TGIF!

Well, “TGIF” has a different meaning for me than it does for many of you.  Being a stay-at-home-mom, my time during the week is largely my own.  Doesn’t mean that I’m not busy and I don’t have things to do, it just means that it’s on my schedule.  So when Friday rolls around, my acronym is more like: GUFF… “Gear Up For Friday”.  Because from the minute Josh hits the door until he gets on the bus Monday Morning, we’re pretty kid-centered around here.

So, that said, my weekend is going to be busy.  We’re hoping to hit the “Lollipop Concert and Instrument Petting Zoo” at the Library on Saturday morning.  The Waterloo Symphony hosts these periodic free concerts usually near their HQ, but this time, they’re on the road.  Each one is hosted by a different ensemble – this weekend, it’s the string quartet, but Josh’s favorite is the percussion – and they put on a short concert for the kids.  They use lively music that engages the audience, and often encourage the kids to come up and dance.  Before or after the concert, there is an “Instrument Petting Zoo”, where they set out a ton of different instruments, and encourage the children to try as many as they’d like.  Ever see a four-year-old try and play a trombone?  Yeah, it’s pretty funny.  But it’s also very, very cool to see their face when they make a good, solid sound on that instrument.  Gets them interested and they just love it.

After the Petting Zoo, I expect to get a phone call from our Cub Scout Pack’s “Popcorn Kernel”, telling me that our Den’s order has been received and is ready for me to pick it up.  And then I will spend the rest of the weekend sorting, organizing, and delivering tubs and cans of popcorn.

And then?

On Sunday…

THE BEARS WILL BEAT THE VIKINGS

Have a great weekend, everyone!  What are you up to?

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38 Responses to TGIF!

  1. Joy says:

    I’m a guff person too. I’ll be back tomorrow but I needed to clarify one thing. I think it’s a typo but it says this “THE BEARS WILL BEAT THE VIKINGS.” I think you have that backwards!!!

  2. Sue says:

    Oh boy…this is gonna be a long weekend with you two starting already!

  3. Laura says:

    Steve says: You’re right, Joy… it IS a typo. It *should* read…. “The Bears will beat the ViQUEENS”

  4. SKL says:

    Okay ladies, don’t sacrifice your friendship over a bunch of sweaty, smelly men! It’s not worth it!

    I was looking forward to this post because I feel like blabbing a little. Today I went to the doctor for the itchy rash (I just couldn’t deal with that all weekend, with my kids’ baptism coming up, and besides, I’m getting basically no work done and hating everyone all day). So as expected, the doc doesn’t see any evidence of a bug causing it, and I say I think it’s a combination of stress and a reaction to some cleaners/chemicals. He asks me what kind of stress I have in my life, and I start blabbing. Call me weird, but that felt so good. Poor guy, though. After today, I’m convinced he is the best doctor ever. He did prescribe a couple of meds and assured me I’d feel better in a day or two. I really need him to be right about that.

    The last time I had this kind of problem, it made me seriously re-evaluate my life’s priorities. (I couldn’t do anything else, as I had to sit, scantily clad, in a position that involved zero contact with most body parts – forget sleeping, reading, visiting, and certainly working. I didn’t wait for it to get that bad this time.) The outcome of that last reassessment was that I gave my notice at work (which was not accepted), and told them very clearly what I would no longer put up with. They listened, temporarily at least. And I stressed a lot less about many things.

    So anyhoo, it’s re-assessment time again. My life has changed so much in the last five years, and while most of the old stressors are gone, I picked up lots of new ones. Some inevitable, some unnecessary. I need to weed out the unnecessary ones. And at work, I have to figure out how to focus better so at the end of the day, I’m proud to state what I’ve accomplished, not stressed about going off the clock. I am committed to buy less snacky food and give sleep a higher priority. I also need to figure out how to be a more positive person all-around. Does all that seem like a lot? Who knows how long it will take, but I can’t be knocked flat by stress like I was this week. So, wish me luck.

    I don’t have too much else to report, since I spent most of the week lying in bed or scratching. The girls had a pretty good week, especially considering the effects of my illness (impatience / bitchiness) and our additional houseguest. On Tuesday we dropped off those donations and I had a nice chat with the charity official, who is also an international adoptee. I think she likes to see my girls and it inspires her to think about her home country and what she can do. I helped her look into adoption from there and now she is investigating charity opportunities (and I may be able to help her with that as my ex-nanny is from there, too). So hopefully that will plant some seeds, while at the same time, my kids are developing an early understanding of charity. Hopefully next year the three of us will work on a hands-on volunteer project with the organization.

    So I keep seeing that this month is adoption awareness month, and some bloggers I visit have posted some rather heart-wrenching stuff on their blog. Also, that charity official would love it if she could convince me to be a foster mom (or foster-to-adopt). I have to be honest and say that there is probably a lot more I could do. I do donate to several charities that care for orphans and foster kids, and obviously I did adopt a couple of kids, but when I see photos of kids sitting naked in relative filth because they don’t have parents, I can’t help feeling guilty. I really don’t know what else I’m called to do at this point, though. I guess my first order of business is to get my house in order and just keep my ears and heart open. And “never say never.” How about you all – do you ever wonder if you’re called to help orphans in some specific way?

