Free Chat Thursday

I wish I could say my weekend was great. I was sick the whole weekend, I have so much to get caught up on and more stuff seems to find it way on to that pile. My vacuum is broke, and I have to wait for payday to buy a new one. Which is Friday and it can’t come soon enough. As clean as my house can possibly be, it still seems filthy to me because the carpet isn’t clean. The broom can only do so much! My laundry tub over flowed once again, and I have to deal with the odor of wet carpet in my laundry room. Who puts carpet in their laundry room?

Baseball. Baseball is about the most exciting thing happening in this house right now. With Bailey’s season about to start and our Minnesota Twins having a fantastic start we’ve been pretty happy people around here! I know, I know the season has just started, there are well over 100 games to go. I don’t care, I watch every game, and every game is just as important as the last and the next one. We do have an amazing team this year, it makes me giddy! Now to watch my very favorite boy play, he should be starting within the next couple weeks.

I was down the road today waiting for Bailey to get off the bus. You all remember my very first “Free Chat Thursday” I wrote and talked about the crazy lady that thought people were walking on her roof? Well I got to chatting with her today. She’s moving, and offered a lot of her lilac bushes and flowers to me. So that’s what I’ll be doing this evening. Digging up flowers and transplanting them in my yard! All free!!!!! I love free things, especially flowers!!!

I also found out that all 3 houses on her side of our road are ALL in foreclosure right now! Blew my mind! I gathered she doesn’t have a lot of people to talk to. I sat there for 15 minutes after Bailey had gotten off the bus, talking to her. Or, her talking to me rather. She pointed out this shed to me behind a house down the road and across the way. It was a nice shed, tan wood siding, nice roof. She said someone was living in it, for over a year now! No electricity, no water. I imagine they’d use that house to shower and stuff. I mean, one can only imagine. Makes me a grateful. It was a nice little chat I had with Miss Ellie, I’ll miss her when she’s gone.

Have a great day and enjoy your weekend! ๐Ÿ™‚

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38 Responses to Free Chat Thursday

  1. SKL says:

    Our business is looking at buying a big old building. We have about 5 weeks remaining to do all the due diligence to make sure there aren’t hidden problems, and to find the best combination of financing. It’s a very cool property for many reasons – great location, super view, great visibility for signage, seems to be structurally sound, price is right (as far as we can tell). This of course is happening in the middle of our busiest season. Never a dull moment!

    Took the kids to the art museum today. I swear they pay the old farts there to make people feel unwelcome. Or, at least, the “undesireables.” This is only the second time I’ve taken the girls there, and both times I left with a bad taste in my mouth. I note that today, my girls were not guilty of any questionable behavior. (Granted, one of them touched something last time, but that was months ago and I gave her plenty of hell for it.) We were only in the galleries for a few minutes, as I had planned. I’m just trying to get the girls used to the idea of what art is and what the museum is, including how to act. How do they expect people to teach their kids anything if these old farts act like they shouldn’t be there at all?

    If you follow “Free Range Kids,” you’ll know that May 22 is “take your kids to the park and leave them there day.” I don’t think they mean to include 3-year-olds, and anyway we have a zoo picnic that day, but it’s an interesting idea. Readers, how many of you had your parents with you when you went to the park / playground as a kid? I certainly never did. It would have freaked me out to see my parents at the playground. But today, that’s the norm. And a lot of people seem to think it “has” to be that way. Including child services, up to a certain age. Personally, I think that is sad. What do you all think?

    Another kid topic that came up this week. Should kids be forced to hug / kiss people when they don’t want to? Personally, I don’t feel right forcing that. But, that could be because 2 years ago, I had to earn the right to a heartfelt hug from my own daughters. So I don’t feel like it’s a given that they should have to endure an embrace from someone they aren’t comfortable with. One commenter stated that my attitude is what’s wrong with kids today, my kids are out of control, entitled, and on their way to becoming bullies. (Hey dude, sounds like you need a hug!) I think that’s over the top, but is there any truth to that? I do want my kids to learn how to opt out “politely” . . . but when I think about it, I’m not sure what that looks like. Someone suggested teaching them to offer to shake hands instead. I may try that approach. What do you all think about forcing / pressuring kids to hug?

