Changing how we blog

taking a breakI never thought I would do or say this. I love blogging and have had a great time doing it but it’s just gotten to the point that’s it’s not easy doing it anymore. I feel the biggest thing is we aren’t having the “conversations” we had in the beginning. When people are talking back and forth, it’s fun and it’s all worth it.

On Monday July 27, we had 512 hits and 33 comments. On Tues July 28, we had 522 hits and 20 comments. Then on Wednesday July 29, we had 645 hits and 25 comments. So that’s a three day total of 1679 hits and not even 100 comments. Now this either means nobody likes what we are writing or just aren’t taking the time to make comments. Or that people are just away doing other things but the point is, we are getting the hits but nobody is saying anything. I also know a lot of our regular commenters are away on vacations and such and the people who do come everyday but don’t comment are still coming but it makes us feel like nobody is talking.

The only reason I started to blog in the first place was to talk to other people and now that’s just not happening. The payoff in blogging, for me, is the commenting back and forth and if that’s not happening, I’m just not interested in keeping it up the way we have been. I’m not shutting it down but rather just not putting new stuff on everyday. It’s just way to time consuming for me and to the other writers and we feel if nobody is saying anything, maybe we just aren’t as interesting as we used to be. That may not be how you feel when you come to read but that’s how we feel when we take the time to write and then nobody says anything. Honestly, when one of us writes a post and it doesn’t get many comments, we feel it was a crappy post. We feel bad.

Think of it this way, if you worked hard planting a garden and then the harvest went to waste. Everyone looked at your garden and told you how beautiful it was but nobody wanted to eat your food. It’s really hard thinking of things to write and do the Question Of The Day 365 days a year and you may answer it in your head or to your spouse or whoever is sitting in your living room but we don’t know that so we think what we wrote wasn’t anything anyone was interested in so the payoff isn’t there for us anymore.

So I hope you will come back and check on us. Maybe when fall and winter hits things will change. We’ll see but in the meantime, we’ll still blog, just not new stuff everyday.

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49 Responses to Changing how we blog

  1. Vicki says:

    I’m guilty as charged..im a reader more then a commenter..sean too..whats he going to do @ 10pm now?lol
    Its definitely not because what your writing is not interesting.

    • Joy says:

      I can see not wanting to comment on controversy or something but the question of the day has no wrong answer. If I didn’t check my stats and see how many people come here, I’d have given up long ago because I wouldn’t know how many people came here in the first place. You understand though don’t you? Just start commenting. That’s all we’re asking. If you don’t let us know things, we “assume” things are dull or boring. If there are more comments I’ll keep doing it. It just seems lately it’s for nothing.

  2. Joy says:

    Thanks tgftg. I only wanted to blog to make friends and talk. If I only wanted to write stories, I could do that in a journal or something. When people don’t talk, it takes away the reason I started it in the first place. It also takes the fun away and it’s turned it into a job.

  3. Lucy says:

    Also guilty as charged. I m totally a reader and this is my first comment. I will miss your everyday posts… I always look forward to them. However, I do understand your point of view.. I guess I just never thought about it that way. From now on I will do my best to be a commenter too.

  4. DM says:

    I know what you mean about comments Joy…on my blog, I have a handful of people I’ve met as well…I still hear from several of them via e-mail (when I initiate)…but rarer do I hear from them on my blog..I know they like me because we do banter via e-mail as time permits..but like you, I wish I would hear from those same people when I write a blog post…you have been a faithful commenter when I post..thank you…it has been another full day for me so I am heading for bed but wanted to let you know I hear you! later- dm

  5. joanharvest says:

    I know that I have been lagging on my own blog and not responding to comments and not posting much. Like you
    I love blogging and I love all my blogging friends but my little granddaughter is taking up a lot of my time.

    I did notice that last summer my stats went down so I’m wondering if summer contributes to less activity. I agree with you about the time involved in blogging. When I was posting and commenting regularly I hardly did anything else.

