I saw this show a while ago but it just wouldn’t leave my head and then I saw it somewhere else one day last week and thought I’d throw it out to all of you and see what you think.
Let’s say you’re married or in a very committed relationship and neither of you wanted kids. The man very candidly had told his girlfriend that he has never wanted children and he’d talked to many doctors about getting a vasectomy but nobody would perform one on him due to his young age. She in turn told him that she was unable to have children and was also on birth control for another issue. So it was funny when she ended up pregnant. The man walked out, she had the baby and he was ordered to pay $500 a month in child support.
This link in the only one I could find. It’s the same story but I didn’t see it on Dr. Phil. I saw it on a family law type show. I should point out that in this one, Dr. Phil talks about him not wearing a condom so he should be partly to blame but in the program I saw, he did say he wore a condom for a very long time in the relationship until the woman started feeling like “he didn’t trust her.”
In the end I feel very sorry for this child because this man wants nothing to do with it and at the time I saw this show, he had never seen the child. But this man also pointed out that in this case, it was all up to the woman and he just had to deal with whatever she wanted to do and that she had many other choices but he only had her choice.
What do you think? I know women who tried to get pregnant and we’ve all heard the “she tricked him” stories. I feel in this case that I feel for this man. He had made the decision that he never wanted kids to the extreme that he’d tried getting a vasectomy and she got pregnant on purpose while lying to him about not being able to get pregnant and then being on the pill. So if she just wanted a baby, why sue him for the next 18 years? Don’t you find this woman has any responsibility at all in this? I know everyone will mention and feel for the child but the horse is already out of the barn door and this situation is already a situation.
Do you think the man should have to pay?