This was on the news a few weeks ago and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. What to do when you 20 something moves back home. I personally don’t think this is anything new. I know more kids who moved back home after college than not. At least for a while until they could get on their feet.
I moved back home once after my first marriage for two months. I knew I couldn’t live again in my dad’s home. We love one another but I’d already been on my own, I was a mother and an “adult.” But I needed it and he was there just as I’d be here for my boys if they needed it. Jason has moved back home a few times and they both know they always have a home with us if the need would ever arise.
BUT……do you get reduced to a child once you are back living in your parents home? Should you have to follow their rules? You’re an adult after all and should be able to do what you want. RIGHT??? WRONG???
I had one of the worst cases of empty next syndrome than anyone I know but once you get used to the kids being gone, it really does cramp your style when they come back. Really, it does.
I also don’t feel it’s a matter of “rules” per say but a matter of consideration. You have to give and take in relationships and if someone is sleeping you should try to be quiet and “if you get it out, put it away” and all the things you were supposed to learn in Kindergarten, apply them to living back at home. But I don’t feel it’s a matter of doing what your parents say, it’s more of a matter of being kind to them.
What about you? Did you live back at home once you’d already left? Did you have to abide by childhood rules? Would you let your own children move back home? Would you make them follow your house rules?