    To be honest I think I have commented on your blog more than anyone’s. I love the questions that you put forth and enjoy putting my 2 cents in. I’m glad you are still going to post but I can understand your sentiments. I just want you to know that I have apprecitated your thoughts on many subjects. We always semm to agree with each other.

    I know one place I will see you and that’s Farm Town though even that is wearing a little thin. I need to spend more time outdoors with Lilah and at the same time get some well needed exercise.

    Well, I’ll stop now. I can get long winded.

    Hugs
    Joan

  6. Joy says:

    I’m not really talking about people who comment “sometimes.” Heck, I know we’re busy but with that Sitemeter, I can look and see “location” of where people are reading from and how long they’re here and such. It amazes me that someone will spend up to two hours a day here a few days a week and not comment. We really need and want the feedback. You know as well as I do that you like comments or you wouldn’t blog. Would you? If you wrote posts and people came but didn’t say anything?

    I love you Joanie. You know that.

    • joanharvest says:

      It’s definitely good to get comments. I know what you mean about the ones who stay a long time but don’t comment. I always wonder about that too. If you’re going to take all that time to read a blog it’s nice to let the writer know how you feel. I’m just glad you’re not closing down. I would miss you too much. You all have a wonderful blog and I can understand how you feel.

      Love you too!!!!

  7. SKL says:

    Hmm, I hope I am not a big part of the problem. There are definitely times when I am too rushed to comment, but I still come here because I have to know what you have to say every day. I surely add to your “commentless hit” stats as I tend to return to the “scene of the crime” obsessively after I do post a comment.

    All of your topics are very interesting, but sometimes I don’t comment because I don’t have the same experiences in my life, and am not sure I’m in a position to judge or commiserate. Like marital issues. I don’t usually comment on the jokes (which are great) because they kind of speak for themselves.

    I understand what you mean about the time commitment. I think I would enjoy having a blog, but I know I’d never be able to keep up with all that work. Considering the time I already spend on the internet sites I visit – and there aren’t that many that I visit every day – it’s amazing that you do all that plus maintain your blog.

    You guys truly have the best blog I visit. I’m not just saying that to make you happy. I won’t stop visiting even if you stop posting every day. I totally understand it and really appreciate all that you do to keep this blog so entertaining.

    Now, go get some rest!!

    • Joy says:

      SKL, I was SOOOOO not talking about you. You have been our most constant supporter. I’ll email you tomorrow.

      Let’s break this down though in time. IF, that is a big IF, I know what I’m going to write about, a “main” post takes me a good hour to write, proofread, find a pic and save. That’s only for one post a day. Pam does the jokes and I agree with you on commenting on those. There are only so many ways to say “that’s cute” or “that’s funny.” They do speak for themselves. Questions of the day take me 15 minutes to prepare IF I know the question ahead of time. This is all very time consuming. It also takes me a good two hours to go through the blogroll and comment to others who comment here who have blogs. AND I DON’T MIND THE TIME if I knew people enjoyed what we were doing.

      This is mainly the people who come and read only and NEVER comment. Let’s say I didn’t have any stats to look at. Let’s say I didn’t know how many people come here and I spend an hour and a half writing and posting and get, let’s say, 8 comments. I wouldn’t still be doing this. Maybe it’s an ego thing, I don’t know but I need the feedback to know things are good and that what we are writing about is okay. Without the comments, how would we know?

      Thanks for your constant support since day 1.

    • nikki says:

      OH my goodness SKL, how ever could you think this was in any way pertaining to you?! You are our most loyal commenter, from the beginning!! We love you, we love all of our friends we have “met!” We adore YOU!!!!!!!!!!

  8. Adell says:

    Joy, I too am guilty of reading and not commenting. I guess I wasn’t aware that the purpose of your blog was to chat with the readers. You are so social my dear. Sometimes I want to comment and I’m so tired I just go to bed. I have enjoyed your entrys, but I think you do need to rest awhile from it. Don’t feel pressure to enter something every day! Summer is a busy time in the north too. I notice how my e mail and Fb slows down. On the other hand we in Arizona are in doors more in the summer.
    Love you and thanks for all your hard work and efforts to keep our minds a ticking.

