Question of the day

LD S2 NEWS PATTERSON BOYS HUL.1You discover your one year old child is, because of a mixup at the hospital, not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the mistake?

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9 Responses to Question of the day

  1. Lucy says:

    What a terrible thought…I can’t imagine being in that situation. Exchanging the child means that I would give up the little person that I have fallen in love with over the past year… which I cannot imagine anyone wanting to do. But on the other hand, it means that my biological child is with other people…

    Does anyone know what the law says about these kinds of mistakes? A couple weeks/months ago there was a story in the news about a couple who had the wrong embryo implanted during IVF. They had to give the child back to the biological parents after it was born. I cannot even imagine how hard that must have been for that family.

  2. SKL says:

    This does happen once in a blue moon. I believe the right thing would be to connect with the other parents involved and try to work out an arrangement whereby custody would be transferred but there would continue to be occasional visitation/updates (for both kids). Now, you may not like the other family and so forth, but the important thing is what’s best for the child. Disrupting once at age 1 is traumatic, but it’s not the end of the world. It seems it would be better than going through your whole life knowing that you were kept from your biological parents for no reason other than a clerical error.

    There’s no question that this would be horrible for the adults, but neither choice would be comfortable. I think I’d carry too much guilt if I made the other choice, to the point where it would prevent me from being a good parent.

  3. nikki says:

    Wow I’m glad I was never faced with that! I would like to think I’d do what SKL said…switch but try to keep some type of relationship with the other parents and child. There’s an obvious bond built in that 1st year…it’d be difficult to give that up entirely. I could never not be with my biological child though.

  4. mssc54 says:

    Would it be wrong for me to hope the “other parents” were killed in an accident and then allow me to just adopt my baby?

    In the end I don’t believe that it’s the blood that makes the difference. Still….

  5. Sue says:

    IF we could find the correct birth parents and IF they could find my biological child, maybe. But deep down maybe I would have had an inkling that something wasn’t right….Oh, I don’t know!

  6. Just a Mom says:

    Eww a toughie here! I would probably want my biological child back.

  7. Gary says:

    Yeah…wow…this is a tough one. I would want my biological child back as well but would try to work out something with the parents of the child I have been raising for a year about visiting and spending a little time once in a while with him/her.

  8. kweenmama says:

    Oh, I don’t even want to THINK about this question!

  9. Joy says:

    I wouldn’t want to think about it either but do agree with everyone who said they’d try and work something out with the other parents. They’d be in the same boat as you are and already love “your” child and might not want to give them up either but by agreeing to “be friends” you’d always be in that child’s live.

    Given that said, I wouldn’t want my child back just because of “blood.” I think it takes WAY MORE than that to fall in love with a child. I love many children who aren’t “my own.”

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