    OK, I think I will shut up for a while now.

    • Joy says:

      I’m not totally sure what “free range kids” are but I can imagine. The whole park thing. No, my parents never went to the park with us and like you, I would have felt so odd but we live in such a time and I’m not saying that’s a good or bad thing. I think letting your kids go somewhere alone depends on how old they are, how responsible they are and where you live. When I think of the things I did as a child and what my kids did as children, I can’t even believe how things are now. I think a LOT of people stifle their children and don’t teach them at the proper times how to do things for themselves. Then they get flung from the nest as a late teen never having done anything for themselves and people wonder “gee, what happened?”

      I have more to say but have to wait till tomorrow. I’m getting the evil eye!

    • Laura says:

      OH, that hugging thing!! I read that post, and your response, and I laughed out loud at that person (why am I thinking it was a guy?) who smacked you around for it. He has no clue. I actually considered writing a post on the topic for here, but since you brought it up…

      I can completely see/understand the argument that was put forward in the article about teaching kids “discrimination”. In a good way. We always tell our kids, ‘if you feel a creepy vibe coming from someone, stay away from that person’, but then we turn around and say, “this is your Uncle Herman. You WILL hug and kiss him, and allow him to do the same to you. No, I don’t CARE if he’s creepy, he’s your uncle!” And then we wonder why so many kids are molested by their own family members and not “Stranger Danger”.

      Maybe this comes because I’m from a family of non-huggers. I don’t need my parents to kiss and hug me every time I see them to understand that they love me. There are so many ways they show love, hugs and kisses are superfluous. If my brothers hug me, either they’re beating me up, or there’s something very, very wrong. But I know they love me, and I love them. It just is. Because of it, I have a very strong “personal zone”. I don’t like people crowding me, getting in “my space”, and will physically push away a “close talker” (thank you, Seinfeld) to protect “my space”. I will hug you when it’s appropriate, not because you happen to be there.

      But my husband comes from a VERY physical family. When I met them for the first time, they were hugging me. There was no regard for my personal comfort, no respect of my own personal boundaries. To this day, they don’t consider that they’ve said hello to you unless they’ve kissed you. And to this day, I’m very uncomfortable attending family functions, because I don’t like being forced to kiss people.

      I’ve taught Josh to shake hands. Or high-five. When we have visitors, he goes around and high-fives most folks in the room. He has made it a game (High five, on the side, other side, down low… TOO SLOW!!! which garners tons and tons of giggles if he manages to ‘low five’ you before you can yank your hand away). Even his grandma will do the high-five routine.

      Does this mean that he will NOT hug people? No. He’s very free with his hugs and kisses. But he saves them for after he’s gotten to know a person. He will, out of the blue, walk up to his grandpa (who is not a ‘huggy’ person) and say, “Hug, Grandpa!” and leap up. Grandpa catches him and gives a bear hug. It’s sweet, spontaneous, and reinforces Josh’s ability to decide for himself who hugs him and who does not.

    • Joy says:

      I’m not a really “huggy” person either. I am with kids but not with adults. My family is a lot like Laura’s. We’d kill for each other but hugging is just not a natural thing for us.