    • mssc54 says:

      Adoption isn’t for sissies that’s one thing for dang sure!! The whole process is soooo daunting. It’s almost as if they are saying. “I dare you to make it through this!”

      But in the end we adopt not for the bureaucrat but rather for what we can do for the children.

      Honestly though, I do not feel the least bit guilty when I see those TV ads or ride by our local orphanage (there is one about 5 or 6 miles from our home).

      I just try to be sensative to the voice of the Lord and everything else seems to fall into place.

    • Joy says:

      I sure hope you’re feeling better today. What a crappy thing to have. I can’t imagine that itching. Here I thought my skin was sensitive! You have me beat.

      I never really gave a whole lot of thought to adoption and I’ll admit when I see those ads, I do feel really bad but I had two kids and it’s all we wanted and we wanted to do the best for the kids we had.

      I guess I feel that you do what you have to do or what you want to do. I could love any child that had my blood or not. That has nothing to do with parenting in my book so that’s not what I mean. I think you have to adopt because you feel it in your heart and not the sight of something. You should fall in love with that child and not adopt because you feel guilty or I feel the child might feel that.

      What I’m feeling is hard to put into words but you can’t always save the world and do a good job. Sometimes you can only do what you can do and try to save it one child at a time. Does that make sense?

      • SKL says:

        Thing about adoption is, I think I might do the foster-to-adopt or some such if I was in a different living situation. As in, no other adults in the house (who aren’t like-minded). Of course, now that I have little girls, I would have to be careful since most of the kids in question are older and have been abused. So that might bring some issues into my girls’ lives that would not be fair to them. Maybe I am just letting my mind wander a little too freely.

        I know adoption isn’t for everyone, and I don’t like the way some people push it on everyone. So I hope it didn’t sound like I was doing that. I think we’re called to take care of orphans, but that doesn’t necessarily mean “adopt” them. It could mean advocating for them, supporting another adoptive family, volunteering to show them you see them as valuable people, donating, whatever.

        One of the things that surprised me once I got into this world was how common adoption really is. Something like 2.5% of American kids are adopted, i.e., one of every forty. So just being sensitive to the fact that your kid’s friend might be an adoptee can make a difference. And treating someone’s adoption with the same positivity as a biological birth. Not “oh, sorry you couldn’t have your ‘own’ kids,” not “wow, you’re brave,” and not “you’re doing this child such a big favor.” These may seem obvious in this day and age, but there are folks who still say some pretty foolish/hurtful things, sometimes in front of the kids.

    • mssc54 says:

      I JUST saw this on one of my Fb friends status updates.

      “Handle stress just like a dog does. If you can’t eat it or play with it. Just pee on it and walk away!!!! Happy Friday to you all!!!!”

      Give that a try and let me know how it works. 😉

  5. mssc54 says:

    “Ever see a four-year-old try and play a trombone?” How big is the spit reservoir in a trombone? lol

    This week has been a little different for me. The kids (1st & 3rd) grade got into a little arguement one morning about how they were going to get to school. They take turns choosing either walking or riding their bikes (we live less than 300yards from the school). So, anyway our daughter wanted to ride bikes. However, she has a tendancy to just shoot off down the street and leave her little brother behind. I explained to her that she could not do that because it was not safe for him (being so young/small) to ride by himself. “But he’s on his bike.” Yes, but someone can still grab him off his bike and wouldn’t you feel bad if something happened to him? “Fine! I’ll walk.” By the time they got to school he had (according to her) made her angry. So much so that she pushed him down. TWICE!! Well that pretty much set the tone for his day. With his history of abuse from his birth family, diagnosis of behavioral disorder, etc. it was just more than he could or was willing to overcome.

    I got he first phone call from the Assistant Principal just after 8. Heck school doesn’t even begin until 8:10! The boy was upset and dirty could I come to school and meet with them and bring clean clothes. After that meeting things seemed better but I could tell that he was still struggling. I wasn’t home two minutes before I received the second call. Now he was refusing to go into his classroom. Back I go to the school. I walk in the door and see him down the hall sitting against the wall outside of his classroom in his “pouting position.” The Assistant Principal actually told me that they were short handed that day and she didn’t have time to deal with him that I would have to just take him home. I told her that taking him home would just give him what he was after. So she decided we could do “Shared Responsibility.” I stayed with him in his class for about an hour and he really seemed to be “back on track” as he likes to put it. I mean he was smiling, laughing and participating properly. So I came on home. About 11 was when I received the THIRD CALL!! There was a problem in computer lab and he was not cooperating. I would need to come and get him. So our little six year old was suspended for the day.