    • Joy says:

      Oh Adell, I didn’t know you came every day. I’m so glad you do. See, this is the thing I’d like to know. If I know people are reading, I’m happy. You know me so well. When people don’t say anything, how do we know what we’re doing is good and okay? Thanks for letting me know because I only knew you were coming when you made a comment. How about if you’re tired and want to hit the sack, you just make a smiley face so I know you were here? That’s really all we’re asking for. To know who comes here and that our job is being done well.

  9. megan says:

    I think it’s natural that more people check out a blog than comment. I wouldn’t let that get you down. A lack of comments doesn’t always equal a lack of interested readers. Believe it or not, I still read each and every one of your posts every day. But I can understand wanting to take a blogging break. I’m guilty of that, myself. But know that I’ll keep you in my RSS reader so that when you do post, I’ll be there to read it. Heck, I might even occasionally comment! πŸ™‚

  10. mssc54 says:

    For me things have just gotten busy. When I write a Blog post I do it as a sort of therapy. I have cut my time, both writing and commenting, way back. It’s not anything personal towards those I used to visit and comment on it’s just that I don’t have as much liesure time.

  11. Joy, I comment on almost every post of yours I read. Some of the posts are ones that I feel I don’t have anything to say to – that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy them. Also, my comments often seem to go un-noted and unnoticed – which is okay with me! I mean, I don’t comment in order to have everyone reply to me necessarily, I comment because I know that you and everyone read the comments and think about them.
    The only thing I can say to my defense is that because I’m in a different time zone, I don’t always see all your posts, only the most recent one appears in my “blog surfer” function, and usually I don’t even know that I’ve missed anything.
    As long as I stay on WordPress and hopefully beyond, I will keep reading and commenting on your blog because I think you women are fantastic, interesting, raise extremely interesting subjects and are open minded.
    I’m here to stay!

    • nikki says:

      You know what, I’m a little guilty myself! It’s been a hard couple months, but I’m trying to get back on track. We always appreciate your comments and I know I can speak for Joy here too and say we think you are fantastic & interesting too!! πŸ™‚

    • Joy says:

      Ilana, I generally don’t answer people back unless there’s a question asked or something because I feel it messes with our comments. In your comment total, you can’t count your own. You know? Let’s say you see there are 30 comments and you’re thinking “holy cow what’s going on here” and you look and half the comments are from the person who wrote the post. I also feel if I wrote the post, you know where I stand normally so I don’t want to keep saying the same thing to everyone who says something. I’ve usually given my opinion and now I’d like yours. You always comment to which I’ve very grateful. I’m talking about the people who don’t. I know also that if I don’t comment on someone’s post it’s usually because it’s way over my head and I don’t know what to say or I may not agree to which I’d rather just walk away without hurting anyone’s feelings. There are many times I’d rather keep my mouth shut rather than to hurt feelings. Thank you for always being here for us.

      • I can understand that – and you’re right, of course, if you’ve written the post, you want to see other people’s opinions, not keep restating your own.
        I love how you want your blog to be a place for discussion and conversation. It’s like a lounge for us all to come and sit and chat with you guys :D.

      • nikki says:

        I guess I’m guilty of that. When I write a post I do like to thank them for their advice or reply to their comment. I mess with your comment counter huh? I didn’t think about that, I just like talking.

        • Joy says:

          No Nikki, do what you want to do. I like the talking too. I’m just saying on some blogs you go to the comment count is so high you wonder what’s going on and here it’s the one who’s blog it is telling everyone to have a good day or something. To me, that’s not really talking and it doubles your count when they really aren’t saying anything.

  12. And just where do you think you’re going, young lady? I think you need to go to your room and think about this for a while, do you understand me? ;^)

    You know Joy, the Vikings are going to have a crappy season if you take your blog away from us. That’s not voodoo, it’s plain fact–I’m just sayin’ . . .