      I do NOT think anyone should force anyone to hug anyone!!!! More children are molested by old Uncle Harry than the “strangers” lurking at a dead end. I love Laura’s idea about the high fiving and hand shaking. Maybe you could teach the girls a cute little curtsy. Just in case they ever meet the queen ๐Ÿ™‚

    • SKL says:

      I’m not from a huggy family either. I can only remember one time when my mom hugged me, and that was when I was leaving the house for some kind of rite of passage. I am sure we were huggy when I was a tot, but at some point I must have felt “too old” for that. I do remember being forced to hug my grandparents on my mom’s side. I remember not liking it. I also remember not liking my dad’s beard scratching my skin. I suppose I learned to put up with it until I got “too old” in their eyes. So yeah, I can see people thinking I ought to teach my kids to quietly tolerate a brief hug/kiss from close relatives. But, it doesn’t feel comfortable to me. Thankfully my kids’ grandparents would never force it and wouldn’t feel bad if my kids don’t always feel like hugging. Everyone else can just suck it up if they don’t like it. (My kids do hug spontaneously, just not all the time – not even with me.)

  2. Sue says:

    My week has been interesting. Toby was sick all weekend which meant he moped around and acted like he was going to die. I love him, but why are men like that??! Finally, on Tuesday he felt better and he put up the gazebo! It looks very nice and gives our deck a new dimension while hopefully making it more user friendly! My current patio furniture doesn’t quite match, but will do for now. Maybe at the end of the season we’ll find something on clearance. The neighbors will have to come over for cocktails one evening!

    My daughter started working on her states project for social studies last night, and let me tell you I was at my wits end! First of all, they are not required to write it out in report format. The teacher printed off all the sheets with all the info they need and they simply fill in the info, cut out the box with the info on the sheet and then paste it to the report book thing that’s already made for them! It’s so not creative or original. Then, all of the places they gave the kids to get information from are websites! Now, don’t get me wrong, the computer is a wonderful tool, but to not make these kids go to the library and use a book??? Really??? Thankfully, my mom got the kids a 50 States Book/Game for Christmas that is now coming in very handy.

    What else? Oh, we got our summer vacation planned! Whoop whoop! South Dakota here we come! The kids are excited and I’m getting there too. It’s a long drive for us, but it will be worth it. Hopefully Trinity gets some good pictures that she can use for her 4-H project at the county fair in August. Ok, I’ve written enough! My goal today is to clean the house this morning so I can sit outside and read this afternoon!

    • Laura says:

      What state is the report on?

      I remember doing a state report when I was a kid… of course, there was no internet and I *think* my teachers were still mimeographing at the time, so I had to do everything by hand. I had such a blast with that project. I did Montana, and wrote to the state’s Chamber of Commerce, explaining that I was doing a report, and could they help me. Holy COW, the stuff they sent me!!! Pamphlets, travel books, photos and postcards. Even a pressed Bitterroot (state flower) and a few needles from a Ponderosa Pine. I had so much information, the report was hard for me to do because I couldn’t decide what NOT to include. But it was fun. One of the reports that I really enjoyed doing.

      So sad that now, they’re just expected to cut/paste/click and be done with it. Where’s the fun in that? Where’s the brain stretching? Where’s the learning? Pitiful.

      • Sue says:

        She has Illinois and we’ve found out some interesting facts so far, but it’s not the same! I also did a state report and I remember writing to the Chamber of Commerce of Missouri also! The project is due May 13th so we might have time to get stuff in the mail, but I don’t want to push it. It took So Dakota 2 weeks to send me the info I wanted for our vacation! I think I’m going to talk to the teacher today to make sure Trin has the directions correct! Part of me doesn’t believe her!

  3. Laura says:

    I’m paying bills today. Such a joy. When the bills are done, I need to clean out my new vacuum because I vacuumed up wet stuff with it. Disgusting, smelly, vile wet stuff.

    And then I need to clean the house, because my in-laws are coming tomorrow, and then I need to go do some grocery shopping.

    Finally, Josh has an eye check-up this afternoon. He’s been talking for two days (since he found out about the appt) that “everything goes blurry”. Methinks he’s lobbying for glasses…

  4. Just a Mom says:

    Today I am going to go see Oceans with my youngest daughter’s class and tomorrow they have field day so I will be up at her school all day.
    I survived my daughter’s prom night and then the next day I had a little biking accident. It’s amazing at how quick the body of a 39 year old bruises. I am also amazed at the pretty colors that the bruises turn each day! ๐Ÿ™‚ My body is feeling better today.

