR> Now a days I wear what I feel is appropriate for the occasion.My kids are my best critics.They have good taste,they usually like what I put together.If they dont,I look in the mirror,if i see what they are saying is true,I will change.If I dont see what they are saying,I wont.And they still love me anyway 🙂
Since this very very very rarely happens, yes I would. I would figure that since it happens so little, I must have really chose the wrong thing to wear and should go change. 😀
Honestly, no, I would not change. If the person you are with has to tell you to change then maybe you should not be with that person.
I agree with you but didn’t know how to put it.
But if something doesn’t look right on Jason I tell him and vice versa. I appreciate it when he tells me, and more than half the time I end up agreeing. I always like another opinion but I don’t think that means I shouldn’t be with him. I guess I don’t understand that. It would actually hurt my feelings if he didn’t care.
Maybe we all took this the wrong way or there’s more than one way to read this.
I took the word “object” to mean he didn’t like what I was wearing and therefore being bossy or “controlling” with me. I know someone who’s husband told her what to wear, what to talk about, who she could sit by…. blah, blah, blah….so that’s how I took this question. I didn’t read it to mean if you didn’t look “right” or something was “off” that he couldn’t tell you. I took it to mean something else.
Can you imagine Paul telling me to change what I was wearing?? I just guess I can’t relate to this question. You know who I’m thinking of as far as who the “controller” is.
Ohhh ok. Yea if Jason flat out told me to take something off. I would tell him to F*CK OFF!! LOL I get it. He has never came out and said something without me asking for his opinion first. I totally misunderstood the question. My bad! 🙂
I’m not sure that you misunderstood the question Nikki. Maybe we just all read it differently.
I suppose. I’d die if Paul said anything like that to you! It’s just not “him!”
I don’t know, I guess it depends on the type of spouse you have. I didn’t see it as him trying to “change” me. Clothes don’t make the man, him suggesting that I change my ensemble doesn’t take anything from who I am. I have a strong sense of self so it would take a lot more than my husband voicing his opinion about my outfit to shatter/hurt me. If I agreed with his perspective I changed, if not, I didn’t and there was no harm or foul. He was the same way when I suggested that he wear something else. I guess its just not that deep of an issue to me.
“Going out for the evening” implies that the whole point of going out is to enjoy each other’s company and too have a pleasent experience; perhaps even make a nice memory or two.
I think if my Mrs. would mention that she prefer I wear “A” instead of “B” I would readily change. To do otherwise would self-centered, selfish and prideful.
But hey that’s just my (correct) opinion.
All this situational “I will, if” junk tells alot about the current state of relationships.
The reason I said that I can’t really imagine this is because in almost 30 years of marriage, Paul has never once asked me or questioned me on what I was wearing for any occasion. Now me on the other hand, I would only mention it if he were wearing a bright green shirt with red and black plaid vest. It’s in his best interest if I do that.
I’m lucky some of the stuff I have worn out, it’s not too sleezy but sometimes I… even wonder who was in charge of dressing me, and who made the color choices. Oh well ,my husband is pretty sweet, actually he is a real snappy dresser and what ever he wears he pulls it off, and looks like a model, I don’t know how he does it I think some people just wear clothes well, he is one of those. Some time’s I ask him what he thinks I should wear to a fancy event, he usually makes a pretty good choice. LOL
Considering that the fiance has very little fashion sense himself, I must be wearing something pretty atrocious for him to suggest that I change. So, in that case, I probably would.