What don’t I get?

3 womenI’m not sure if you’ve heard this story or not. I think I’m the only one I know who doesn’t find it funny. It’s the four women who used super glue to glue a man’s genitals. This story isn’t even very new. It happened back on August 3 but it’s been on blogs lately and it’s been on Dr. Phil and ABC News just last week.

I’ll agree that this *sounds* funny. I’m not sure why I didn’t laugh nor did I think the man deserved this. First of all, the ringleader in this whole thing, Therese Ziemann, was/is also married. So let me get this straight. You’re cheating on your husband with a man who is also married but you get mad that he’s got more than one of you on the string? What if this were reversed and a group of men did this to a woman? I can hear it all now.

I think this is about revenge and I think it’s a double standard. Why is it that men get blamed all the time for cheating? It seems like everyone always blames the men but come on, face it, they are cheating with women who are often married also so why is it just the man’s “fault?” Don’t get me wrong, I’m not sticking up for anyone nor am I saying in any way, shape or form that cheating is okay but this is about more than just burning his clothes in a bon fire. These women could to jail and everyone is getting such a big laugh out of it and I’ve heard people say he deserved it and I’m wondering how they can say that. How can this be more his fault that hers? They BOTH had a spouse so how can you “blame” one of them more than the other and how can you possibly think this kind of physical violence is fine and okay and worse, funny?

I also know that some things just sound funny. 4 women super glue a man’s genitals *sounds* funny but do people honestly really find humor in this story? I find it pathetically sad and I find it sadder yet that other people find it funny or find that this man deserved it and I’d really like to see the flip side of this coin and the man had been the one to set up the woman and super glue her genitals. Then I don’t think there would be any humor in it. I even saw them talking about this on The View and 3 of the 4 woman on the show laughed at this and said the man deserved what he got UNTIL it was brought out that this woman was also married. I’m not sure how many people are aware of that fact.

Maybe I think this way because I have boys. My grandma had all boys. My cousins had all boys. I have two grandsons. I’m not sure but I just feel this shouldn’t be about what sex you are but what’s right and what’s wrong.

So what camp do you sit it? Do you think anyone, man or woman deserves this kind of thing?

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18 Responses to What don’t I get?

  1. Lucy says:

    I’m with you Joy. It may *sound* funny.. but its just sad. I don’t think anyone would deserve that! It’s screwed up and I can’t even begin to imagine what these women were thinking…did they REALLY think this was going to be a good idea? I think cheating is wrong…. but I don’t think the cheater should be punished with physical pain. although, I can imagine that the “victim” might slap the cheater or do something similar in the heat of the moment. However, this whole super glueing genitals was planned. Very very sad… especially considering they basically just screwed their life up because of him. It’d be curious to know whether they think it was worth it….

  2. SKL says:

    I must admit I wasn’t tuned into this story. I may vaguely remember hearing about it. Sorry, but anytime I hear of four women openly fighting over one man, the word that comes to mind is “trashy.” I just assume that whatever way their brains were working, mine wouldn’t work that way.

    If you force me to think about how bad supergluing a man’s genitals would be, I have to say I’d have to know more about how much it physically hurt him. If he just had to be embarrassed to go to the emergency room and get it fixed, well, “paybacks are a b—h” as my brothers would say. But if there was intense pain involved or actual danger, and all he was doing was what these women were doing too, then that’s not funny.

    Do you remember Lorena Bobbed-it? I remember getting a lot of laughs out of that story. I remember telling my dad and brothers “why the heck would she leave it intact, and then go and show the cops where she threw it, so they could sew it back on again? She should have put it in the garbage disposer, R-R-R-R-R!” And every male in the vicinity would get angry and put their hands “down there” as if they could feel how bad that would hurt, R-R-R-R-R! It was hilarious. For years you couldn’t mention Lorena Bobbit in front of a man without him suddenly acting protective of his genitals. I am sorry, it is funny. But remember, Lorena did it because he was abusing her (and I think she’d tried more “conventional” ways to stop it, unsuccessfully). And she did go to jail.

  3. Joy says:

    I do remember Lorena Bobbit! What a whack job..pun kind of intended.

    To my knowledge, super glue needs to “wear off” the body. I couldn’t find any definite answers for that. Also, a few reports stated that his penis was glued to his stomach and the other to his leg. Either in my opinion is really bad. What about emptying your bladder?? How would that work??

    • SKL says:

      Hmm, I super-glued my fingers together when I was a dumb kid, and I was able to get them apart without too much trouble. I know it’s not the same thing, but it seems the trouble may be only temporary. I agree, having to empty his bladder probably got interesting. Eew. But probably not insurmountable.

      I guess to me, what’s “un-funny” about this is the situation these women got themselves into. So childish.

