I think this is something that we can all relate to. Whining and fighting. I think there are just some people who like to whine and like to fight. Don’t we all know people like this? When this was on the news the other night, I wanted to check it out and see what they had to say about it.
When I watched this, it kind of surprised me. My kids didn’t really whine in the way they were talking about. If I told my kids to go do their homework or it was time to take a bath, they didn’t really whine about it. They whined more often while fighting with each other. It was classic fighting I think. Jason would tease Toby quietly and then Toby would whine “Jason stop it” and I’d yell up to Toby to quit it and Jason would laugh at him for getting yelled at. I did this to Darryl too. Classic oldest picking on the younger one.
I dealt with fighting in two ways. If they fought over a game or TV show or a toy, I’d just walk over, remove said object and walked away. Or I’d turn off the TV and leave them sitting there. If they were fighting over nothing, I’d send them both off to sit in the same room together. There’s nothing that will stop a fight like that. As soon as they realize they’re not “getting to you,” there’s nothing to fight over. I think a lot of kids like to fight just to get attention and once they aren’t, you’d be surprised how fast they stop. We also didn’t have “time outs.” They weren’t invented yet so this worked for me.
Sometimes I do feel all this “talking” we do with kids just prolongs things. You can talk till your blue in the face and if they feel they are getting somewhere, they will just keep up the debate. I don’t do debating with a child. I just don’t and my kids got away with an awful lot but once they knew I was done and sick of it, they generally stopped because once I was to that point, they knew it was over. I wasn’t mean but I was the parent and I wasn’t about to explain everything to them for an hour when I can stop it right now. I’m not about to start listening to some lame story that goes on and on about the “why” they just hit their brother over the head with a 2X4!! Come on people.
But I do have to admit there were some good idea’s on this program. Do you have to deal with the fighting and whining? Just whining? Just fighting? What do you do or what do you plan to do if your not there yet?