Question of the day

If you had to do it all again, have parent’s who partied too much and had no morals-OR-were militantly strict and always went by the book?

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9 Responses to Question of the day

  1. Joy says:

    I’d go with the strict parent’s. At least they would be paying attention to me and not partying.

  2. SKL says:

    Strict. My parents were strict about certain things. Not like the military, but it felt that way to me back then. I don’t know what it would be like to be raised without a moral compass, but I don’t think I’d want to find out.

  3. Ellen says:

    Me too, strict parents for sure. I think both examples are a bit over the top. Every child needs rules and boundaries and on top of that, tons and tons of love and attention.

  4. Nikki says:

    I don’t even know how to answer this. I guess, can I say strict without being mean and harmful and did it out of love? I wouldn’t want partiers for parents, but I had a very mean, strict, MEAN step father and a mom that was kind of blind to it all. So somewhere in the middle for me.

  5. Laura says:

    Strict. You can always loosen up once you know what your moral and value framework looks like. There’s plenty of room within that to be loose and party-ish.

    But when you don’t have that framework to begin with, there’s nowhere to go.

  6. Tessa says:

    In the middle, my mom was and I loved it, she showed us love but was firm in values. My grandma was military strict, not enough affection and this is pretty hurtful. You got to have balance of play and work with your kids. Both strict and party style are extremes that are harmful and hurtful to a child.

  7. SKL says:

    I agree with a balance but it sure is hard to keep it – at least with some kids. I can see the value of 2 parents where you can do the “good cop / bad cop” routine, though it would suck to be the bad cop all the time.

  8. Tessa says:

    I love that my husband and I both enforce the rules and playtime together-there is no good cop, bad cop like I’ve seen parents do. Our son is just 18 months, but we’ve already communicated how we want things to be and both take time to teach him and to play with him. I think the balance is hard to keep because as adults we let the stress and personal things get in the way of sticking to rules or being able to have fun and let the stress go for awhile. SOmetimes I catch myself doing this, but either Eric reminds me-or I remind myself-okay I am stressed-I need time to just have fun for awhile! Or I am ignoring the rules-let me get back on track.

  9. Just a Mom says:

    I would have to go with strict if I had to pick one over the other.

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