      I wouldn’t say I was shocked or anything, though. I’ve heard of so many worse things that both men and women have done to “that member.” I remember when the Lorena Bobbit thing happened and all the men were limping around in sympathy, my mom mentioned an incident where a motorcycle gang chopped off all the “members” of a rival gang, in a quaint nearby resort town. When I worked in a nursing home, I had to help a guy who, er, had to sit down to pee in his younger days.

      I remember two of the guys I dated, ranting on the topic of circumcision. To hear men talk, you would think there was nothing more sacred, valuable, or influential in this world than the male member. Having gotten all the way through life without one, I can’t help but laugh at the importance men place on it. I think maybe that’s why women laugh when some guy’s member is “threatened.”

  4. Sue says:

    “Sorry, but anytime I hear of four women openly fighting over one man, the word that comes to mind is “trashy.”

    That’s exactly what I think of!

  5. Laura says:

    I’m with you, Joy.

    Any time I hear about a situation where women are sitting around saying, “That guy deserved it,” I automatically look at the other side. What was SHE doing?

    If he hit her, and this was out of character for him, did she provoke it? Because yes, it’s wrong for a man to hit a woman, but… BUT… if she’d spent months abusing HIM, had he finally had enough of it, and was finally defending himself? Because women get away with plenty – whacking, pinching, even verbally abusing their men – and the men are supposed to just laugh it off. But if they turned around and did that once, just once… pinched HER, or whacked HER for making a dirty joke… he’d likely be facing abuse charges.

    So I look at this situation, what little i know about it, and say, “shame on those women.” This looks, to me, like a “mean girl” situation gone way out of control. There were FOUR women. Doesn’t ONE of them have an ounce of self-respect? Well, I guess they answered my question. They were cheaters themselves.

    So, yeah, I agree with Joy… if four men had been cheating on their wives with the same woman…. and they found out about each other… and then banned together to hold her down and glue HER genitals together? You can BET that woman would be all over Oprah, The View, and every other TV show. She’d already have her own book and reality show, and she’d be the heroine of her own little tragic love story.

  6. mssc54 says:


    Imagine how funny this story would be if a man had super glued a woman’s inner arms to her breast.

    Please tell me that there are no children in these families!

    Can you imagine the redicule the children are getting?!

  7. javajunkee says:

    can I be on the fence with this one? I am going to admit I “chuckled”…now if I were to sit and think about it (which I wont) I’d probably think..kind of sick and twisted and like you said they were all screwing around on spouses too…so they are all whack jobs (liked that pun so borrowed it)…and really by looking at them not surprised that they couldn’t think of something more mature to do like popping a couple caps off on his ass!

  8. Gary says:

    Yeah…uhhhh, that’s very UNCOOL! She is married and he is married….she doesn’t like that so they all get together and do something like this to the poor guy….yeah, makes PERFECT sense.

    Thanks for standing up for us guys Joy. Somehow and some way we always get the short end of the stick on things like this.

    I can’t even imagine the uproar that would be caused from a MAN doing something like that to a WOMAN. A woman or women do something like that to a guy and it’s funny? WTH?

  9. Just a Mom says:

    I think what these women did was wrong. They could have done so many other things to get back at him without physically hurting him.

  10. Karen Joy says:

    So NOT funny.I saw this story on Dr.Phil but I didnt hear she was married also.I didnt need to hear that to know its an aweful thing to do.How old are these women?GROW UP!

  11. nikki says:

    You certainly are not the only one that thought it wasn’t funny judging by the comments here. I vaguely remember someone on facebook joking about it and I did chuckle. I didn’t know the whole story nor did I until you wrote this post. I wasn’t interested in finding out about that craziness!! LOL Women fighting over a man…wow they must have zero self esteem or they are plain trashy like Sue said! Who the heck would want a man you have to fight like that for anyway. I’m with everyone else here…GROW THE F UP!!!!!!!!

  12. Laura says:

    it’s really sad that we live in a time where (when?) we are in the minority. Most people I know laughed at this story and said, “Hah! He deserved it!”


    and, guys… we girls? We’ve got your backs.

  13. kweenmama says:

    I guess I’ve been living in LaLa land. I had never even heard about this story until this post.

    Here’s my take on it…My ex cheated on me with many. I understand the anger someone feels when they have been cheated on. But, there are healthier ways to deal with it than revenge. For me, the answer was to divorce him. There was going to be no fighting over him from me. The other women could have him, for all I cared. If they wanted someone who cared so little about all of their feelings that he would cheat on ALL of them, then so be it. I wasn’t going to be a part of it. I have moved on, married a WONDERFUL man, and am infinitely happier in my current marriage than I ever hoped to be in my first.

    What did the revenge get those women? I’m pretty sure they no longer think it worth it.

  14. Tony says:

    I agree with what you said Joy, put the shoe, or superglue, on the other foot & see how funny it is

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