What would you do?
This is the bike Paul and I got Bailey for his birthday last week. He got it on Thursday night and by Sat afternoon it was broken. Jason and Nikki had a “family only” party for Bailey this year at a park in Buffalo. They did invite one friend who Jason grew up with in Minnetoka who we just reconnected with on Facebook and hadn’t seen since 1995. Jason has known her since they were 5 and she ended up marrying his best friend from high school so it was the perfect opportunity for all of us to see them. Other than that, they wanted it just to be family this year.
Very long story short. A “friend” just showed up. Her oldest daughter (10 years old) took the bike which was parked under the shelter where we had all our food. She didn’t ask, she just got on the bike. We all saw her do this but I guess didn’t think much of it other than how did she know who’s bike it was and how could you just get on someone’s bike and take off like that? All the other kids were playing in the bandshell.
She rode it down to where the kids were and her younger sister (9 years old) made her get off the bike and she took it. Bailey then asked for his bike back and she told him “no, I’m not done yet.” She then procedded to ride it as fast as she could into the side of the bandshell. The tire went to went to the right, the bike frame went in the other direction and she went flying over the handlebars into the grass. Here’s a pic of the bandshell.
What you can’t see in this picture is that on each side, it’s got like a brick wall coming out about 20 feet on each side and around 3 1/2 feet high which is what the girl hit. The frame bent around the front wheel, the brake got locked up and the front tire wouldn’t move. Jason kind of got it fixed today if you want to call it that. He had to try and unbend the frame to loosen up the tire but now that metal will be weaker and how long is it going to last and what I worry about is is it safe?
Okay, the mom rounded up the kids and ran to their car and took off without a word before the kids could tell us what was wrong. I don’t believe the mom knew what happened until already on the way somewhere else but wouldn’t you have come back? There wasn’t even a phone call of “I’m sorry” or anything.
This is what has me wondering what the heck.
#1. I “could” get Bailey another bike but what would that tell him? What kind of message does this send him? If something breaks, grandma and grandpa will just buy me a new one. I don’t like that message.
#2. What kind of message does this tell us about the daughter who took the bike in the first place? That she just takes what she wants without asking. We were told today that she did ask Bailey but we adults were all sitting right there and we saw her hop on that bike before she even saw Bailey. The kids weren’t there.
#3. What does this say about the younger daughter? That she can bully her sister and make her get off the bike? That when asked by the owner she can just full force run into a brick wall and wreck the bike and leave it there and run for the car because mom is calling? She can just do what she wants and the hell with anyone else? There are no consequences for her actions? To date, there have been no phone calls. There was a very weak apology on Facebook and that’s only because we all couldn’t believe they weren’t going to replace the bike.
What is this world coming to? I know when you’re young, money is tight sometimes but if either one of my boys had done something like this, which I believe now after talking to everyone, was intentional, they would have either had to empty out their piggy bank or give the kid who’s bike they broke, their bike. What the heck kind of a message does this send these two girls? Is it any wonder why people are the way they are? Doesn’t anyone teach their children accountability anymore or is everyone just out for themselves? Both of these girls now think it’s okay to take what you want, break it and you don’t even have to apologize. As of right now, Sunday night, 8:00 PM, Bailey has not received an apology.
This is so wrong on so many levels.
What would you do?
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