    • Joy says:

      Be sure to let us know how Oceans is. I really want to see that. I inadvertently bought something called “Imax Under The Sea” thinking it was Oceans. It was $20 too so I wasn’t very happy. I’m sure it’s good though. I’d like to see Oceans on that big screen. We saw a preview of it when we went to Last Song.

      • Just a Mom says:

        Oceans was pretty good. I liked Earth better, but it was still pretty good. I think they needed to follow one of the animals maybe a whale on it’s migration or something.

        • Joy says:

          Thanks for letting us know. I’d like to see it. Following something would be great. Did you see March Of The Penguins? I liked that a lot. I loved Morgan Freeman narrating it the most.

  5. Ellen says:

    You all have a great weekend also. Thanks again for the post, Nikki! I am glad you feel better. It is funny that some people can be nice also. My week was okay. I work a lot in the hospital and yesterday I got a call from the schooldistrict to substitute. It was so wonderful again. I really hope this will be the main job.
    Laura, it is funny how you understood right away Josh, that he was lobbying for glasses…:-)

    • Laura says:

      yeah… the appointment is done, but all the way up until we left the building (with his new “cool” sunglasses… those little temporary ones they give you to protect your dilated eyes), he was lobbying for glasses. I told him, with my eyes, and his dads? He’d be in glasses soon enough, and to enjoy his perfect vision while he has it.

  6. Nikki says:

    UGH I slept like $hit last night, because of my dang cat! She got out, which is normal but she is usually back in by the time I go to bed. She never came home, I even got up in the middle of the night to see if she was at the door! Sad? Yea probably, but she’s like my child. She came back this morning but boy am I tried! I know Joy can relate to that! What if Maddie got out, would you able to sleep at night?
    I have to pull out wet smelly carpet from my laundry room today. Oh the joys of being home all day! Yay me!

    • Joy says:

      If Maddie got out late at night, I’d call the police!!!!!!! Honestly, I wouldn’t go to bed till I found her.

      • Nikki says:

        Yea I know, but I couldn’t go look for her! We have a handful of houses around me and woods!! I have no idea where she goes. I didn’t sleep well though. Felix on the other hand, call out the search team!!!!! He’s so incredibly human dependent like Maddie!

        • Joy says:

          LOL!!! Human dependent!!!! That’s hilarious.

        • SKL says:

          My parents’ late cat used to get out once in a while, and then she’d come back and hide under the porch, crying. My dad had to go out there with a can of tuna to lure her out so she would come back in. Have you tried taking some tuna with you when you go looking for yours?

  7. starlaschat says:

    Nikki sounds like you have had a rough week I’m sorry some weeks really are tough being sick is no fun. Glad you have baseball to balance some of the yucky stuff. I Loved you story about Miss Elli . The is nice, sad about the person living in the shed wow. We have a lot of foreclosures here including businesses now closing and empty buildings scattering town.

    My week was actually wonderful with the first week of Spring weather. It’s been so beautiful here and really warm. I’m a bit beside myself, I’m sure that will pass and before you know it I will be complaing that it;s too hot. But for now I’m in heaven. Not much really new with my week. So in a way no news is good news.

    • Nikki says:

      Find balance where ever you can right Starla?! ๐Ÿ™‚ Glad you’re having great weather, makes such a difference in peoples attitudes! Warmth comes and everyone is out, and happy. I love it!

  8. Joy says:

    I loved hearing about Miss Ellie too. That is sad she’s moving and VERY sad about the man living in the shed. It tells us we should be more grateful for what we have and that other people might not have it so easy. I’m really happy that you’re getting some lilac bushes. They grow so fast and area a really good border bush. Besides, the fragrance of them when they bloom is do die for.