    I remember when I once e-mailed you and told you that I read your blog all the time but didn’t always comment because I didn’t always have something of value to add to the discussion. You told me just what you said here, asking me to comment anyway. I’ve tried to find a middle ground, and have been much better at commenting than I ever was, but I’m still guilty of lurking. Indirectly everyone here is saying, in one clear voice, “We love you Joy (et al.)” It’s a measure of our respect and kinship that we visit your blog everyday, and I’d bet even if you posted every second or third day we’d all still come.

    As for readership, I look at your numbers and have male-centric biological things happen to me that shant be mentioned here. I think my blog is perhaps the least read on WordPress–I have just over 2,000 hits total; you’re getting that in just over a day! I’d be curious to see how your numbers stack up against the blogosphere mean. However, I know I get far more visitors than commentors, but I know the comments I get are quality ones. I blog, as MSSC said, as a sort of therapy. I do so when time and inspiration converge. I’m more apt to respond to a comment in e0mail than on the blog itself, as you know.

    Having said all that, and having the utmost respect for a friend I hold dear even though I’ve never met her, I will miss your posts. Yours, Em’s, and a few others are all I typically have time for; “I’m so glad we spent this time together . . . (for those who don’t get that, Carol Burnette used to sing that bit at the end of each show).

    • Joy says:

      “And just where do you think you’re going, young lady? I think you need to go to your room and think about this for a while, do you understand me”? LMAO!!! Don’t even think of putting a curse on the Vikings….That’s not even funny JW!!!

      I’m pulling on my ear πŸ™‚

      • Far be it from ME to curse the Vikings. I do believe it’s all in your hands now. Mwhahahahaha!

        Perhaps a little internet subterfuge might be prescribed. Hmm, I do believe Michael Vick is unemployed. Google news says in Favre’s absence there may be interest.

        I love messing with you! LOL!

  13. javajunkee says:

    u know I read more than comment. For my blog I don’t even go on the stats page. I have my few commentators πŸ™‚ (you guys and the rest of my regulars)..and once in awhile somebody new will pop on.
    I have been bad about commenting or not commenting. Sometimes the questions of the day makes me think and I might get back in a week or so πŸ™‚
    I LOVE you guys and everything you write! And I guess for me the fact I can “chat” with all of you on facebook sometimes I don’t read the blogs everyday. 😦 And a lot of days anymore I don’t even visit my own. I have kind of liked the whole facebook chatting thing we have going on πŸ™‚

    • nikki says:

      We LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!! And we live so close to each other that I know one day we will meet!! Better be soon too! πŸ™‚

    • Joy says:

      You know jj, I never used to check my stats very often either. Usually when I had a slow day or something I’d go and see what people were looking for or whatever but ever since the “broken bike” incident, I had to block someone and for whatever reason it will sometimes stick other comments in my spam folder so I’ve gotten used to checking that folder a few times a day to make sure none of our regular people have gotten stuck in there. While doing that I saw the amount of hits we’d get in a day and say 6 comments on a post. I just wanted to know where more of these people were coming from and why they don’t say anything if the same people come back day after day. I’d like to get to know more of them. That’s the “why” I do this.

      I love chatting with those of you on Facebook that I do. Even if you and Sue accuse me of CHEATING on a quiz πŸ™‚ That’s kind of what I was talking about. People are busy doing other things so we’d just step back a little bit and not do new things every day.

      My husband is also VERY guilty of doing this. He reads this thing everyday and will look at me and tell me what he thinks but he NEVER leaves comments. I’ve tried telling him if everyone did that, what’s my payoff for hours a day of work? He tried explaining to me he can’t spell very well. HELLO, we have spell check!! He still won’t and I know that but he likened it to reading a newspaper but I’m not getting paid to do this so the only way I know it’s okay is if people leave me comments.

      See you in a minute over at FB and our farms πŸ™‚

  14. Just a Mom says:

    It is very hard to do new stuff everyday. Once it becomes a chore it is time to take a step back.
    I will miss reading your blog daily. You do realize that with not having to read your blog daily you are forcing me to spend more time with my kiddos. Just remember payback is Hell!
    You know where to find me and e-mail me anytime! πŸ™‚

  15. pammy wammy says:

    I no that I sometimes read and dont comment,I am sorry.I REALLY enjoy my cup of coffee and reading your blog.I have gotten to no Nikki and Sue in this.I also have gotten to no you better.We both hate snakes.I will do better.The last few months have been hard and life changing for me.But I am back πŸ™‚ I like your idea of just leaving a smiley face.Sometimes I really just dont no what to comment.But I always lookk forward to what you have to say.You are the first blog I have ever visited.I use to be so computer illiterate.I am still learning.
    I love you guys and what you all do.

