Hurting the ones we love. How many times have you done that? Do we do this because we can? Because it’s safe? Because no matter what, this person will always be there for us and always love us NO MATTER WHAT? How many people are in your life that you feel safe enough to do this to?
I only have a couple of people that I feel confidant enough with that I’d dare to do this with. I remember I was really stressed out over a family deal. I’d worried all week hoping things would turn out okay. I really HATE great big get together’s so I do stress out over them. I know that most times my anticipation is way worse than anything that will probably happen and most times, everything is fine but there have been a “few” of these times. There was one gathering and yes, things were going downhill fast. There were a select few who thought it would be good to talk politics to the point of making everyone mad. There were also a select few who did the whole “hitting below the belt” and then saying “just kidding” when you know darn well they weren’t kidding but since they got “caught” they use the “I’m kidding” deal.
I had a couple of people just driving me nuts and my poor brother said something to me totally joking around and I just snapped at him hoping everyone else would just knock it off. I KNEW he would understand and not take offense and not get mad at me. I am that secure in his love for me. I know I’ve done this to Paul millions of times over the last 30 years too but there again, I’m secure with him and know we can talk about it later. He’s also done it to me but I always usually know what’s going on in his head and know it’s not directed towards me and later, we’ll talk things out and I’ll find out what was really going on.
So do you have people you feel safe enough to do this with or is it just me? There must be something to the saying “we only hurt the ones we love.”