I was over at Mom Logic reading one day and was thinking back to when my kids were younger and they still liked to make things for people. Bookmarks or play-dough pots or pop-cycle stick picture frames and I remember how much fun they had doing that.
As they got a little older they liked to go to the dime store and pick out cute things for the grandparents, Paul and I and for each other. The middle school they went to had a Christmas Village thing that the PTO did where they could buy cute small gifts for mom and dad and siblings. They loved that too. Then I remember when I did it for my uncles and grandparents at the farm and I had so much fun doing that.
Just like at Mom Logic, the items we picked out were very simple but very meaningful. Combs, pocket mirrors, after shave in the shape of a boot, purse items like those fold up rain hats. Anyone remember those? Everyone I gave my gifts to just raved over them. I paid for my kids gifts until they wanted to do it on their own but I don’t remember when that was or how it worked. Both my boys did odd jobs for money at a very early age. They had 2 uncles very close by who they did odd jobs for so I’m guessing by 10 or so, they were doing their gift buying on their own.
A few weeks ago I had all 3 of my grandkids with me shopping and I let them do the same. Pick out gifts for mom and dad and they had so much fun doing that and it made me wonder who still does this? Those kids were so excited and they felt so proud and the story at Mom Logic made me wonder who still let their kids pick out stuff for grandma and grandpa or that favorite aunt or teacher. It’s not the same when mom picks out the gifts. It feels good for them do do it on their own but I know sometimes that’s hard to do.
I thought of something else. At what age do you think parents stop putting their kids names on the Christmas or holiday cards they send. I know Paul has an aunt who’s near 90 and she still puts her single son’s name on the Christmas cards and each year we all laugh about it. Do you feel the card comes from the house or the people? I guess I put my boys names on the cards until they didn’t live here anymore but both of them had their own homes in their early 20’s so I don’t know what people do now.
One more question. Do you draw names in your family? Extended or otherwise? How do you work that? Does everyone buy for the kids until a certain age? The Erickson’s all drew names when they turned 18 but everyone bought for the kids. I personally like buying for everyone and I really tried to fight the name drawing. I understand it’s easier but I enjoyed it. In my own family there was only my brother and I and our kids so it didn’t make sense to draw names as we would have still been buying the same amount but Paul had 4 other siblings so I know it got harder as they all grew up and had kids.
How does your family do these things?