    I’ve had a tough week. The pollen count is very high so I’ve had to keep the a/c on. Of course it’s 37 degree’s this morning so it’s not running but I can’t breathe the outside air. It makes my chest heavy and hurt something awful. Once I figured out what it was from and shut the windows and stayed inside, I did start to feel better. It’s supposed to drop this weekend so I can’t wait for that. But I really have spring fever for my yard. I did attempt a bit of raking around my flowers but I have to wait. i just can’t do it. The good side is that the dead leaves and weeds will wait for me.

    I was so happy Tues night when Kate Gosslin got the boot from Dancing. I’m sorry people but she was horrible. Also what I found with her is she never smiled or acted happy. I mean, I know her life must suck at times but she picked her husband and that’s what happens when you fool around with the fertility Gods. It’s not our fault her life sucks right now and maybe she should stay home with her kids if she’s so unhappy about it but leave my Dancing show alone. I have never seen her poor partner Tony so sad either. I’ll be she was awful to be paired with. Over done with gone…..finally….

    I’m enjoying having this time off from writing on the blog. I love the blog but I only really love it when we’re all talking and if we aren’t, I feel bad. For the amount of Questions Of The Day’s and jokes I’ve gotten “in the can,” I really haven’t had any time off. Funny how we think.

    Survivor tonight!!! YEAH!!! Any of you watch that? I can’t wait to see what Russell will pull off tonight.

    Have a great day all. I’m sure I’ll be back a million times.

    • Nikki says:

      LOL I watched Kate dance on Monday was it? I was curious, and wow was she dreadful. Even in the clips of them rehearsing!!! Oh, I felt so bad for her partner! For your sake, because I don’t watch regularly, I’m glad she got the boot!

  9. SKL says:

    I’m sitting through a BO-O-ORING teleconference training. WHY am I doing this? Of course I am not learning anything as I am a terrible listener. I will read the slides later so I can pretend I listened. Meanwhile, I have an excuse not to do any other work for a while.

    This morning I had to get up early to go to a conference. Interesting stuff, but seriously, these things are wasted on me. I can’t keep my mind on listening, and I suck at networking. Is it really worth me having to dress my kids the night before so as not to have to deal with their cranky butts early in the morning? And using up the whole morning? I hope I at least get continuing ed credits for it.

    So now I have some time to eat while this teleconference continues, and then I will have a half hour to get some work done before my next conference call. If I didn’t have so much work to do, this would be a relaxing schedule (other than having to get up early). But when am I going to get my serious work done? Pretty soon my partner-boss will start saying I need to give up more time with my kids in order to catch up. Either that, or I will need to pull a couple all-nighters. Fun stuff!

    This would be a good time for me to take a break from the internet – but boy is it addictive.

  10. SKL says:

    OK, I know this isn’t Thursday any more but I have to vent a little. My kid just woke up with the barfs. No fever, just barfing. (Why does this always happen right after a hair wash?) It seems something didn’t agree with her so now I am wondering if I should send her to school if she feels good in the morning.

    Wouldn’t you know, I was just thinking about going to sleep when it started.

    Not a very exciting comment, I know, but ugh, ya know, sometimes you just have to share the grief.

  11. Joy says:

    I just noticed that these comments don’t leave a time that the comment was left so I don’t know when you put this here SKL. I guess if it were me and there was no fever and she felt fine, just needed to puke, I’d send her to school if she felt okay. Sometimes things just don’t agree with us and the minute we “get rid of it,” we feel better. That’ just my opinion though.

    • SKL says:

      Well, she and I were up all night. 14 barfs so far, and several loads of laundry. I kept her home from school, and now she seems fine. She’s enjoying being a lady of leisure, while I figure out how to get my work done.

      I hope she really is fine, as we are going out tonight and tomorrow night.

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