    I looked at the Disciplinary Referral Form and it says that the first incident began when he refused to eat his breakfast and pushed his tray away. WHAT? He wasn’t even in the cafeteria AND they eat breakfast at home! So we are in the process of sorting that all our now. I do expect him to be heald accountable for his behavior but do NOT try to say he did something “agressive” when his behavior was really just being “withdrawn” and pouting.

    These school administrators need to figure out that I’m not one of their first time around twenty something parents! 🙂

    • Joy says:

      I feel just horrible for Porter. Really. It is truly a crappy way to start the day and I’m one of “those” people who hate to start my day with unexpected things. I need to sit, think, have my coffee until those cobwebs dissolve on their own.

      I can also see the sister doing this. Sometimes I was so nasty to my little brother an I see it in others and it’s tough sometimes because boys tend to be louder and then the girls just stand back an smirk while the little brother gets in trouble that was pretty much mostly her fault. Or her lack of compassion.

      I spent MANY days with my youngest child fighting the school but like this instance, sometimes they just did some stupid things to me and some were outright lies. Like the whole “eating in the cafeteria” when he wasn’t even there. It was like that woman in charge was saying “don’t bother me I’m short handed” but EXCUSE ME, it’s your job. These are kids not lamps or a piece of furniture and they are really loved by real people.

      DON’T EVEN GET ME STARTED!

      Please keep on the schools ass. Porter has already paid for it. I also hate when kids get punished for things 18 times. Punish the kid and be done with it and move on to the next thing. We’re adults and if we can’t wipe the slate clean we maybe should be in another line of work and not be with children all day. I get so tired of all the crankpots.

      • mssc54 says:

        Joy, I try to be pretty conscious about making the kids pay twice with regards to “punishment.” However, the rule if they get in trouble at school… our little guy will tell you, “Good behavior, good consequencwes; bad behavior, bad consequences.” So when they get into trouble at school there is a price to pay at home too. But once it’s done, it’s done, we don’t drag it out.

        In fact I get to take him to sit in a deer stand with me this evening! That is a huge privilage!

    • SKL says:

      Out come the bear claws! It’s good that you are so close to the school and have the opportunity to talk through issues. Poor little boy. But on the positive side, he probably doesn’t understand exactly what they are accusing him of, and will probably get over it as soon as everyone else starts treating him normally (and he works out whatever the underlying issue was). Good luck!

  6. Nikki says:

    Oh Laura, that is the funniest JOKE I have ever heard! The Bears beating the Vikings!!! Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed???? That is sooo backwards! 😉 ps, it’s going to be one hell-of-a great game!

    Well Bailey had a sleep over last night, and they were bright eyed and bushy tailed at 6am this morning! LOL I took Bailey shopping last night for food and snacks, and I’m glad I did. I don’t know how we could ever afford two kids, certainly not two boys! They can eat!

    The weekends are different for me too, Laura. Being a SAHM, and working from home (but not for too much longer;) I spend Fridays gearing up for the weekend also. Making sure the house is very clean, laundry done. That way I don’t have to worry about it when the boys are home. I don’t waste a second when they are home. Cleaning while they are home, to me is wasting the time I could be spending with them.

    Saturday, I am going to a church sale/arts and crafts fair/baked goods sale with Jason’s grandma. I think my mom is going also. Something to do! 🙂 Then Sunday, of course we’ll be watching THE VIKINGS BEAT THE BEARS!!!!!

    • Joy says:

      What do you mean “not for much longer?” What’s up with Lily? I just talked to my mom and she has a really bad cold and may not go tomorrow. *you can breathe now*

      • Nikki says:

        LOL good to know…as for my job, I have been given a lead on a job at Kids Haven, a daycare center in town! 🙂 I just need a car, and the job is practically mine. I’m SO excited!

      • Joy says:

        Nikki, that’s awesome. How does the car situation look?

        • Nikki says:

          Well some of our car money has been spent on bills…so we’re trying to rebuild it. Soon I hope, and if I get this job, Josh is out, and we’re staying here by ourselves. We’ll be able to afford it. 🙂 I don’t want to move, so I am willing to do whatever it takes!

  7. starlaschat says:

    I just wanted you to know I’m taking a Short blogging break probably only a week or two probably 2 weeks if I can manage to stay away. I’d like to rest my back and shoulder and swim to see if I can change things. Trying to take a little action on things. :+) I’ll let you guys know when I’m back you’ll see my little red box, gee you’d think I’d change that some time oh well. I can hear you guys going back and forth Vikes! no Bears! no Vikes! keep it fair one more Bears! Let see that’s 2 Vikes 2 Bears. You guys are funny. I’m looking forward to watching the Grizzlies and Bobcats to local Montana teams. I’m for the Grizzlies. Talk to you soon.

  8. SKL says:

    I think a message got lost in cyberspace again…

  9. LVISS says:

    Recently I came across a blond joke . A blond has TGIF written in the front side of the shoes. When asked what it means she said “Toes Go In First “

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