Do you usually say what you really think or what you think other people want to hear?
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I say what I think with respect to whoever I’m talking to. I don’t like saying what everyone wants to hear b/c to me that’s being fake and I can’t stand when people do that to me. I am adult enough to take others opinions and criticisms. I also have the right to voice my opinions whether they are different from yours or not without being ridiculed for such.
I totally agree. I try to be respectful and kind when I say what I think, but sometimes, people still get offended. I never intent to do that, so then I explain, but that is actually not fair to myself, the other person choose to feel offended.
I like to think that people want to hear what I am thinking!
I used to be a real “yes man”. I never said what I really thought because I was always afraid of offending someone, losing friends, etc. And it made me fat. Honestly… I never said what I wanted, and I would just go home and eat my emotions. Muttering all the while about how I shoulda said this, and I shoulda said that. Not because I said something else, but because I never said anything.
I’m getting better. I still tend to bite my tongue WAY more than I should, but honestly, this whole internet thing has taught me how to say stuff. And I say WAY more on the internet than I ever would in ‘real life’. Mostly because I write better than I talk – when you write stuff, you can go back and proofread. There’s no “delete” button in verbal conversation!
I do both. Depending on the situation and whom its with
In speaking, mostly I just keep quiet because I don’t want to get into an argument. If I must put in my two cents worth, I will try to think of a way to coolly indicate my position without cutting anyone else’s down. I won’t lie to save someone’s feelings.
Like Laura, I’m a lot more articulate in writing than speaking. (Also more brash.)
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It depends on the situation.
I do both. For example I was talking with one of my sisters this past week, and she was telling me all about these wedding plans she has and how excited she is. Well I know it probably won’t happen, even his parents have told her not to marry their son because he isn’t ready and it will end bad. I know this, but I let her dream, I let her be excited. Who am I to say she shouldn’t be wasting her time. Although she never asked for my opinion anyway.
Sometimes I think it is best to keep my opinion to myself. Unless I am straight out asked for my honest opinion, I tend to be quiet. I don’t like when people rain on my parade, and I don’t want to be that person either.
It really boils down to the person, the topic, and if I am even asked for my opinion.
It also depends for me too. I usually say what I think people expect and want me to say or what I think is the right thing to say. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten a little more self confidant and not as afraid that someone won’t like me if I’m assertive.
I have a post ready for this subject actually so I’m not going to say too much right now. This question is a coincidence but I do feel telling the truth and telling things exactly the way they are isn’t always the kind thing to do.
I agree with you Joy.I am the same way.
Sorry I havent been on here for awhile,I do miss it.My computer is old and very slow.Even on facebook or my hotmail account,my computer freezes and I have to start all over.So I get frustrated and walk away.Facebook I can stay on longest,but I cannot look at too many pics as it will freeze on me.My new years goal is to save for a new one.
It’s sure nice to see you and I’ve missed having you here. I hope you can get a new computer. I know how that stinks when they don’t work right. I just had to get a new one myself.
I have a friend who will make “I agree” type comments even though I know her true opinion is the opposite. (Like when someone from the “other side” brings up politics.) She refers to it as being open-minded and acknowledging that both sides have valid points. I see it as pandering. But whatever. That’s her business. I couldn’t do that even if I thought it was a good idea.
I have to admit… as I get older, I have a lot more “well, crap, did I say that out loud???” moments…
When it happens, it’s usually a smart-ass remark that just cracks me up, but often isn’t so funny to the other person. oops…
Laura, we all have moments like that, and if someone chooses to get offended, it’s their issue,not ours. Also, there’s nothing wrong with having a quick wit! Be who you are. You’re darn near perfect!
As kids, we were taught to express our opinions when asked. My theory, as an adult, is to kindly and tactfully give an hones answer. The rest of my family is the same way, so if someone doesn’t want to hear the truth, they shouldn’t ask us! Even in general conversation, I do my best to be true to who I am and what I believe. The key words here are ” tactfully and kindly”. Although I admit that my idiosyncratic sense of humor isn’t always understood by others, and a lot of people just don’t get it, but they don’t get offended either thankfully.