What is a role model?

You know, when this first came on the news, I thought so what, who cares. It’s none of our business and it shouldn’t be news. Tiger Woods! I figured something was up. Who’s driving like that in their driveway in the early AM like that but figured, hey, we all fight with our spouse from time to time. Leave him alone for heaven’s sake. Let them have a fight in private!

But, sadly we all know now, he’s messed up pretty good and I personally feel he’s a fool to have texted and left his voice on voicemail and sent emails. Even the great and powerful Tiger Woods can’t get past technology.

I didn’t really think to much of it until I watched The View this morning and pretty much all the ladies had a different view of things and it did leave me wondering what the heck!

One of them (Whoopie Goldberg) thought be it celeb, sports star, musician or movie star, all have a right to privacy and the right to live their lives the way they want to and they didn’t ask anyone to fall in love with them and choose them to model their life after. That no matter what, this is nobody else’s business. Okay, I agree with that.

Then another (Shari Shepard) said that being an athlete like this, many young kids watch him/them and emulate them and want to be like them so why would they break the moral laws of life and that they are setting a bad example to their young fans. Okay, I agree with that too!

Then another (Joy Behar) said she knows that if she wears a bikini to the beach, someone is going to take a picture of her big ass (her words, not mine) so she just knows better than to wear a bikini to a beach. She avoids it because she is a celeb and knows what will happen. Once again, I agree. I’m really flip flopping now!

These were the three main views and the other two (Barbara Walters and Elizabeth Hasslebeck) were a combination of all three. It took me back to when my boys had role models. They were Hershel Walker, Walter Payton, Bo Jackson, Michael Jordan and many MANY Viking players and baseball and basketball players over the years. While I think yes, these are just mortal men but I do have to say, I wanted them to be a good role model to my children. People who lived life right and obeyed the laws of man and God. But did they “owe” me that? Was it their “fault” my kids looked up to them? Did they “owe” them anything? We put them on a pedestal but was that our choice or theirs and if they chose this kind of life, should they be expected to behave in a certain way?

I do feel we are “owed” a little. It’s our money that’s going to pay for the tickets to watch them play. It’s our money going to buy their jersey’s or albums or whatnot. Do they owe nothing to society or are they just doing a job like you and I?

Do you feel that anyone, celeb or musician or athlete should have to behave in a certain way because young people are following them or do you feel they owe us nothing?

I’l tell you one thing, I wouldn’t want one of my kids or grandkids to have a Michael Vick jersey.

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13 Responses to What is a role model?

  1. LVISS says:


  2. Laura says:

    We are all role models for kids in one way or another. Obviously, we model for our children, and it’s entirely appropriate (usually, unless you’re a dirtbag) that they look up to us and emulate us.

    But we’re also role models for others – personally, I know that the girl down the street looks up to me. She’s like a sister to me, and watches very closely how I parent Josh, how I handle being a wife, how I just handle being me. I was a role model for my students – they watched how I taught, how I acted in the workplace and classroom. They emulated how I played my flute, they stretched their technique to match mine.

    Did I *choose* to be a role model for all these people? Yes, in a way, I did. Of course I chose to be Josh’s model – he’s my son. But I also took on the responsibility of role model to Haley when I hired her to babysit Josh. I chose to be a role model to those students when I accepted the position as their teacher.

    In the same fashion, professionals like Jordan, Payton, and yes, Tiger Woods, accepted the position of Role Model when they walked onto a professional playing field and said, “Look at me. I’m the BEST THERE IS.” They’re more than happy to take all the endorsement money. They’re thrilled to stand on that winner’s podium and accept the accolades. They’re content to walk into schools or other gatherings of children and talk with them, play their game with them, give them pointers. They are role models.

    But the minute they’re caught doing something they shouldn’t, out come the press releases… “I’m not a role model for your kids.”

    Yes, sir (or madam…. Serena Williams, Tonya Harding, I’m looking at you), you are. Is that a reason not to cheat on your wife? Not to beat a dog? Not to gamble on your own team? No… your own ethical and moral compass should prevent you from doing those things. But don’t stand there saying that you’re not a role model, because that’s exactly what you set yourself up to be.

    • Laura says:

      Geez, I was so absorbed in defining the role that I didn’t finish my thought…

      Do they owe us something? Yes, they owe us respect. Why? Because no matter how talented they are, WE helped put them where they are with our money.

      They owe us honesty. Not a press release that says, “I’m no role model,” rather, one that says, “You know, I screwed up, big time. Yes, I’m human. But I’m also in a position of responsibility – not just to myself and my family, but to my fans. I let you down, and I humbly apologize to you. I will be removing myself from the public eye for a while to fix this mess that I’ve made of my life. I hope, when I return to the public eye, that you will give me another chance to earn back your respect. But I will understand if you do not give it. I wronged you, and you have every right to feel betrayed.”

      After that, the person deserves privacy, until he puts himself back out there.

      Do we need to know all the salacious details? No. Just like in a neighbor’s divorce, we may WANT to know who’s cheatin’ who, but it’s not our “right” to know that. All these details coming out about Tiger’s alleged transgressions should be kept private. Those women should be laughed off of Larry King and wherever else.

  3. Sue says:

    They don’t owe us anything. Yes, they may be a celebrity but they are still entitled to privacy and a personal life like the rest of us are. I also think that all their wealth and popularity makes them THINK they are entitled to misbehave. We don’t know what’s all happened in their relationship and I really don’t care b/c I’ve got my own REAL problems to deal with! I can’t figure out how someone is dumb enough to think they’ll never get caught with the world of technology we live in! Leaving voicemails? Text messages? E-mails? HELLO IT’S ALL TRACEABLE!!!! Do you think his wife is thinking “I’ll get a divorce b/c he’s a scum” or “I’ll get a divorce b/c of the $$$ to really get him back”?

