Have you ever called someone an ex’s name? Have you ever been called an ex’s name? I know these things are called a “Freudian slip“. I could imagine it could be very hurtful. It has happened to me twice. Yep, Paul has done this to me twice. The first time we were in front of all my relatives in Canada. IN FRONT OF ALL THOSE PEOPLE!! That he had JUST met for the first time. It didn’t really bother me at first and I don’t even think a lot of people caught it because there was another woman there with the same name and most of them might have thought he was talking to her. Once it sunk in my aunt said to me “at least he didn’t do it when you were making love!” Right, because then he would have been dead!!!
I was very young though and I’m sure that’s why it didn’t bother me that much because I knew he didn’t mean it. It just wasn’t meant and that’s what a Freudian slip is. You mean to say one thing and another comes out instead. I could have been a jerk about it and embarrassed him but I knew in my heart he didn’t mean it.
The second time it happened was a kind of “crisis” situation. We had gotten Toby a stroller when he was just a baby and we must not have put it together just right and when we put him in it, it collapsed and kind of folded together. He was stuck in it but wasn’t hurt but it scared us to death and he called me again by his ex wife’s name. That time it didn’t bother me at all. He said a similar thing happened with his oldest son and it was like a flashback. We were both scared and stuff happens. I think the older you get the more you can see things for what they are and know it was just a fluke, a mistake and it doesn’t mean anything in the grand scheme of things.
I guess what you have to try and remember if something like this happens, it’s not that the person doesn’t love you and it’s not like they tried to hurt you. It’s just from the brain to the mouth, something else just popped out. I should state for the record that this happened 31 and 29 years ago. So even though I never held a grudge or even really got mad, I never did forget it. Hhhmmm…I’m just kidding Paul.
Have you ever done this or has it ever happened to you? Did you go off the deep end or take it in stride?