  16. Karen Joy says:

    I have always thought this must take so much of your time and so Ive really appreciated ALL you write and post on here Joy.I love coming everyday and YES,I to dont always comment but sometimes I think I just dont have the “right” thing to say.
    It may be good for you to slow it down and take a breather anyhow.I still look forward to checking in here and reading what you have to say.

    • Joy says:

      Karen, please don’t feel you don’t have the “right.” Anything you have to say is what we want to hear. I guess mostly, we need to know what we do here, people enjoy and if nobody says anything, how would we know? Thanks so much for coming and for commenting as often as you do.

  17. JavaQueen says:

    I comment a lot- whats wrong with the rest of you lazy bastards? LOL!

    I love this blog. I have always liked the “feel” of it. As if we are talking over coffee.

    I’m not going anywhere – I’ve got you ladies in my reader and I’ll come by as often as I can πŸ˜‰

  18. Tony says:

    Oh No!!!! Joy, Stop, Wait, Come back!!!
    Time is a big problem for many I think. I have been struggling lately to keep up visiting all my bloggy friends blogs regularly. I think everyone gets lots of browsers who don’t comment. For me commenting is just as important as reading peoples blogs, otherwise bloggers will think no-one is interested in or appreciates what is posted. Hope you will keep dropping by for visits to my blog & I have you in my Feed reader so any future posts will come up there. Will miss your posts….

  19. LVISS says:

    THERE ARE LOT OF BLOGS AND VERY FEW GET DAILY HITS. THERE ARE LOT OF BLOGS WHERE U WILL NOT FIND ANY COMMENT, JUST THE BLOG. AS U SAY BLOG WRITING IS INTERESTING WHEN U HAVE SOME PEOPLE JOINING IN THE FUN AND COMMENTING ON IT. COMPARED TO MANY BLOGS I FIND YOUR BLOG RECEIVES MORE COMMENTS. I VISIT LOT OF BLOGS AND SEE ONLY THE BLOG AND FEW COMMENTS WITH NO ACK FROM THE BLOGGER . NOBODY WILL BE INTERESTED IN THAT BLOG .
    TONY IS RIGHT IN THAT BOTH THE BLOGGERS AND THE COMMENTORS SHOULD KNOW THEY ARE READING EACH OTHERS COMMENTS. VERY FEW BLOGGERS BOTHER TO ACKNOWLEDGE READERS COMMENTS AND THEY FALL BY THE WAYSIDE. IN THAT RESPECT YOUR BLOG IS GOOD IN COMMENTING ON COMMENTS. IT IS A TWO WAY PROCESS .
    HAVING SAID THAT BLOGGING IS NOT ALL THAT EASY . IT IS TIME CONSUMING AND AT ONE STAGE BECOMES ADDICTIVE.
    HOPE YOU CONTINUE BLOGGING TAKING REST IN BETWEEN. I SEE YOUR BLOG AS A NICE FAMILY BLOG.

    • Joy says:

      Thank you LVISS. I’m so glad you’ve joined us. I normally don’t comment on each comment just because some don’t really call for a reply and I don’t count “our” comments as “comments” if that makes sense.

  20. SKL says:

    Then again, whenever you are feeling comment-depleted, you know that all you have to do is bring up a controversial political issue and you will get the jolt you need. πŸ™‚

  21. javajunkee says:

    I do have to say with our little group there are tons more comments even on a slow day than some of the ones I “lurk” on from a certain organization …those people blog every day and they might get 0-2 comments and those will be from their little “group” or family…nothing like what we’ve all got going on..that’s cuz we are cool and they aren’t! πŸ™‚

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