  4. SKL says:

    I feel that this business of kids knowing the business of all these celebrities is a very recent phenomenon, and if anything, on average, the “stars” of today behave themselves better than those of yesteryear. The difference is that kids weren’t told about the affairs and other indiscretions of the heroes.

    Let’s take Muhammad Ali. A great man in many ways. But as a kid, did you know how many wives he had and how many kids out of wedlock and how many extramarital affairs? Probably not, and that’s how it should be. Our kids should be focusing on the thing that makes the “heroes” great, not the fact that they also have made mistakes that are unrelated to what we look up to them for.

    I think kids ought to be looking up to Tiger Woods because he worked hard to accomplish a great deal in the game of golf, and because he’s used his fame and money to help kids. The fact that his eyes wandered (or whatever) is irrelevant to that. If this stuff weren’t stuck in every child’s face by a greedy media, we wouldn’t be having this discussion.

    Really, there is no reason whatsoever for the media to do this to Tiger and his family, friend, and fans, other than to get richer at his expense. Remember, the love of money is the root of all evil. I really think this is the sort of behavior that gets people into Hell, if there is a Hell.

    As for whether he owes us anything – let him who is without sin cast the first stone. Any takers?

    • SKL says:

      Now, I don’t mean to say that celebrities should be able to do anything they want. But here, we’re talking about a personal indiscretion, not a felony. The dog thing with Michael Vick, criminal domestic violence, stuff like that is different in my opinion. But that would be true for a private citizen as well.

  5. Gary says:

    I don’t feel that they “owe” us anything. I think that as celebrities that know they are being looked up too should really watch what they do and say. It comes with the territory so to speak.

    This has been going on since the beginning of time really. Babe Ruth was one of the most looked up to personalities of all time and was a flamboyent alcoholic and womaniser.

  6. javajunkee says:

    lots to say but will just mess it all up so gonna throw out some random short thoughts….

    role models — even we as parents can let our kids down in that department. Do they really need role models? I mean I have yet to say to either of my kids.. “gee look at her or him..aren’t they good role models.” and for God’s sake do NOT look to your father and I. We’ve given you some moral standards..we’ve failed at the majority of them but hopefully you can learn from our mistakes.

    I would have to say even though I’m not walking the walk right now to me the only role model that’s not going to let them down is Jesus. Now what they do with that information and theory is up to them.

    I agree with Gary..this isn’t new. This has been going on forever. Hollywood and all it’s “people” have always been in the news. I guess for me if you can’t stand the heat stay out of the kitchen. You KNOW people are watching you. Photographing you etc. I didn’t see the view but whichever one of them pointed that stuff out is totally right.

    I can buy an album today of somebody who has NEVER been in trouble and tomorrow dude and/or band might be on the front page for doing something stupid. So it’s my right to say.. “not supporting them anymore.” nobody is holding a shotgun to my head to support anybody.

    I am not a big sports fan. I gave up sports back in the day with the Bears that I remember. (Fridge, Payton, McMahon)?You know those guys. That was the end of my interest in sports so whatever those guys do..I don’t even read it cuz I really couldn’t care less. Just like I am sick of reading about Woods. WHO THE HELL CARES. This should be taken care of and treated just like the neighbor I have. He plays golf and gets paid way too much money that’s my only knowledge of the guy. If he’s screwing around on his wife..again that’s their business.

    But look at the flip side. These celebrities are keeping some media people in a job. Guess it’s all part of the economy!

    that was just rambling!

  7. nikki says:

    They should respect the fact that many children look up to them and inspire to be like them. They choose the lifestyle of an actor, athlete, musician. They do not choose to be a “trophy”, to be put up on a pedestal. Yet we all know we do put them up there. We expect them to do right and have morals. However they are human and do make mistakes. This is a huge mistake, and I think he thought because he was “Tiger Woods” that he somehow is invinsible to being caught. I’m also flip flopping because on one hand I think everyone is intitled to their privacy but on the other hand which I wear a little more heavily I believe they should rspect the fact that kids look up to them and try their hardest to live up to that. They are payed MILLIONS of dollars right?
    I recently heard a singer, Carrie Underwood, say something that I think every person and not just in the public eye should live by….she said this… “I would never do something that would embarass my parents. Pretty simple!
    I do have to say Bailey knows and likes Tiger Woods but he has no idea what he did because I filter what he see’s and reads.

  8. javajunkee says:

    people like me made the huge mistake of even putting pastors up on pedestals and when they let you down that’s a huge fall/fail. I am real careful anymore to think anybody is above falling.

    I just think ok Woods…great golfer. The end.

  9. DM says:

    I have a couple of role models I look up to- warts and all. one is Winston Churchill- the guy struggled w/depression off and on, yet he also almost single handedly kept a positive attitude in the midst of overwhelming odds.
    Another role model is a relatively obscure dude from the Bible….Caleb. There is not a lot written about him, but what there is, makes me want to be like him.
    Whether they like it or not, I believe people who become successful have a responsibility to think about how their actions will influence the next generation-

  10. mssc54 says:

    Do these celebs “owe” US? I don’t believe they do but they certainly owe their family.

    Tiger Woods has been marketed as a dedicated, clean cut athelete. Don’t sell me your “apple pie” immage when you are all the while sneaking out of your own orchard to fertilize trees you have no committment to.

    It is when things like this happens that we are able to teach our children that a moment of pleasure can corrupt your life and be very costly.

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