I’m not sure what the deal is with all the “emotional cheating” talk but it’s been discussed almost everywhere I’ve gone the last few days. I saw one the other day that almost made me feel ill. I was watching a TV program where the wife thought as long as there was no sex, it was perfectly fine if she texted men or went out to dinner and even kiss them. She really thought this was all okay and then got mad at her husband because he didn’t trust her. I hate to link Dr Phil on here because lately I think he’s gotten lame but this story quite frankly made me sick.
With all the tools available on the Internet, this doesn’t really surprise me but I’m not sure how some of these people can really think it’s okay to go out and almost date when they’re married.
This is also above and beyond and men and women being “just” friends. Friends don’t need to sneak around and instant message at 5 AM and meet secretly in parking lots. It’s the whole “secret” thing that shatters the friendship role. I feel if your lying to your spouse, your cheating whether there is sex involved or not.
I’m not sure how I’d feel if I got cheated on. I’m sure it’s gut-wrenching but is there a difference in “how” you do it? Would you feel differently if it was “just” sex or would it bother you if it was just “emotional?”
I’ve thought about this a lot and to me, I would hate it if my husband took all his thoughts and feelings, fears and happiness’ to someone else. I think that would bother me more than a meaningless sexual affair. If there is a close bond with someone that would mean it’s been ongoing and a lot of time has been spent talking to this other person and it would really make me jealous and sad. With a quick affair, it would just be over. I’ve heard way to many people say “it meant nothing to me” and it probably didn’t. I’m not saying by any stretch that it’s okay but for me, a sexual affair I think I could handle more than my husband taking all his emotions and giving them away to someone else. All our family things and things with our kids and things about me, that would really, REALLY hurt me.
How about you? Do you think these emotional affairs are okay? Do you think online “flirting” is harmless? Talking to someone about things that are important to you such as your hopes and dreams? To you, is the actual act of sex the only way it’s “cheating” to you? How would you feel if your partner did this?