I quite often get good idea’s for some of these posts from other people. Pam and I were talking about this and she said I should write one about all the different masks that people, including us, wear. You know the one you put on for your work life or the one you wear for your friends. I just wonder sometimes how many the “normal” person has.
For me personally, I used to do this a lot more when I was younger. As I’ve aged, I could care less what some people think of me. I still do have a few that I wear. Do you?
There were a lot of times in my life where I was really unhappy but my need to make sure nobody worried about me, I hid behind a mask and just acted like things were fine. Rosy in fact. I guess that was my Mary Sunshine mask. Then you have the work one where you don’t really show a whole lot of your true self because you have a job to do. You are expected to act and be a certain way so you adjust that mask. You’re still who you are but you smooth down any rough edges you may have.
I also had a “friend” one. One that I wore to people who were really more of an acquaintance than a friend. You may hide certain things that these people may not approve of so you don’t really lie, you just don’t say. You just keep certain private things, private.
There is also a “painful” mask that if you’re hurt, you just put on for one reason or another. You may not be ready to share or shed it but you don’t want to cause worry or you may be ashamed. In the case of abuse or childhood trauma, we may feel guilt so on that mask goes. Everything is fine if you don’t acknowledge it or aren’t ready to heal yet. Sometimes I’ve known people who have worn masks like these for most of their lives. The emotional mask to me is the hardest one to shed.
Like I said before, I don’t do this much anymore. I feel this is the way I am and if you don’t like it, adiós. I still have my “out in public” mask that I’m not sure you can ever get rid of. It’s not like you can say what you really think at all times for fear of being seen as a total jerk. Because most times you get annoyed or irritated, it’s really a small thing that will pass in a few minutes and it’s best to keep some thoughts in your own little head.
I can honestly say there are only a handful of people, and that is on one hand, that REALLY know the real unmasked me and I am secure in the fact that no matter what, I can totally be myself with them no matter what. I can sit with them and try putting a mask on but they know me to well and come right out and say, this is me, who are you kidding and it is a good feeling.
What Pam and I wondered is how many do most of us have? Do you find yourself often wearing to many masks or are you one of the lucky ones who never does this?